how will i introduce my boyfriend to my parents?
By zaskasahagun
@zaskasahagun (346)
Philippines
April 16, 2012 7:13am CST
i need help here. i have been thinking about how will i ever introduce my boyfriend to my parents. im bothered about this because ever since my parents were not that open about me having a partner. but i think now that i have finally graduated in college, i feel that im mature enough to enter in relationships, and im always responsible about myself. but how would i be able to open up to them this time?
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13 responses
@shenlynn7823 (641)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
hi zas,
same here.I was not allowed to have a boyfriend while studying (my dad's strict order) and so even when I am studying away from them,I respect that..but when I finish my degree and had a boyfriend,I didn't hesitate to introduce him to them and my dad respect it too.Just introduced him in a nice way and I think it won't be a problem since you have been a good daughter to them.
@rajronaldo (9)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 12
good girl..you just have to be more confident and show that you convince with your choice. all parent will respect your decision.
@shekinahmia (233)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
I also had the same dilemma before. I wasn't allowed to have any boyfriend before I graduate college. But things happened, and I got myself a boyfriend. My advice to you is just tell them upfront. Gather up all your courage and confidence and tell them you already have one. Your parents would understand, especially now that you're at the right age. Have faith and good luck!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
23 Apr 12
If you are mature and do believe you are responsible for yourself you would not ask this question. If you truely believe you are just tell them how or what.
Perhaps they get angry but does that matter? it's your life, your responsibility.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
I am sure your parents will understand and accept that you're in a relationship because you are in the right age to have one already, and this is your life. Just simply tell your parents that you are inviting your boyfriend to your house. It is better for your parents to know who are dating with. I am sure everything will be alright. Good luck!
@zaskasahagun (346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
thanks so much for giving up a boost!
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@jinky2012 (438)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Don't be afraid for that. You know our parent just want us to be happy in our future and now you are finished you are already ready to tell to them. They know already all you have to do is to let your bf go to your and tell them that he is one you love.Just like that.Your parents can understand that way so don't worry anything.
@sooryaglare (1)
•
27 Apr 12
I think parents are best friends in our life. they will help you. you just tell them.in my case i have a boyfriend i just told my parents they want to see him. he came my house meat my parents they agree with our relation.but most important thing first of all you confident about your love.
this is the most important decision in your life
@pangeran01 (18)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 12
You have to do is show your parents that you are a responsible person, either yourself, family and environment.And than, talk to your parents time when they are relaxed, and start with a conversation that you are willing to finish college and will soon find job. And when your parents are members of positive response, ask your parents, that your friend who might be helpful to find a job. If your parents allow, it's time you introduce your friend,your male friend yaiut. Good luck and God Bless You !
@tianyouwo (50)
• China
16 Apr 12
It is your own business .Everyone has rights to persue what he/she wants.Your paterner ,mybe he could become your husband in future .He is the part of your life ,so your parents must be careful .It is the sign that your parents care about u .It is easy to introduce your paterner to your parents .just to do in the way you like .
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
16 Apr 12
in this matter you should talk first with you mom if she free with you, then if tell you about this then you should accept that that will in your good favour.
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
I started having a boyfriend when I was 14 =) ( yeah I know, it's crazy but we did not allow him to kiss "for the record") and my parents was not aware about it. My parents are also strict but I started to introduce them my college boyfriend. I was 19 then, I just invited my boyfriend to dinner at our house and then that's it. Just let them feel that you are responsible enough to handle a relationship =)
I know they will understand you, as in come on they were at your age before. =)
@all_about_steph (45)
• United States
19 Apr 12
You could always just slowly open them to the idea that you have met someone. Start a conversation about school and how you met this guy and he is nice, interesting, you know tell them about him. Then over time just start talking about him more, and then tell them that yall are dating and that you truely care about this person and how much they mean to you and show them how happy he makes you. Then ask to have dinner with you boyfriend and your parents and let them meet him and get their own opinion of him and then just talk about him with them and what they thought.
@gelichoo (6)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Well I have the same problem, my parents told me that having a boyfriend is as total NO so I kept it a secret that I am in a relationship. In my case I tried to send clues to my parents, I told them that I have a crush at school which is my boyfriend which of course they didn't know after that I started sharing stuff to them like how my crush gave me flowers during valentines day, after a few months I told my parents that my crush started to court me things changed afterwards, my parents thought that it would be fine if I have a boyfriend as long as I set my limits. (I think you start sharing things to them, tell them slowly) GOOD LUCK! :)
@rajronaldo (9)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 12
dont worry. nowadays all parent can accept if they son fall in love. you dont think anything. just be confident with your love and your parent will be happy for you.