Telling the boyfriend of a woman who lives in this house he cannot have beer
By oscarbartoni
@oscarbartoni (2581)
United States
April 11, 2012 11:02pm CST
I own a house and have several other people in my extended family living here. We have rules and one rule is no alcohol is allowed in the house. The boyfriend of one of the younger women had her boyfriend over and he lelft a couple of beers on the counter. I emediatately went out to kindly let him know that beer (and other alcohol (as well as smoking)s not allowed in the houseold. I got holey hell for telling him in frount of other members of the household. Do you tink that I overreacted as owner of the household and the elder in the household? How would you handle this situation if you were in my shoes?
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5 responses
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
27 Jul 12
Telling off a visitor in the presence of other members of the family can be very embarrassing for the visitor. The visitor may be breaking rules that he did not know existed. It is more kind and thoughtful to talk to the person who invited the visitor privately and remind them to let their visitors know the rules before inviting them over.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
13 Apr 12
Hello oscar. When it s your house you get to set the rules. It was the responsibility of the young woman to let her boyfriend know what they are. Since she didn't wnt to let him know them then it was up to you to do it for her. By telling him in front of the other members of the house you reinforced them. I would have done the same thing. Years ago my then husband's brother had a favorite word he liked to use that I hated. Befo0re he came to my house I told him that if he used it in front of me at my home he would have to leave. He came to my house and started using that word and I ask him to leave. He never use that word around me again even at his house. I'm sure that the young man had more respect for you fr being up front with him.
@sirnose (2436)
• United States
12 Apr 12
You did the right thing, you're the owner and they are your rules. If any member of the household can not follow the rules then they should look for another place to stay.
If you hadn't said nothing about it, then you would be wrong in not enforcing the rules of your house.
@Sindrum91 (254)
• United States
13 Apr 12
It's your house, It's your rules. What you say goes. If no one else likes it they don't have to live there. The only thing i may have done differently is approached the Woman who lives there all ready. Who knows the rules. And should have let the boyfriend know that it is not OK to do this. Then if she told me she did. I would have a problem with the gentlemen.
