Should one wait for the right one or search for the right one??

it is hard to wait when the right one is also waiting for you. it is also tiring to search when you're blind and the right one is your best friend. i think the right question is, how would you know if the one is right? it's really hard to answer such question. Life is hard. So, don't make life harder. Enjoy it with the person you're happy with.:)

your standards are not high. it is attainable. but i say that it is a mixture of waiting and finding. if you just sit there at home and wait, nothing will happen. there has to be some effort like you also need to socialize to search. who knows the lucky one is just around the corner?

When you force finding the right person to be with, it turns out totally wrong. I know from experience with a long string of losers. When I wasn't looking and was secure in my life the way it was, the right man fell into my life and he is a total perfect fit! He loves me the way I am, he adores all my critters, and he is interested in my business and hobbies. He is always right there for me and is so supportive and loving. Keep your standards! I set mine to include the person loving me for me, loving my animals as much as I do. He had to be supportive of my business and hobbies and also would be at my side if I was injured or sick. He also would be there to help me out when I was really in need of help. I never thought it would happen but it did and he is well worth waiting for.

Better to search for the right one, my friend. Because it is impossible someone to comes into your door and said I am the right one?

One should pray about it. Sometimes searching for the right brings the wrong one. You must get to know you and figure out what you really want. Love is not easy and your standards maybe to high. You must be realistic but the search for what you are not ready for. Wait a while longer and your prayers will be answered. You want to make the right choices and not some rushed decisions.

I think there should be a golden means. I don't think one should search for the right one, but be ready for with with an open heart and they should be open for relationships. Because if somebody sits at home 24/7, and doesn't even try contacting other people, it's pretty likely that they won't find a spouse for themselves anytime soon. So I don't think if we wait for some miracle to brings us Mr./Mrs. Right, it would come true. But at the sime time, desperately seeking a boyfriend/girlfriend could easily make a fool out of yourself, because that would scare off the people and put you in quite an embarrassing situation.

As I am waiting for the right one come to me, till now I am still single. Though i think things in my life is all ok, my mother worries about me. I now do not have enough time to think about the problem. But after getting the job, i will send out to find the right one. Waiting seems not a good policy for me.

i dont think your standards are high at all, but lol you just described me to a t lol that is funny, im plain and simple and never try to be more , no make up, ect so there is another girl out there just like me for you as well and i know when the time is right you will find her. and when you do , by waiting for the qualities you like in a girl, it will last much longer then just dating anyone and it will be better in the long run.. keep waiting and if you beleive in God you can ask god to sedn her your way..and if you believe , he will do that and she will be all you hoped for.. i wish you luck in your search, be happy and keep the faith..

i am not so sure about this but i think maybe just wait for that person? but i think it all depends. some couple find each other through online dating and all that and they even last.

That right one will come in God's time, you don't need to look, just wait and you will be surprised how destiny works miraculously. and it can also help you if you pray to God to make that right one find you soon.:)

yes it happens in real life. I have met alot of people who remain single until now coz they did not find what they are looking or waiting for in their life. The truth is, we cannot hold our future. sometimes our own choice and decision in life could lead to something we do like or not. Everything in this life cannot be planned as well as what will heart feels in every given situation in love. For me, waiting is the right thing to do. Love cannot be rushed and it comes at unexpected time. so be patient and just go on with your life. Try to enhance your good qualities. lastly, open your eyes and mind maybe she is already around you. Your standard is not too high. I hope you could find her soon.

You know what, when you try not to think about it and get busy with something else (could be a hobby or with your job), it will come to you :). Who knows, she's just sitting in one corner and you'll see her fascinated by what you do then you guys talk about your hobby or something and then eventually "fall in love". Setting up standards can either be good or bad. It's good in a way that you are finding someone you really want to be with for the rest of your life. Bad coz you'll end up single for the rest of your life if ever you won't be able to find someone who fits your standards. Nobody's perfect cyclopz. You can't expect them to be what you want them to be. If you find someone close enough to what you are dreaming of having, grab it. Even if she smokes or drinks, just learn to accept that (just as long as it's not to the extent that she'll get drunk everyday or smokes 5-10 packs a day). It's not like she's committing a crime or something, right? I don't smoke though and my partner as well. But there are reasons why people smoke. If she loves you, she will eventually stop it by gradually decreasing the number of sticks she smokes per day. My brother was able to stop it when he met the love of his life. He can sometimes finish 2-3 packs a day, now he only smokes occasionally.

Letting time takes to its course could somehow be very frustrating for someone who have waited that much but what can we do with it but perhaps let it be right.It is but true that everybody is predestined to be married or to be single for life.Yes I agree that you wont expect that right person to come at your doorstep per see but rather you have to search for that somebody to come in your life and obviously you don't know where to start and how to look for that person isn't it.But then it is our wish at least that our future partners must be someone who we desire and wishes for. Reality strikes so be it.

In my opinion, love comes when it is least expected. So if you do have any ideals set for a partner, i bet it would be difficult for you to find your perfect match. Just give it time, it would also be better for you divert your attention on things that would be productive. If you wait, then there's a possibility that you would find it difficult to distinguish whether if it's love or not. Or if it's real or not. Love comes the least you expect it, and that's true. ;)

I have looked and have waited for the right person. Niether has lead to me finding the right person. It has not lead me to anybody! It is to much work and I have come to realize I am better off without someone. Men are not worth it! They can't be trusted and they drive me crazy! I can drive a man crazy,too! Especially if the guy refuses or is to dumb to try to understand me! Even if someone would show up it would not be anything I would be intersted in. It has been to long since I have been in a relationship and I am happy with my life as it is! I also don't work at relationships! I will act like my mom when she was married to me dad! That will never happen! I am happy to be alone!

There are plenty of people sitting there, hoping, waiting.. I think one should live his/her life and focus on that. Not focus on the right one to make you happy. And when you live you will develop yourself, find yourself, know yourself and meet a lot of people. If you are not blind you will find the right one too.

Well,right time,right person will come and you will know it and feel it when .Sometimes emotion will lead us up to wrong .. If your boy, i think you are searching or not,and waiting someone that is best,special for you.

Yes it happens where someone doesn't find the person of there life. I always tell my husbands cousin even if she isn't looking for the love of her life he is looking for her so to not give up one the fact there is someone some times you need to find certain things in your own life before love can really find you. I say both people need to do searching that is what dating is all about learning what you do and do not want in a person.

Your standards are not too high, you have the right to not like clowns,I mean those that paint their faces with makeup,and try to walk with stilts almost,and dress up like you know what. Anyway, for my part, I did ask God to guide my steps to the right one at the right place, it is very important. He gave me the right one 21 years ago and it is wonderful,wish you the best.

you have to wait for the right one. i prayed about mine too. i have been praying for my boyfriend when we were still friends. i prayed that God would give him to me as my mr right, glad that we are still together until now and are still doing good. you must not search for love, love will always find its way to you. and also, dont forget to pray for guidance so that you will not be blinded by infatuation or whatsoever.