Hello my mylot friends..... it's been quite some time since I've been active
By CatsandDogs
@CatsandDogs (13963)
United States
April 13, 2012 11:34pm CST
on here and for good reasons. I lost my daddy the end of November. His heart gave out and he went in his sleep with his family by his side. He went peacefully which is what we all had hoped for but good grief! We miss him something awful! It's taking some time to get used to the idea that he's gone and won't be coming back but knowing he's at peace and in no more pain gives me some solace. As for my mom, her health is failing and even more so now since dad's passing. She now uses a walker and is getting a power chair soon. I don't look for her to live out this year but who knows, she may surprise me but I sincerely don't think so. I'm still caring for her just as I was when dad was still with us, caring for them both and now just her. I'm thinking seriously of moving in with her till such time she leaves this world or decides to move into assisted living. Either way, it's her choice.
Anyway, just wanted to let you all know that I've not forgotten any of you and when I'm able to think straight, I'll be back again but for now, I'm here when I can be.
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@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
14 Apr 12
Hi, Cats, we have too many friends that just disappear and do not come back. Thanks for the update. I know I had seen you at least one other time and knew that you dad had passed on. I am surprised that your mom has not moved in with you, but perhaps she has memories there to hold on to.We will be watching for you when you can be here, meanwhile 
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
2 May 12
Hi GG.... That's true, a lot of friends have left to never return. I've thought about it myself because of the 'hatefulness' some people like to dish out regardless of how you explain what you mean. I don't like to beat people up and I don't like being beaten up so I left for a little while. I've been keeping quite busy though as you already know and it's even more so now with dad gone and mom being alone. I'm more at her place than at my own because she needs someone with her all the time during the day but that can't happen just yet but it will happen soon because it's finally coming together.... Mom won't move in with me because of two reasons, one is because she and hubby got into a heated discussion and although she's finally let it go, hubby won't. My whole family knows once you step on his toes, he's done with that person to tred lightly especially when it comes to derogatory remarks to me or about me which is what happened that night. Secondly, she wants to live in her own house with her own things. I can understand and appreciate that but I worry so much about her because she's fallen so darned many times. I've found one of her doctors is on my side with ordering her a power chair but the insurance company won't approve of it so now she has to go to rehab in hopes they'll back the doctor up that she does need one. Now it's a waiting game. Soon she'll have the in home help and a power chair for her safety. I HOPE!
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
16 Apr 12
Hi! I am so sorry that things are not going well. I am glad you have time to stop in and update us. You will have to stop in again soon.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
So sorry to hear the passing away of your Dad. My heartfelt sympathy and my prayers. I know the pain of losing a Dad but right knowing he's at peace and the best place is really a great consolation. I wish your mom well and it's a great idea for you to be by her side till the end. Be strong Cats and enjoy the moments with your mom.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
27 Apr 12
It is good to hear from you. I am sorry I am so late in my response. I have been pretty tied up lately and have had to take much more time away from here than I have ever had to. I have thought about you though when I hadn't seen you around when I was here regularly. I am sorry about your loss and the fact that you think you may suffer another soon. There are no words.
Take care and I hope to hear from you again too.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
14 Apr 12
I've missed you! It was a long time since I was on the lot and then in December I came back full time,and have been having a ball again. My health has been awful and of course I am still having stupid accidents. Just last Tuesday I had a metal die for cutting out price tags fall on my big toe on my left foot and of course the toe broke. The die is fine!
My deepest sympathy at the loss of your Dad. It is never easy losing someone who you love dearly and respect so much. Then to have your Mom losing ground so rapidly isn't easy either. I know from experience and the one huge piece of advice I can give you is to treasure every minute you have with her. I spent every minute I could with my Mom when she was in the hospital and treasure every memory from that time. As hard as it was, I was there with Mom til the very end and she passed in my arms at 5:50 in the morning. It isn't easy trust me, but it is so worth every second and every bit of work. Plus your Mom will appreciate your being there for her too.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
15 Apr 12
Oh Cats, I am so sorry for your loss and I have missed you.
I also saw your post in my notifications last night and was anxious to reply, but mylot must have had a glitch, I couldn't get in until this morning. I remember you talking about your parents, you are a good daughter to care for them at this time and I am sure your mother appreciates all you have done. It is so good to see you again, take care..
I also saw your post in my notifications last night and was anxious to reply, but mylot must have had a glitch, I couldn't get in until this morning. I remember you talking about your parents, you are a good daughter to care for them at this time and I am sure your mother appreciates all you have done. It is so good to see you again, take care..
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Apr 12
so sorry dear to hear of your daddy passing. and i know of your greif. its hard to believe when at first you realise its going to be a long time till you feel and hugs his scratchy cheek again. i miss that so much. and then we have to watch our mama go. 
its so unfair. just hope you believe like i do that some day we will see them again. welcome back
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
16 Apr 12
Hi Cats~ So sorry to hear about your dad's passing. I know how much that
you'e been through in the last few years and how awful it's been for you
and your hubby especially. I'm sure your mom is even more depressed and
upset now, but at some point you have to make the decision (with your brothers)
that she needs to be taken care of by someone else besides you. Why does it
always fall on you and not them? I have just found out that my own mom has
Dementia. I found out right before the holidays. I was quite sick myself with
a chronic case of bronchitis. It is a very long complicated story, but I still
haven't been able to get to Florida to see her because of my own health. The
people taking care of her are not family, but feel they can make the decisions
for her because they are there and I'm not (again too complicated. In your case
you need to let your brothers help you and not leave it all up to you! She is
their mother too so how dare they!!!! I have no siblings so I have no one to turn
to! Why should you give up your life with your husband to move in with her? This
should be a family decision! Don't do this! Put you foot down (or up your brothers
azzes)! It is finally time for them to step in and help!!!!I only want the best
for you my dearest friend. If you want to talk in private you know where to fine
me, Love, Opal/Les
