internet relationship
By Bobbyhere
@Bobbyhere (7)
9 responses
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Apr 12
Because its easier for someone to pretend they are someone they are not online then it is in person. You can do anything and say anything online with out being scared of who that other person may really be like and they can tell you anything and you believe what they say. Any one can say they are 35 and be like 50 and totally not what you where looking for and wanting in your life.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Apr 12
Yep. Or you can get someone that is crazy or worse.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
16 Apr 12
We can bring successfully a lot of pretences through internet and when we really live by proximity our actual behaviour, attitudes and approaches start to interact. These bring gap in relationships and in many case reach the end of relationships.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 May 12
I agree with you. It is hard to have a successful relationship online. It's not impossible but difficult. It is best to have a relationship where you can actually spend time together in person, building that relationship up.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
17 Apr 12
I think internet relationships don't succeed because you aren't seeing them in person. You don't have the one on one face to face interaction and have to personally out right deal with emotions and problems that arise. You aren't dealing with everyday emotions as often as you do in reality. I think it is harder to maintain a relationship in reality than on the internet.
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
16 Apr 12
Falling in love with what some one wrights is not the same as being in love with the person them self. it's more of being in love with the idea of the person then what they rely are. What one dose some times is not the same as what they say. People tend to tell the best of them instead of all of them self. It's like falling in love with a character on tv or in a book. the idea of them is great but you realize it's not what you truly need in your life.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 May 12
I agree with you. The world of online dating is a whole different ball game. It encompasses so many different aspects. It is really hard for people to have successful relationships online.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 May 12
Yeah it is hard to have a successful relationship online. Perhaps it has a lot to do with not really being able to get to know the person (in person). Some relationships though are able to make it through those rough spots and be together. I do think though that it is inevitable for these couples to be together in person in order for their relationship to grow and thrive.
@hpresley86 (12)
• United States
16 Apr 12
Usually because people portray themselves to be someone else when they are online. They can have multiple personalities, and once met in person, the true self comes out. I don't believe in internet dating. If you can't agree to meet within the first couple of weeks of talking, then there is something wrong. Plus, the safety factor just turns me away from the thought!
@ErinCW (37)
• Canada
17 Apr 12
I agree! Internet dating - safety factors aside - is a tricky situation. Every person has things about themselves that they want to "beef" up. If you are simply communicating on the internet, making yourself out to be a slightly better or different version of yourself is an easy task to accomplish. Once a meeting happens, it's harder to hide those differences. At least for a lengthy time frame.
I think that when creating online profiles it would be hard to be 100% honest. If you have something about yourself that you think prospective companions wouldn't like, it's going to be hard to write that down and put it out there. You would feel that it will only cause those searching your profile to think "oh, great profile...but if only they didn't have "____" a trait or like or dislike ect. However, leaving out those attributes leaves the in person dating up to a series of dates that are misleading and or flat out lies.
I think if you are going to attempt to date online, you're best bet is to just jump in! Write the good, the bad and all the in between. The worst that can happen is that you never actually hear from those who thought you were great, but passed by you due this or that. You might actually get a response from the one person who could change your life for ever! Loving you for all the reasons you thought you shouldn't put out there :)
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
16 Apr 12
I wouldn't say that online relationships never succeed. I know of quite a few happily married couples who met online. I, personally, have had a 10 year relationship that started from a random instant message. I think a lot depends on what others have been saying so far -- honesty, trust and having a good grasp on reality vs. fantasy. Getting together in person (we did vacations back and forth several times) naturally needs to be a factor because I don't think anyone can just move in with someone without working up to it -- and that has nothing to do with how or where you met either.
@petersum (4522)
• United States
16 Apr 12
On the Internet people don't have to face reality. They may not actually lie, but they don't reveal the full truth about themselves either. The less likeable qualities of the person are often completely ignored or unstated. It goes both ways so no one person should be blamed. It is just part of human nature that is used to protect ourselves, but eventually backfires in this situation.
@jinky2012 (438)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
Internet relationships never succeed.Lot of my friends experienced already this kind of affair but most of them not succeed or they end up of nothing.Its not good to have affair for a long years through internet especially if you never meet.Te reason you don,t know the person,the inner qualities if what he/she really likes with you.its better to have an affair to the one you met already.
