Is it possible to have someone fall in love with you again?...
By HomeBase
@HomeBase (1153)
United States
April 16, 2012 11:35pm CST
Years ago, a good friend of mine was totally in love with a guy, and he was in love with her too. Over the years they have grown apart. Also, over the years, she has put on a lot of weight, and does not look at all like she did when they were together. She told me that he now refers to her as "you're like a sister to me", he even told her one time that she was like an AUNT to him.
It seems to me like my friend still has some feelings for this guy, and may want to get back with him. My friend's mother says that she should never even SPEAK to the guy again for referring to her as being like an aunt to him. She asked me about it, and I told her I believe that if two people were once really in love that they could find love with each other again, if that's what she really wants.
What do you think??
3 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 May 12
I think that if he refers to her as an aunt or sister his feelings may be different. She should talk to him about whether or not he has feelings for her. She should even mention if the weight difference is an issue. If he is concerned about her weight and yet he still cares for her perhaps she could lose the weight. I hope that things work out well for her either way.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
18 May 12
Then the weight thing must be the factor that caused him to start referring to her as other things. Has she talked with him about her feelings and asked questions. I know that if I would want to get back with my ex and I thought my weight was the issue or something else I would definitely ask. As they have been in a relationship before so it wouldn't be like asking a complete new person how he felt about her. She should definitely talk with him and see what he's thinking.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
18 May 12
Yes, his feelings may be different for her NOW, but a while ago he was definitely IN love with her and told her so, and was not shy about letting other people around them know. I don't know if the two of them will get back together, they are both nice people from what I know about them. I too hope things work out well for her either way.
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@Mashnn (4501)
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17 Apr 12
Why should he call her his aunt just because she has added some weights. True love goes beyond our physical looks and if the guy only liked her because of the way she looked then this is not true love and she would better look for someone else who will be respectful and love her for who she is.
@guttoo (17)
• Canada
17 Apr 12
Of course they can find love. Love is not about the physical appearance, it's about knowing each other, looking at each others' eyes and body language and predicting that person's moods. It's not about how fat or thin you are, it's about knowing each other that is important.
I am sure, once he gets over his initial rebuff and realizes how important she is to him, he will get back to her and then all this won't matter. Calling her an 'aunt' will remain just a joke, a way to pull her leg. I hope their love prospers soon. True love is difficult to find. And they have been given a second chance!! I hope the guy realizes this soon. God bless them.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
17 Apr 12
How sweet this response is!! Yes, I too think that if it is real love then they can find their way back to each other. You're right, TRUE love is difficult to find. If it is in God's will, and if they are both ready for it, I think that they will find love with each other again.
