Living with parents for a married couple..

Personally I think it's not normal to stay with your parents if you get married. But this is because I am raised that way. In my country it's normal you start your own life as soon as you start studying so at the age of 17 or 18 you leave your home. Unless you go to a highschool/university nearby. But still most people leave. As soon as you have a relationship you leave too. The way we raise our kids is in the way they have to leave and start their own lives. We don't let them stay with us or take care of us. Also we don't keep taking care of them for the rest of their lives. This is what your parents do. You say you earn your own income then you should leave. I don't think anyone is able to start a life of his own if the parents stay around and you always have to count your steps. This is what you do. Also your parents should know there will be a day you will leave. Making you stay, interfering in your marriage (which they do) and life (which they also do since you have no privacy) is not the way. I think you should leave. Even if you live next door your life would improve way more. I don't think it's embarassing if you are 18 years old and still live with your parents in the western world (who told you that?) but it is if you are older and have your own family. Only in cases of high financial need you might stay but even then it mostly doesn't work. And I can guarantee you (older) men who stay live with their parents, never lived on their own, are not the kind of men we prefer to get married with.

Hello Humairaku, I understand the situation because we have the same culture. Although Im not married yet, but I can take my sister as the example. She is married and she is staying with us. Even she is staying at same house but she still have her privacy because the rooms where she stays is like pavillion, she has her own bedroom, bathroom, dining room, kitchen, garage but on July she will move to her new house...3 houses away from our house lol. And then I will use the rooms. Its happened since my eldest sister, they stay for 2 years here before move out to their new house, my parent just wants to get close to my sister's new family, get along with their son inlaw and grandchildren. Sure we have different culture than western, each has it owns positive things and we cannot compare it to each other. The positive thing of the western people in raising their children is that they teach them to be independent and not depending on other, but for our culture the positive thing of living close to parent or even at the same house with parent is that we can take care our parent all the time. To tell the truth, I was once living away from my parent but I came back because I miss my parent so much, its hard to live away because every month I just want to go back home to visit them and its cost a lot of money to buy the ticket. So here I am, living with them plus I restart my study. Actually my parents give each of their child a house to stay, but we still need to live with them for 1-2 years specially during pregnancy where my mom just wants to stay close with my sister. So when I get married later I will stay here for 1-2 years then I will move out to my own house.

I think it's Ok to live parents although one is married.On the contrary,there are some advantages to live together.Firstly,the youg can look after the old,sceondly the old can help their children with some things such as cooking meals, looking after the grandchildren and so on.But there is a disadvantage in that the relationship between the two couples is a little complicated.

If I were married, I wouldn't want to live with my parents. Getting married is also a sign that you will be starting a new life with your new partner. With the new life always comes the notion of new living environment. so, why still stay with them? even if they would ask for you to just stay with them, i believe it is still not a valid reason for you to stay. maybe you could visit them every once in a while, but we should still learn to live on our own. maybe if our parents becomes old and weak, that would be the time that they would move with us. also, living separately would be a big step to proving to one's self that we are capable of surviving and spending for ourselves. it would really set a good foundation in raising a family. :)

I would strongly advise for married couples to include housing in their plans before even walking the aisle and saying "I Do". Even if your relationship with the in-laws started out really smooth, there will always be a big chance for trouble to spring up in the near future. It's best to get your own home, and just take regular visits to each other's family.

Living in the house of one's parent despite being married entails lot of reasons maybe one couple is primarily dependent from them financially,or the other way around it's parents choice still to have their married children to live with them despite being married but perhaps reasons vary with different individuals right.So I guess if I were to decide it would be my pleasure also to have a life of our own with my partner ,striking our pedals for ones daily survival at least we could be independent beyond my parents will and to proved that we can be on our own,but then it is a reality also that parents meddle in any arguments that can be a source of disagreement for both parties either for the married couple and the parents where one couple lives such an annoyance for living.So I guess the decision lies to the married couple whether they still resort to stay with their parents after marriage or to have an independent living despite whatever reasons they're having.

Currently we live with our parents and there is nothing to be embarrassing. Since my husband and I have to go to work in the daytime. And therefore my parents have to help us to pick up our child when he is off school. It is lucky that my parents can still help us in this aspect. Otherwise I may have to quit my job to take care of our child. And we can also look after my parents. It is better for them to live alone. I love china

Here in the Philippines, having strong family ties is a deep-seated culture. Some parents actually would love to still keep their children with them even when they're married and have kids of their own. Grandkids are close to their grandparents and they act as parents too. Conflicts and problems are commonly unavoidable especially when in-laws turn out to be disappointing. Some families have adapted a bit of the Western Culture though and are now gearing towards moving out of the ancestral home and having their own.

hi there! we are living in our own right now. mu husband and i are working far away from our parents home so before we tie the knot we already bought a house near our work place. they are advantages of living in your own and one is independence. you can decide on your own and do what you want in your house. but there is also disadvantage, one is when is i need to hire a nanny for my son, wherelse if we are at hour parents house it will easier and they can take care of my son. i will have assurance that my son is safe. but that is really impossible with us since we are working away from them. you are lucky that your in laws are good to you. if there is no problem staying with them then it will be fine and will really save you a lot.

hi, are you from Philippines? If yes, I agree that there are still many couples in our country that live with their parents if not they are still asking assistance from their parents. You are right that some reason is that the parents don't want their children leave their house even they are already married as they can't take the emptiness when there children are grown up, leave and have their own family in different house. We are family oriented and as much as possible we want to live together in a one big house. I am new here in America and I didn't see a couple living together with their parents. Some of our grown up single neighbor still live with there parents though but not much. I guess it depends on the family itself if they want to stick together or let the children live in their own house. But for me it is better to live in your house if you are married. It is exciting to design your own house, make your own garden in the backyard and everything you want without eyes watching you and telling you don't do that or not there, etc.... :)

In my place also same like your place stay with parents of married couple. We are living in join family and I think if broad minded persons and happy persons are in family then we can live happily in join family.

I heared from my friend that his mom asks him to stay with them even he has married.Its unimpeachable in his family.Because his grandparent,parent and uncle all live together.Everyone has been accustomed to this style of life.And i think it feels comfortable.So he need to seek a girl who can accept "the big family".haha.I have talk about the problem with my parents and told them that i do not want to live with them in the same house whether we can afford the house,but i hope we can live near.My parents agree with me.they joke "we fear that you disturb us"

Living in the house of one's parent despite being married entails lot of reasons maybe one couple is primarily dependent from them financially,or the other way around it's parents choice still to have their married children to live with them despite being married but perhaps reasons vary with different individuals right.So I guess if I were to decide it would be my pleasure also to have a life of our own with my partner ,striking our pedals for ones daily survival at least we could be independent beyond my parents will and to proved that we can be on our own,but then it is a reality also that parents meddle in any arguments that can be a source of disagreement for both parties either for the married couple and the parents where one couple lives such an annoyance for living.So I guess the decision lies to the married couple whether they still resort to stay with their parents after marriage or to have an independent living despite whatever reasons they're having.