Does religion really matter when finding a partner??

No, it doesn't really matter as long as you both have fear in God and you believe that there is a God. Religions were just built by us. Of course, this might lead to a confusion to the kids but if you both explain to them what really matters (that there is only one God but have different names with different religions) then it might give them more knowledge and more wise in their chosen belief.

Yes you are correct, I'm a pentecostal by faith and we're not allowed to marry or date outside our faith. Truth be told I found it rather extreme and so a few times I ventured to date outside of my faith. It turned out to be a catastrophe. People of two different faiths tend to hold different ideals,and views and that conflict alone would prevent them from even reaching the altar, as was my case a number of times. I've heard of individuals who were of different faiths and got married and their marriage worked out, but it very rarely happens. At this stage in my life I would rather date and marry someone who is of the same faith as I am. In addition to the fact that we will be on the same wave length, our children won't have to grow up conflicted because their parents are from different faiths.

It's been a long time since I thought about this. I remember years ago there were some very strict rules regarding mixed marriages. This was in the churches and about religion, not race. Now, at leasst in the USA it's so easy to get married and of course religion need not enter into it at all. Hubby and I have been married over 50 years and while he is a very strict Christian, I am not Christian at all. It really never is a problem, when he need me to go to church for family events, I go, I totally respect others beliefs. And when ever the subject comes up he does not argue with me about my beliefs. WE love each other and allow the differences between us to exist as part of each of us.

Not to me. Unless they are an extremist in some religion, and by extremist I mean actually go to church every Sunday. I wouldn't be able to do it. I am personally agnostic leaning more to the atheist side, I have never been baptised and never really been a 'believer'. Which is fine, and I don't judge people who do believe of course, unless they start acting different around me or try to 'convert me'. (In which case I lose respect for them). It seems as though a lot of people are 'casual believers'. Such as, they only go to church on national holidays like Christmas & Easter. I could handle that for sure. What I probably couldn't handle is someone who is for example a Pastor, or someone who seems to devote their lives to God or the church. I don't think I could handle that to be honest. We would just be too different of people.

I'm not really concerned of religion to find my partner.I believe it makes two to build the relationship as long as you both in fear with God and that is what matters most. When speak about love even partners belong to different belief it will surely be united in one God.

My mother is Presbyterian, my stepfather a Catholic. It caused hell on earth in our household when I was growing up. I am a Presbyterian (although not practicing) and my man is a Catholic (also not practicing) and we suffer from no problems. Obviously the fact that we are not church goers or avid organised religion followers helps. Here it is tradition for the couple to marry in the woman's church, my man has no problem with that. I asked him one day what religion he would prefer a child to be baptised and he said 'Catholic', with which I had no dispute. As far as I'm concerned, a Christian is a Christian and a person is a person. My children will be raised with the values of being a good human, not based on religion but at the same time based on the values in the 10 commandments (that may sound hypocritical, but I reckon they're a good set of rules). They will be raised learning about the different religions 'available' and if a specific one of those makes the most sense with them or pulls their faith towards them, then I will support that decision when they are old enough to choose for themselves. I don't believe that a difference in religion should make a difference in a relationship if either person is open minded.

I believe it is very important to choose someone in your own belief.

It is hard for a person to stay true to their religion when their partner is of a different religion or none at all. When they are of different religions, they can be torn apart and the children confused. If one partner is of no paretic ular religion, h e or she will resent the time and money the partner spends in behalf of religion.

I think if a person would rather have their religion than their partner then so be it. Churches, to me, aren't Gods will anyway. It is the peoples. Religion and your relationship with your God is a personal thing and it is sad when the church gets in the way. They should help you, not hender you.

from experience (not mine), it could work out. both were catholics when they got married. but somewhere along the way, the husband felt it is not his religion. so he went to find it and when he did, he got baptised and became a muslim. i was already thinking then, they will not do well. but they are as i see, for 14 years now, still great together. the only think i find lonely is, the kids and the wife go to the church on sundays while the man goes to his church on fridays. but after that, they are back together and they do what happy family does. so, yes, i say it is no big deal as long as you love each other and respect each other's beliefs.

