Giving respect
@polaroidsredwine (509)
United States
April 12, 2012 5:02pm CST
I'm of the firm opinion that when you meet someone it's, of course, courtesy to give them at least a minimum amount of respect, and any further respect I give them is earned (likewise, I'd at least expect people to be similar in their giving of respect to me).
The other day I got into a huge fight with my friend, who I'll deem O, about whether a third party, I'll call L, deserved any respect towards them - in general, L has been a completely rude person to me, flinging all manner of insults at me and basically everyone they've met ever (including haphazardly flinging out c*nt, which personally isn't that offensive of a word to me, but I know others who are deeply troubled by it). I just don't think L deserves any respect from me because of the treatment I've been given by them, and O thinks otherwise and feels perfectly content to sever our friendship because of it.
I really don't know. What do you guys think? Does an overall horrible person deserve to have any respect shown to them or not?
3 responses
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
I'd say its good not to have your Friend O anytime soon.
Seriously. Your relationship with your friend L is not his business. if you don;t agree with each other, it is your friendship or any relationship with L that should matter, not your relationship with O. O can be entitled for a opinion or a perspective but he cannot judge you on the basis of another relationship. I don't why he or she is okay with a friend almost cursing, disrespecting and harassing you most of the time. If he is okay with it, fine. If you aren't it should be fine for O to recognize that you didn't want L as a friend anymore because of his behavior.
I think it is better to sever your ties to both because they truly show what kind of friends or people they are.
@polaroidsredwine (509)
• United States
13 Apr 12
O is kind of a giant bag of sensitivity, so really I'm kind of glad to have him out of my life at this point - it's like every other sentence with him made him burst into an emotional fit, I swear. It's one thing to be sensitive, it's another to make everything into a gigantic pity fest towards you and your problems, you know?
I was really trying to reason with O that L is a person who doesn't need to be in my life or respected, but O just wasn't seeing things my way. I don't think he'd ever listen, really.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
20 Apr 12
I feel the same way as you ... I will be respectful to a person when I meet them, because that is the "right" thing to do, in my opinion. I will not respect someone just because they are older than me or make more money or hold a position of supposed authority (unless I am in a position where this authority is in effect but that does not carry forward into my personal life unless he or she has earned such respect).
I think that if I have given a person respect and he or she has disrespected me, especially if it is a continued thing, then I do not owe that person any amount of respect. If someone does not want to be my friend over this, then that person is really not respecting me, either. I would not try to force my friend to be disrespectful of the other person, and similarly I would not expect them to try to make me be respectful of the other person.
@cyndidaki2871 (83)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
Respect as they say is gain so for you to attain one you should act accordingly as to what the situation requires you to do so.If you are trying to be good likewise you would be treated well but if you would be rude enough you would be rudely treated also, so for you to acquire that right courtesy you let that feeling of consideration dwell within you.
