Do you have any choice?

hi Deepak, we do have choices at all points of life, however if we are destined for something then evidently out of hundreds of choices, we would select the one meant for us. then you can say life is choice-less or it was destined for us I have commerce background. i remember i had a choice to opt for science stream after Xth exams. I had the requisite % to go science stream, however i chose commerce. i guess i was destined this way My school friends all took up science stream and we got separate class rooms, however we maintained contacts and till date my old school friends are in contact with me and they are the only ones i can call friends now. so, i had choice to select friends from my own commerce class, however, it did not happen that way. During my marriage times, i had few proposals. God gave me choice, however i was destined to get married to one specific person and i chose him. however, it does not happen this way always. for parents/kids/career opportunities have limited or no choice at all and things happen as they are destined. We continue to live our life making choices for few and for other things we go with the flow and become spectators.... your take now

Hi dpk, In my belief everybody has a choice it is depend on the person how they handle their choice, but sometimes there are things that is hard to achieve in life because of some hurdle we can't evade. I have no choice because were lack of money, I don't have a choice when I studied the course I don't like, lack of money is the main reason. I don't have a choice right now but to be with my daughter and I can't worked abroad because no one will be with her. Any decision I have now is my choice even though I'm not yet satisfied still I just want what the best for us specially to my daughter. All the reasons behind are only God knows, and I know it has a purpose.

Of course, you have a choice. I beg to differ, I mean that whatever is happening in your life is just your fault. Whatever is happening to me is only my fault and nobody else's. If you just sit back and look, nothing will happen that can change your situation. You have the choice whether to do something or not. If you are thirsty, you have the choice to drink or not to. If you are unsatisfied with your financial status, why not do something about it? If you are not happy with your work because of your boss, why not do something about it? Why don't you have a choice? What do you think is stopping you from doing the things you wish to do? I know I am not happy with my financial situation. I once thought that nothing can change that until I asked myself, "What's stopping me from changing that? I want to be happy with my financial situation, aren't I? So why not do something about it?" I found that the only one stopping me from being happy about that situation is only me. Though I didn't know what to do, I know where to start. And it's with nothing but me, still. I had to learn how to get myself out of the rat race system we have created. From then on, I started to work and I'm working still to get myself to where I want to be. And from my perspective, I'm happier compared to how I was before. So why not do something about your situation? You won't know whether or not you can really change your situation without even trying, right?

Hi dpk!! Hmmmmm - hard to answer!! I feel we do have choices in our life - it's our choice to be productive about it - or not. There are many life occurrences that we cannot control - but perhaps some of them are due to choices we have made in the past that led to it. And perhaps we may not have control of a particular situation, but we have a choice in our attitude towards it. Me personally, if I had the attitude that my destiny is already written or is in the hands of another power - I would not "try" as hard - simply because I would feel that that's the way it is and nothing could be changed. But if I say the choice is mine - then I work harder - knowing that I can make a difference in what happens in my life. That's just me though.

Whatever be at our disposal the ability to face it also goes with it. It is amazing how we can cope with situations thrust on us unprepared though we may be but we face them all the same.

Are you complaining about something here? About not able to change to a better partner? About not able to move resident to a better neighborhood? About not able to change job? I thought you are the one who's always peaceful with whatever you got. I on the other hand would scream or cry first when things don't get my way, and tolerate them later on...

I have a mixed opinion on this. Though I do believe that most of it is our destiny, I also feel that sometimes we are given the choice to better it. Despite my best efforts if things go the way they do, I accept it as God's will and move on. Once I have accepted that I have done the best I can, it's easier for me to accept it as destiny and this is what was meant to be. But without trying to do the best I can, I refuse to believe ONLY on destiny.

this is a hard one. i feel like some things are just stuck with you without you having a choice such as my health problems and i just have to accept it but yet i think im meant for something bigger that ill eventually just figure out. maybe it just depends on the person and their will power to change their power of choice when it comes to stuff you can control. hmm now im gonna be pondering this the rest of the day!

Much in life is destiny. We do have many choices and must weigh the pros and cons on each. SOmetimes we can see signs and go in a certain direction becuase of these. We are all unique and definite individuals. Things we do as children and things that interest us from that time have alot to do with the direction we take in life. Like for me I always liked English, literature and reading ever since I could read. I think meeting my friend Gini and learning about her love of writing and reading her books and ideas planted the seed in me to do the same thing. So I think the friends we have in our early lives may mold us in certain directions too.

