Some people are so ignorant its unreal
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
April 11, 2012 5:27pm CST
I can not get over all the things that one person is doing at the moment, knowing that they have no money for food or bills that they have.This person is still blowing money on things that they do not need.It is a fact that this person never has food in her house, instead she knows other people will feed her children and her parents are feeding the children when ever they go to their house, as they know that there is never food in the cupboards where they live.This person is behind with their tv licence payments, water rate payments, rent, council tax constantly, so why keep throwing money away on things that they do not need.She use to blame her other half for spending all the money, now I am thinking they are both as bad as each other.Why do people not think of their children and expect other people to feed them and buy them clothes and other things they need.Wish people would put their children first for a change.
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@marguicha (223129)
• Chile
12 Apr 12
I would not put the blame on the person who buys unneeded things while there´s no food at home. Because there is food at home. Other people are in charge of providing it and, instead of letting this person grow up by cutting the apron strings, they continue to help her. If noone helped them, they´d have to discover a way to do it.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Apr 12
These children are young, as in infants, where they have no money of their own and they are forever scrounging off other people and turning up at peoples houses at meal times.I just feel that if people want their own children, then they should at least provide for them.The parents of these children always have food, like food that go in the microwave, but there have been no bread or anything else for the children to eat.I would go without food myself to ensure my children were all fed.
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@marguicha (223129)
• Chile
12 Apr 12
I have read a lot here about people calling social workers for different reasons. I think this might be a case to be checked by a social worker. If the parents want their own children, as you say, they should provide for them. It would be different f they were out of work.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
They are not out of work at all.I think that there are times where the parents only get take aways for them self and not the children and I have also seen the parents eat in front of the children and the children ask where is there food.Shame really that there are parents like that out there.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
11 Apr 12
Well, when someone finds the answer to this question.....I wish they would tell the rest of us.
This type of thing happens too often, I'm afraid. We keep asking ourselves why.
You cannot help someone who does not want to help themselves....at least that is what I have to keep telling myself.
It really is too bad for the kids though....too bed they have idiots for parents.
Hope I didn't offend anyone.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
12 Apr 12
Are the kids actually starving? I just have to ask this because my OWN kid and some of her friends - who eat plenty every day btw - will sometimes suddenly be 'hungry' at someone's house because they see something that looks yummy lol. There are times at the park right after we had lunch or snacks and they see someone with snacks and they just naturally want some! It's frustrating, I have had to tell plenty of other moms 'you know, we do feed our kids.. I'm sorry they are asking lol'. On the flip side though, if I have extra snacks I am always okay with giving some to another child if their mom or dad say it's okay.
I also had to have a talk with them about NOT accepting anything from strangers without it going through mommy. I think it's a little creepy when some stranger wants to buy my daughter a package of cookies or a candy bar or something.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
No these children are just not given meals.Instead they are dragged around to friends houses saying that they have no had food and they know their mum will not cook for them.I feel really sorry for the children, as the parents are so selfish.I feel that it has been like this for some time and the dad always gets him self either chips on his way home from work or another type of take away.I know also in the past the kids were only given crisps or choc bar, not as a snack, but instead of a meal.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Apr 12
You are right there, I feel sorry for the children along with other parents that these parents should get their act together and put other things as a priority.All you hear is Im hungry when the children have been in other peoples houses, makes you think how lucky these kids must feel when other people feed them.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Apr 12
Ohh i would say this is not being ignorant. she perfectly knows what she is doing but she choses not to do the right thing.... and the right thing here is that they have to prioritize the food for the children, basic needs first before they choose to avail of the stuffs they can do away with.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
I think that you are right.I also think that these so called parents are the ones that expect others to feed their children.I feel that things will never change with the way the parents are, as they put their needs in front of their childrens, like for a start the children see their parents having a take away, yet they do not get any of it.The father comes home from work and heats a meal up in the micro wave yet they never get a meal like that either.
@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Apr 12
I hear ya! I can remember so many times I have THOUGHT about just throwing some money away on some trivial thing. But I never have. I think sometimes people try and it (the bills and responsibilities)becomes too overwhelming and they need help. Their pride won't let them ask for help(or they may be afraid of confrontations) so they just give up. Sad. I wonder if this person's family and/or friends have thought about having a meeting with them about this. An intervention. Once things get out of control it is very hard to get back on track without help. And that means help from friends, family and bill consolidation places.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Apr 12
This person never listens to anyone and to be honest in the past they got themself in a right muddle and I can see that sooner or later they will not be able to catch up on all the bills that they owe on and will have the bailiffs calling at their house.I just feel sorry for the children.The amount of money that they waste on things that are not really needed, could be spent on things like food as well as a holiday for the children, rather than the rubbish they buy.A few of us have come to the conclusion that some people just can not be helped no matter what.
