Do you want to have kids?

i would love to have children after i finish my university and get a stable way in my career but i am also often thinking that there is so much pain in this world.i had a not very easy childhood and i would feel very guilty if my children would suffer,because i know how hard it was for me. but i believe i would regret not having them when i will be old so i am planning to have kids in the future,because i would feel empty without them. i am praying that i will have a boy and a girl.

The world is a cruel place but Never let that make you stop dreaming of being happy with kids. If you Really want kids then plan to have them. The love you give them and the love they give you will be worth it. That is what will help ease the pain of this life! Believe it or not I have never wanted kids. For the longest time i wouldn't even stay in the same room with kids or babies. I'm better with them in the room but I still don't want any of my own. It isn't because of the cruel world, it was because I wouldn't think the pain of childbirth is worth it. I do not have the patience Or the desire to teach a child Anything.

Children are the biggest responsibility most people will ever have. They take time, money, and they'll make you worry from the moment of conception until the last breath you take. I wanted to have kids when I was younger, but don't regret that I didn't have any now. I wouldn't have made a great mom, I know that. I'm great with my dog, but the burden of raising children would have been more than I could cope with considering that my husband is now disabled. The world is full of problems, it always has been and always will be. You don't need to decide today whether or not you want children, so take your life one day at a time. Life has a terrible way of sorting itself out while you're thinking of other things.

Of course I want to have kids! I love children, and I imagine racing my own the way my parents did. As a woman, I want to feel bearing a child inside of me and be a mother.

Hi! Good for you in thinking this out as it is a life changing decision. Since you say that you're working through some things, take the time to sort those out so if you DO decide to have kids, they won't be 'hanging' over you. How? Perhaps talk to a good friend whom you're comfortable with in talking about these kinds of things or perhaps get a notebook and write them down. Just an idea. :-) Another way to see if you're ready is to work with kids hands on. Are there any volunteer programs that you could be a part of which involve kids? Check with schools, church organizations, or community events and see what they have over the course of the summer. Why so long? You'll have the time to fairly evaluate and see if having kids yourself is really the right thing for you. If you do decide to not have your own kids but still feel a 'gap', try a pet and go through the same process. Sure they are not as demanding as kids in the same way but they still need the attention and it is worth the process to decide what kind of pet is right for you. Be well!

Don't get upset, unhappy and troubles willn't come to one who think all happening the life are for the good of the next moment, so be happy all happiness will surely come.

I am optimistic that we can make the world a better place. It's a bit easier for me because I live in an area that hasn't yet been affected as much by the recession and doesn't have a lot of issues. So I'm still hopeful. That being said, I might stick with just one child because I want to make sure he can have a good life.

I can understand how you feel but I believe that life and this world is what we make it. The conditions we have to live with are only bothersome if we let it bother us. Many times we can see past the bad things that is brought with this life and onto the good. If we think this way, any children we bring into this world will grow up with the same values. Who knows, maybe one day they will be the ones to change the world just that little bit better.

I have gone through different phases in my life of wanting children and not wanting children, and at the moment I really think that I do. There is a point in every woman's life where she has to think about whether she wants children or whether she wants to be able to have the career that she's always wanted. Many women are leaving having children far too late because they are choosing to follow their career dreams, and this is a position that I never want to be in. If I choose to have children, I want to have them early so that I am still young when they're old enough to look after themselves.

I would be turning 37 this year, way past the marrying age and i think at this point in time, i dont have the means to have a kid... I am not that stable yet.

having a child is your choice. If you think you are ready to raise a child, then go for it.. I wanted to have a child but I'm still young for making one especially that we are not stable yet.. Having a child is a responsibility. One should be prepared for it.

I always wanted kids even an orphan home myself, I have kids of my own also foster children. I won't have an other kid just because it seems a good idea to my husband (so the kid can help out his father in the garden). I don't care if I've been pregnant my own or someone else was. Kids are the same to me if it comes to that. Small change I will have an other kid of myself, there are plenty of kids who are longing for a safe home, long to get home, be loved. Pity adoption organisations world wide make it so hard to adopt (unless the kids are handicapped in many ways so the "healthy" ones can spend their lives in orphan or foster homes).

I think having kids is a choice. If you think you are not ready or is not capable of raising them well for now the the responsibld thing to do is not to have one. Today's situation seems not to be a good place for our future children and like you it might bring sadness to them than joy. Why not consider adopting? I for one is not sure if I can bear a child in the future but I am open to adopting one. Even if they say that it is different when it comes from your own blood and genes etc. Many children were brought in this world without responsible parents and it is never their choice to be born in this world. So might as well be the one to bring joy to them. Let's make the world a better place for them.

Right now, I don't. I don't know yet whether it's because I'm not ready for it mentally/I'm immature (I'm 22) or if I don't have those mothernal instics at all. I know for sure that if I had a child right now, she/he would suffer a bit, because I'm impatient, I'm not really feeling children's language and how we should approach them yet, I can't know how to deal with overflowing and unrequited love and attention...

You shouldn't make too pressure about that. You can care children with your love. When you have a kid, you'll know how to make the best things for them. I'm waiting for kids. We love to have children know. And we believe that we can care them with the best thing we have. Wish you're happy!