Well you feel guilty if you run away to live with your bf or gf?
By bulastika
@bulastika (5966)
Philippines
April 16, 2012 8:42pm CST
Well you feel guilty if you run away to live with your bf or gf? And the consequence is that you will never going to see your family again. You also will have hard time financially until you can settle down?
But will you going to do this? Will you going to run with someone you love? A person that you only know for a year or two? versus your family who love and take care of you for whole your life but don't like your bf or gf?
6 responses
@TheIzers (680)
•
17 Apr 12
Live both with family or with someone we love (bf/gf) will have consequences and both has different challenges so why not we face the challenge with someone we love, someone who doesn't mind to share our live with. Whatever problem we have we will solve it together. Live is about making choice right? so why not??
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
I agree. I have done the same thing if I can chance time. And I guess I can have a great family. Sometimes just taking thing for granted has a consequence. I'm really feel that I'm over my head sometimes but I'm happy or not does not matter anymore. Because I can't chance the past I only hope their will be a future for me.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Problem is that life don't stay still. Maybe its will come but its best that you spend your life time having good time of your life. that's the irony of being alive. But I guess I'm lucky. Its better to be me right now than other who has more miserable life.
@scarl3t (89)
• Greece
19 Apr 12
I dont see any dilema here
its not about love, of course you love your parents and of course they love you back, it is about respect your choices
it is your life not theirs and you cant let them choose for you, they must understand that they need to let you go
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
That's true. Beside we don't live in perfect life. We need to take risk and that is life is all about. we don't know if we going to have a happy life with our partner or end up in disaster but one thing I know as long we are happy now its worth it.
@scarl3t (89)
• Greece
20 Apr 12
In such hard times we are living, you dont even know what will happen the next day, we are living with risk from the first day we born, we cant know what will happen in the future, but we must do our best for better life, we control our lives in some level, so we are allowed to make our own choices right?
so keep going forward, it wouldnt harm to try and fix the situation with your parents, even if they dont approve your choices, they still your parents and they love you as you love them, when they know that you are happy and safe they will come to your side, as long as you are strong with your beliefs they will see it and finaly approve
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
If I'm sure of his intentions towards me then I'd do it.If our relationship doesn't work out,I still wouldn't go back to my family.I've gotta learn to stand on my own.Are you talking about your family disowning you?
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
No. Just know somebody who did and just thinking the what "if" Because me I don't. I stayed with my family. Right now if I follow what my heart dictates then that would happen to me. I have a baby with no money. Its better to be single and no money. lols.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
17 Apr 12
I lived with Randy before we got married, but that was because his mother was terminally ill and she needed care. Randy and I did not feel that his mother needed to be put into a nursing home and that she would be much better off with family. I normally would not have moved in before I got married, but I wanted what was best for his mother and it also gave us a chance to bond and plan the wedding. My family supported my decision. Sadly, his mom passed away in 2007 (two months before we got married) and she never got to Randy and I get married.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
That's good that your family support you also. In things like this its really fulfilling to have this kind of bonding. But I guess theirs some cultural differences I guess. Because in our country its a taboo. But since modernization comes in. More and more youngster do live together even though the are not married yet. Unlike 30 years ago that you will be a talk of the town if you live together and not married.
@shekinahmia (233)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
It's a great dilemma. If I am in that situation, I have to think things deeply and thoroughly, weigh some things and then think about it. If my family doesn't like him, and we're in a tight grip with financial matters, then I won't go. In the end, I'll still go back to my family and ask for forgiveness, then eventually ask for help.
