HELP! midlife crisis.. things i dont understand

she will be 42 on july. and i even caught her reading something in the net about menopause. i dont like to ask her anything about it for she might just get more depress. i am waiting for her to open up to me and tell me what is going on. i try to understand this mood swings. but i need to know also whats going on. i hope mylot can help me out.

highly likely that she is going into menopause. The bad thing about it is that you need to let her realize it on her own or led her to it or suffer the consequence but to be sure that it is menopause then you should check without her knowing if she is still menstruating or not(not buying any napkins anymore). Does your wife love chocolates? Why not buy her chocolates the sweet kind not dark as it releases hormones responsible for feeling happy. But be careful though the gift might be perceive as something with ulterior motives. If she does not like chocolates, let her do things/eat foods that make her happy. Maybe swimming or some sort of trip which is just on time with summer. If it is really menopause, then be always careful on what you do and say. On the first or early onset of menopause, mood swings are crazy! She maybe so happy now but after a few seconds she will be angry at nothing at all. But after awhile the hormones will stabilize and she will be back to her normal self. Do you know the poker face meme? You should practice that more often. Cause you'll gonna need it.

i let her do what she wants to do. but sometimes i no longer know what to say when she ask me something. for i know that what ever i say her reactions will be outburst. she ask if she is fat i told her she is sexy and she start saying how can she be sexy if her clothes does not fit her. she gets depress when she shops for she said there is nothing there that looks good on her. this is harder than pregnancy huhuhu. the mood swings are driving me crazy. she even once told me that she wants to take a break and she is tired of me that she wants to go home to her mom. again as i said i will try my best not to be insane. waiting for the day that this will normalize. thanks a lot for the response.

she will be turning 42 this year. as of now i dont like to ask her anything she freaks out very easily. if she is in a happy and jolly mood i just sink in and enjoy that moment. if she is in a sad mood then i just let her and be there to give her a hug. i am still happy that whatever mood she is in she always ask for a hug and then she always say that she feels okay. now i am just waiting if she wants to see her doc or if she just wanted to read it on the net. i just hope i can still keep myself sane from all of this. thanks a lot for the response.

There is also another thing that could cause those mood changes. That would be her thyroid. Maybe she should go to an endocrinologist and have that checked out. If it is the thyroid, there is medication for it. And remember the thyroid controls all the hormones in the body.

my wife is turning 42, i havent thought about menopause i just saw her reading about it on the net. i am sure she also is aware of her mood swings that is why she wants to know for herself what is wrong. i dont like to tell her to see a doctor for she might get more depress when it comes from me. i know she will see her doctor if she feels like she needs to talk with her. but me telling her looks like not a good idea. thanks a lot for the response.