Today I just want to give ma a hug..

My memory of her is that she was a good cook and a good housewife. I would like to take her to travel to several cities in Indonesia if she's alive...

My mother is a difficult person to understand for me. I know she did her best with us but its hard to see the good in her sometimes. She thinks that she is sick but the only ones that see it is her and our father. She constantly puts on a guilt trip if no ome can afford to help. Constantly a pity party for her. She is not a great grand mother to our children either. She doesn't ask to have them over or just come visit them and were 5 minutes away. When we were younger my parents were always too tired to play with us or do almost anything with us. They were very strict and overprotective. My mother did EVERYTHING for us. You would think its a good thing but not to the extreme she did it. I had no idea how to cook or do laundry when I moved out. I was never taught because I was never allowed to help... She tells me to be positive but puts my house down and everythimg else about me. How should I be positive when always hearing negative??? I am trying my best to think of something good to say about her and sadly I cannot. I guess we all turned out all right though despite either of their flaws. I hope one day I can forgive and be close to her. I have always wanted the relationship she has with my sister but so far it has not happened.

I've been staying with my mom for the past 4 months now and you wouldn't want to hear what I want to do for her or to her...LOL She does manage to get on my nerves (and everyone else's too) however we try to avoid or ignore it. But I have to say that when I don't see her for a few months at a time, I miss her and want to talk to her and give her a hug.

Yes vandana, often I remember my late parents. My mother with unbelievable patience managed our big family. We were nine siblings(all alive). My mom tried to fulfill our demands. We could not directly place our demands to our father. We had not any hesitation to tell every thing to mom. To us father remained behind curtain. He fulfilled our demands through our mom. Now I realize his affection to us. I share your feelings. Thanks vandana.

Dear Vandana I dont think I need a reason to hug my mother. She and all mothers are that special. Many a times, it is us (their children) who fail to understand or see the greatness moms have but that is all beyond the discussion I guess. I love my mom a lot, and I do remember the times when she would cook for us - me and bhai, We had no one else to cook until my mom had a mild heart attack and this was the time I started to cook. I owe my cooking skills (if not much or anything else except my life) to her. ps: I was brought up by my maternal grandparents and started to live with my parents only at 11 - when my lovely granny expired and they (my parents) shifted to stay with us. Though both dad and mom are alive, we stay away and many times at different cities.

Mother is always remind me much ,and mother is the person who unforgettable by her daughter. Mother is always work hard and has a lot of skills ,mother raise up from my childhood and of course pregant of me ,mother can cook a lot of things,bread ,when I am small and hungary ,I go back home and eat my mother's bread ,mother can cook noodles and a lot of delicious food like sweet and sour pork ribs, I am raised by mother so healthy . My mother is now still lead a happy life. My mother has a good husband ,and now she think she has a good son-in-law. I am so happy to have those parents ,and now I have parents in law and grandparents too. I think I should filial piety to them ,they lead a proud life for their children . Memory for them .

Oh, that's so touching vannie. My mom was leading a very happy life through out. Good parents, great husband, good children and very good grand children, what else she would have wanted? She wanted to live long and she almost achieved it too. I loved my mom and yet my dad was my greatest love of my life till my sons were born.