Hi dpk there is a time that i feel like i am only a robot which played by a destiny game. I only follow what He told me. I know that i can choose another options but that option doesnt give me a good output just like now...i know that it is my nature to be a mother of my kids. But Sometimes i want to leave this obligation and choose another role. But if i do i guess He will put me in hell cause i dont do what i have supposed to do

Hi deepak! I feel that life is full of things that we can control...but like you said..there are a ton of things that we can't. It does seem as though that certain things and paths are meant to be taken. Sometimes when we try to fight it, it ends up there anyway..lol. I have many experiences where destiny or fate is concerned. One is the very place that I am living now. I was estranged from my family for many years. I came here and moved in to a house that was only a block away from my grandmother's sister. I had no idea. No idea that I had family in the area. My grandmother said that every time she came to visit the state here that she would open the phone book to see if my name was in there...it never was. Then when she came to care for her sister..there was my name..and only a block away! She called me and we spent a wonderful 5 years together before she passed. I was so glad to have a sense of family again for a while.

welli found out the hard way that life is tough but you have to be able to make better choice and see what your life needs to improve, i just recently made changes in all areas of my life, because my old choices that i made got me no where but kept me sad.. so now i do things to better me, and i made that choice to change first i had to accept the things that were wrong in my life and i had to be able to admit when i was wrong, so now i choose to be happy in every situation bad or good and i make the best of each day, i do mylot and a pt job for money and hubby cant be happier.. which he at one time wanted a divorce.. so i think we do have choices in our lives .. as i know i mande many bad.. and ive learned my lesson and am happy to say im enjoying life more and more every day.. take care.

On contrary to your view, I believe we do have a choice in this life. We were given free will and a brilliant mind to decide. To make decisions, in whatever situation we are in. Yes, it is true that some intances are beyond our control but we can alway choose to take the leap and risk everything or to not do anything about it. Even not choosing is a choice. It is a choice to leave it as it is and let the people around you run your life.

One always has a choice. You can say yes or you can say no. I would not take issue with God and say that God is just a mute spectator. YOU decide your life plan. You can choose which way you want to go. You choose your happiness also by staying away from the things which potentially can harm or mislead us. You also choose your friends, your relationships and you can decide how you want to live your life; with or without God. It is not wrong to have these negative feelings sometimes, but snap out of it if it goes on too long. If you need something to inspire you, read Conversations with God or the Bible. I have found it very interesting to read.

As a Zen practitioner, I begin with acceptance of what comes to me in life, then I will focus on it and respond to it. If there is something that can easily be changed, then I will do what it necessary, but if there is nothing, resisting the inevitable will only create stress, so I accept it totally. It is not easy, as it is a challenge because we tend to be geared up to only accept what we like in life. But there are other things too, that we may not like, but if we accept them, we will be learning how to handle them.. _Derek

Actually we have many choices in life..sometimes we choose the bad one, and up with no other choices.. But then again that is life, it is a matter of how we face our choices that molds us to become who we are today. it is a matter of how strong we get.

While I do think that there are many things in life where we don't have any kind of a choice, I also think that there are things that happen in our lives where we do have a choice. An example of something that has happened in my life where I know that I didn't have a choice is the fact that I'm the wife of a cancer patient, I didn't choose that and I definitely know that my husband didn't. On the other hand, where we live is a choice that we were able to make for ourselves. We choose to live in the city that I grew up in because that is where both of our families live.

Hi dpk, Life is all about challenges and so we accept it as and when it comes. I think it gives you opportunities to choose wisely and then decide. Mostly we blame God when we take a wrong decision/ choice (see here you have a choice out of the choice-less situation)LOL. We regret it at a later date thinking it as our fate. Agreed, everything can not be changed around us but we have a choice to try and change ourselves. I share this quote here…… Look back & get Experience! Look Forward & See Hope! Look Around & Find Reality! Look within & Find Your self. Take care Viju

Life has a lot to offer - thats what I believe in. God grant us freedom - but its up to us on which way we should go, good or bad - its our choice. Yeah - sometimes things happen which is beyond our control but it always comes with a reason. Everyday is a day to be thankful for and live it as if its the last, there are a lot of options out there, you just gotta explore, learn, review choices to broaden your horizon.

No, I don't think we have no choices left with as its all gods will. Because, we have the freedom to think and execute it in our own way. It is we who choose to play a role of mute spectators or expressive humans. We have being given a lot of opportunities, weather to correct our past or shape our future, its all in our hands. And if, a mishap takes place, we cannot blame it on god as we all know everything he does is for the welfare of the humans. And if you have many difficulties and you're struggling too hard and yet not able to achieve it, then let me tell you, YOU ARE NOT GIVING YOU'RE 100% because there is a saying right? : If you ever fail in something, do not doubt on gods abilities, its high time to realize that GOD HAS FAITH IN YOUR ABILITIES! :). I might have not convinced most of you. But no offence to any of my contradictory friends. You have all the rights to prove me wrong! :). ^ ( regardless any persons views.)