kids and Weddings

I think people do that because of behavior problems or they may be a distraction from the main focus which is the couple being married that day. Plus sometimes people are oblivious to the face that people have children and many can be well behaved and good manners if given the chance and should be part of a family celebration. This is why we didn't go alot of places when our kids were young because people would forget we have kids and no sitter. They didn't have kids so they didn't have to think twice about going out to the movies or mini golfing ect.

Maybe they have had experiences with children who did not behave in public and they don't wish their weddings to be disrupted that way. Out of control children and crying babies are not my ideal wedding guests.

All the weddings I have been to have been family type weddings, so kids were welcome. If not, there was childcare provided. People who want very formal adult type gatherings do not invite kids. Also it may be that is the only way they can guarantee that a certain kid does not show up is to eliminate kids all together. It is unfortunate, but too many parents refuse to make their kids behave in formal situations or even just regular things like the store. I think it is their loss not to have children present at a wedding, kids are so cute, even when they are not the focus, but if you have spent thousands and thousands of dollars to have the supposedly perfect day you probably do not want something so random as a cute child stealing the limelight.

I think it depends on the couple. Personally I'd refer having kids at weddings because kids are a part of the family too, but then there are those cases when a venue might not be appropriate for children, and the adults might just want to have a good time, and a rare child-free evening. I have my opinion that kids should be included, but I also believe that the last word should be left to the couple having the ceremony.

Children often aren't invited because, honestly, most are pretty boring and kids get tired of sitting still and being good... I know I do, but since I'm an adult I have to...