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@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Apr 12
It's sad but very true. And the kids usually end up taking the worst of it.
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
13 Jun 12
Hello my friend jugsjugs Ji,
You are very much right, such characters compare themselves with others, We too have our elder DIL of this kind, but Alas! we can never help her. It is her nature.Please suggest something.
May God bless You and have a great 
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
14 Aug 12
Hello my friend jugsjugs Ji,
Well, I understand your feelings for all children around you. We too are no exceptions, everyday we observe such things starting from my own family. Children are neglected for want of their happiness. Now-a-days life style is very much responsible. Parents do not have anytime for them.
May God bless You and have a great time
@jugsjugs (12967)
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13 Aug 12
I feel sorry for the children, as they are the ones that are suffering due to their parents.I feel that these people will also always be the same no matter what they do.
It is a shame, as the children have done nothing wrong to deserve to be treated like this at all, yet they have to take the burden, due to their selfish parents.
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@fashionfever (2200)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 12
Yes, there are people who likes to spend money for luxury things when they dont even have the money to buy food or pay their bills. When they are run out of money and their children are starving they would beg other people to borrow them some money, they will use excuse that their childreen needs food. And when they dont get the loan they would blame other people for not helping or caring their situation, well i know this kind of person and I try so hard to stay away from her. This person will just ask us to give loan to her and when she has the money she would be busy making a list on what kind of luxury she can have, want to buy this want to buy that. Well...dont help this kind of person because the person will depend on other people to feed their children, or expect the other to come to save their financial problem.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
I think that until people start to learn the hard way, they never seem to learn at all.I just hate to see people lose their houses or worse still their children.I feel that some people will never change and will always put them self first rather than their children.This person will always depend on others, but I know for a fact that people have had enough of all the times the children turn up expecting a meal or at weekends meals as in more than one.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Apr 12
haha, they are taking other people's kindness to them, for granted. If they were to carry on their way of spending money on unnecessary things, they will regret one day. By then they would lose all kindness from friends and relatives or whoever is helping them. I'm sure the kids know it and they can feel it. I hate irresponsible people like them as they dunno how to control their spendings, especially when they ough to pay what's owed instead of on themselves, their 'luxury" 
@jugsjugs (12967)
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13 Aug 12
Sometimes I use to feel sorry for them, but looking at just what they buy, also how often they seem to waste money, I do not feel at all sorry for them.
Thinking about the children, as well as all the people that they scronge to, now these are the people that I feel sorry for, as it is none of their faults.
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
16 Apr 12
Since you said that her parents take care of the children, it is probably that she was raised in that way, with no responsibilities, and not assuming her own life. I guess that this type of people does not change, unless they go through very rough times, when she has to take care of her own life, and they finally regret all the wasted time and money. As extrange as it sounds, maybe she even rationalize in her mind that other people should take care for her, to avoid her own responsibility.
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
2 Aug 12
Is very hard, indeed, but I hope one day, she will be able to stand on ther own feet. And you are right, parents play a huge roll in the way their children will take care of their own lifes, one day.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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2 Aug 12
I do not think that she will ever be able to stand on her own to feet when something happens to her parents.I think that I am really pleased that both my parents made me stand on my own two feet, as I know that I can cope with no help, when it comes to getting prioritys right.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Apr 12
It always bothers me when I see stuff like that. It makes me wonder what the children are going to be like when they grow up. I wonder if it will be a circle thing and the children will end up depending on the parents that used to depend on others...they will be in trouble then.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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13 Aug 12
I feel that maybe these children, like you say, will also end up doing what their parents have done.I feel that other people that they know also are the same as them and maybe they are all trying to keep up with buying all these things.I do feel sorry for the children, but I also feel sorry for the people that the family scronge off.
@alicia812 (646)
• Australia
8 May 12
People like this are plain selfish and irresponsible. Their
Priorities are themselves and not their children. I do not
want to be judgmental, this is just my honest observation.
Sad to say that there are lots of parents like this that I
encountered myself.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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13 Aug 12
You are right that they are irresponsible and selfish.I have found a few parents like that out there, as well as the ones that rely on others to look after their children all the time, as well as feed them.
If people have children, then they should at least look after as well as provide for them.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 Apr 12
Right now, what you've described is exactly where I am with my husband. You see, he has developed a problem with prescription pain killers and he has been blowing amounts of money that are absolutely outrageous.