Who is interested in a church at all? A marriage over there doesn't even count for law. This besides of the facts that this " idea" already exist in many countries since ages, in some countries/cultures people don't care and in other countries one of the partners (mostly the woman since men seldom give up anything in name of love) is changing of religion. So in the end the church gets what it wants and no it doesn't matter what religion you have since you can change it any moment or decide not to get married in church at all. I personally don't care. My granny said it won't work if people have a different religion (there is a dutch saying: 2 different religions sleeping on a pillow there is the devil in between). My friends all have all kind of different religions so has my family. My husband (suddenly) became catholic for what it's worth because he likes the preaching more.. but he still has his african believe as well (so how religious can one be?), my best friend is Jehova witness, the other one is like me. My kids are free to believe what they want or not, although I already know most of them are like me. Might be I am lucky because I live in a country where religion is not important anymore and already was on it's way back since 1960. We don't need anyone else to tell us what is good or right and probably are too open and also quetions too much what is preached by so called leaders of the church who love power, holy wars, richdom way more as being a good person, humbility and loving and helping out their neighbours.

For me,is better that my partner is same with me.Like i am believer who does believed God and been faithful and serve God and that is God's will to serve Him. As for God's child,He wants also that my partner be in the will of God like same believer to God so if we married we know each other and understand about if there is things come up,we both come to God and help each other and to have family maturity.. Religions does not base on marriage but for me it is base on if you are True believer Christian ,your partner should be in God's hand so in the future there is no big problem and no regrets..For other people i am sure does not matter to them..

There are lot of people that debating about this matter but for me, it is not so important as long as both of you understand each other and love each other. I'm married now and me and my partner have different religion. Our religion don't allow us to get married to the person that has different religion so our solution is civil marriage.

It would not matter from what religion I choose a partner from but there are cults, fake believes in people that I cannot want in my life. If you get a partner from a good religion then I think the church should not refuse to marry them. God is one, some of the religions worship him, and therefore they should support the partners.

To me it doesnt matter what anyones religion is as long as they dont harp on me and try getting me to believe what they believe. So in a relationship as long as I could be me and believe what I want it wouldnt matter to me if they believed something different. When my husband and I were together it did bother me that he didnt believe in god I worried for him about it. We never faught about it though and after we split up I stopped believing in god as well.

It is more of principal for some churches why they do not allow couples of different faith to marry because they will have different belief and the Bible states in Amos 3:3 - "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" So basically it is looked at as can two people to walk together unless they first agree on where they want to go? One person would want to go to a function their church has and the other may want to go to theirs and that can lead to arguments and disagreements etc as to whose functions is more important. Further 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 instructs: “Do not be unequally yoked" which is also taken to be that if you are going to be joined together in marriage to someone you must be equally yoked together in the same beliefs and faith. Hope this shed some insights on your question.

If your a catholic, religion does not matter. For me since I am not a catholic, religion is matter to me because I want to be in the rule of God. This is what is written in the bible and I don't want to break that laws of God, upon his people

well i would like to think that yes is the answer but in some instance if one of you is in church and the other is not one of tow things could i said could happen either you could take them into the church and lead them to God or you could fall out of church and join them and that is what happened to me.. my hubby is not in church and i was and then i stopped and i was miserable and now i go back when i can but hubby still dont and i have learned to not et that affect oru lives as we respect each other he dont tell me not to go to not believe in God and i dont aggrivate him to go to church so it works for us but i do pray silently for him to get GOD in his life.. and know one day God will answer my prayer and until then i still love him as is.. take care its give and take.. if a church wont let you in becasue of that then it is the wrong church for you anyhow..

People keep asking this question. I really think Mylot should make it easier to find previous discussions and stop people from repeatedly asking what is basically the same question. I think it depends what religions you are. There shouldn't be a problem for an Anglican and a Methodist or a Hindu and a Buddhist. A Christian and a Muslim will probably be another matter. It's not just the name on the building where they worship, as there can be serious problems withing a religion or denomination. A liberal Anglican and an charismatic Anglican or a reformed Jew and an ultra-orthadox Jew will probably have problems. I also think it depends on the individuals. I'm a protestant and married a Catholic but we basically believed the same things (she didn't agree with praying to saints etc.) and now we've joined a Messianic congregation. I also think that religiously mixed marriages are more likely to work if the couple don't take their religions very seriously. The trouble is that people can change (I once met a white, English man who complained about his Muslim wife becoming increasingly fundamentalist) but they can also convert to a different religion. Family and friends can also be an issue but that isn't my experience.

Finding partner from the same religion is better. In the married life there are lots of problem arises other than religion, so why we including that topic also in the problems list. For a peaceful marriage life finding partner from the same religion is wise.