With that said, I've decided to start taking everything in my hands. I've told him that he is not to spend any money without my permission. He is also not allowed to go to the store or anything like this.
I know that his problem needs more than just me controlling the finances, but you have to start somewhere.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
I have had to cut down on things in the past, but no once have my children ever gone with out.I would never deprive a child of food and just like you I make ends meet.I feel sorry for people that have to feed their children, as it is not like these people that are feeding other peoples children can afford it.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
17 Apr 12
Unfortunately, some people grow up without learning responsibility. Granted that this could be their parents fault, but one should also realize that there are consequences for every action that they make.
And blowing their money for unneeded things when there are mouths to feed at home is not being very responsible.
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
14 May 12
Well, some people are just like that. Maybe people has to stop feeding their children to teach the parent to start responsible for their children. I know it's hard when dealing with children, we cannot let the children suffer and get hungry. I don't know, maybe we need to report them to the social authority? Or maybe that is a bad way as the children will suffer more being separated from the parents. Argh, I just want to live a simple life...
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
25 Jul 12
Sometimes it is deliberate because such a person has her parents to feed the children on her behalf. It is mere neglect. The part where they borrow money to buy less important stuff is very irritating. For me, instead for giving her the money, I would feed the kids and let her find help elsewhere.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
13 Apr 12
I think when people act like that they are free loaders! They only care about themselves and have gottan friends/family to feel sorry for them so they will help them out! Like this couple! At least with the food for their kids! What I also hate is the kids are ignored or neglected or abused. You think social services would investigate and maybe take awy the kids away if these situation is so bad! Whatever the reason mom and dad need an attitude adjustment and to start living in the real world! Time to grow up for those tow fee loaders!
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
You are right that they are free loaders and if these people hear of others that are getting this for free, then they try to copy as well.I feel sorry that they do not feed their children, but why do they expect others to feed the children or why do they just feed them self and not the children.
@much2say (55669)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Apr 12
Wow - that person sounds like they need to get their priorities straight! Food is a basic necessity - no fooling with that. It is a parent's responsibility to feed their children period - but taking advantage of others is not the way to do it. Makes you wonder why people have children in the first place if they going to do everything in their power to take care of them!!! Very sad for the children.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
Food and bills come before anything else.I feel that perhaps the parents should go with out food and let their children eat.I hate to hear from people that these children are making sure that they turn up at meal times at other peoples houses, as we all know that there are lots of people that will offer the children food.I hate to think that sometimes there is no break fast or milk to have on their break fast, or that there is a small amount and the father will not let the children have any as he wants it.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
There are people who only depends on other people and are so irresponsible. I think these persons do not know how to prioritize their needs. Sometimes it is the fault of the people helping them. Maybe they have to teach these person a lesson by not providing help anymore or instead of giving aid directly to them, they should teach this person how to prioritize their needs.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
I know that there are a few people that do not feed the children any more and to be honest can you blame them.I feel that the parents should go without a few meals and see what it feels like for their children.My children have never gone with out a meal, unless they are ill and can not eat.I hate seeing parents that do not watch out for the children that they have and use them as a show piece.
@joystick (1675)
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14 Apr 12
I know what you mean.I use to see this all the time, from two of my so called friends, they are just as bad now.People like this get behind on their bills and then ask if they can pay the company that they owe an extra £10 per week until they have caught up, rent is the usual one along with the council tax and then the water rates.I know that a lot of councils are getting fed up of the same people doing this all the time and in the end these people are asked to go onto a short hold tenancy, which means the council then have the right to evict them when they get behind again.Some people think that if they have children then they can not be evicted, but we know that this is not true.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
I think a company that says pay an extra tena on their bills until they catch up is silly, as if they can not pay the proper amount how do they think they are going to pay any extra on top.I also know that there are a few of the places that are now not bothering asking for extra, but they do tend to just kick people out after taking them to court.The sad thing is when you know the parents are eating yet their children are not having anything, unless some one else feeds them.
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
12 Apr 12
There are some people out there who just don't deserve to be parents and this woman is obviously one of them. I am not one for saying that people should have their kids taken away but those kids deserve a parent who would put them first and at least have food in the house.
It seems like there is always an extreme when it comes to parenthood. Either the parent does what she is doing or the parent does nothing for themselves causing some depression with the parent.
This person seems like she doesn't want to have responsibility and would prefer just to buy things she thinks she needs because she wants them.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Apr 12
I know that both parents blow the money that they have and that they will always have money to buy them self something, but never the children.It pains me to see as well as hear that things have not changed for over two years to do with the way they look after their children.
