Why Are Some People So LAZY?

Hello Krause, though I admit I don't have work for a while but that's because of my mom and our family business but i do try to make myself busy here. i think when a person looses their path in looking for their destiny, they end up being lazy in their 30's. unfortunately, I was discourage because of the Family business and matters. but some how, i wish my mom would have been more encouraging to work instead of whining for me to stop working when ever she gets to be alone or sick

Your post reminds me of some of my neighbors who are from one and the same family that once was very rich and influential.They have a big fortune inherited from their forefathers.If you were here,you would see them emerging out of their house one by one and then sitting on chairs till noon.They do nothing.Sitting there they keep watching here and there and then again enter home when it is lunch time.I have never seen such lazy people.

I do think the way people live is because of their upbringing. Some people are just per lazy in my eyes. I have seen a lady who would sit in her chair and demand a drink or other thing. Would throw a fit and scream til she got what she wanted. Than complain she was fat and cry. This person is no longer a friend, as I couldn't take watching her sit on her bum, than complain about being fat but not willing to do anything about it.

There were some in every generation. Where I live, the people on welfare can have a child every 3 years and not work. So they have had 8, 10. 15 kids, whatever they can pop out that also see this and believe this way. So we've had more and more every generation because most of the responsible people are on birth control or get fixed after they have a couple of children. I would not blame an entire generation as there are still farmers' kids and they work the hardest of any children where I live. They mik cows, go to school, and then ride tractor or weed and pick things. There are fewer and fewer farms because milk prices are lower than it costs to have a cow. So some go out of business each year. The ones who want to continue change. Like Tuckers are now a potato farm and then became a vegetable farm. More transitional farms, natural farms, and organic farms are happening. Many young people whose parents worked in factories are still working in factories. #1, Revamp the welfare system. No state, including mine, should allow people to have children every three yearts and never do a stitch of income gaining work. #2. Provide farmers with a living wage. Don't make it so farms have to go huge or go broke. #3. Train families with factory experience to make eco-recycled products. Most of all, take away tv and computers until kids have hobbies, interests, and a work ethic. I had a high school teacher who couldn't get his kids to get away from the tv set when I was in my 20s, his kids were teens. He took the tv and smashed it in the driveway. They didn't have another one again. His son became the youngest reporter in our area and his daughter, a much-sot-after, horse trainer. A Native American Woman told how she took her two sons back to the non-electric cabin for a year and had them do everything because they wouldn't turn off the tv and listen to her. Before that year, all failing report card and they didn't know how to do anything. After that year, all passing report card and they knew how to do everything including how to find out how to do things at the library. All this soda is making kids weak. Teachers are having to educate parents and so are doctors and nurses. Parents are giving their kids soda instead of milk and rickets are back. The soft bone disease that happened when people couldn't get enough calcium. Also kids aren't going outdoors to play so they're not getting vitamin D. So people need to go back to serving milk with meals and having their kids play outdoors. There, you have the problems, the solutions, and I rest my case.

KrauseHome, you are not imagining things, our kids can be very lazy today. I believe this is due to an extremely unrealistic sense of entitlement possessed by the kids growing up in today's society. Kids seem to feel the whole world owes them something, and that they are above working (they don't work hard, they hardly work). The fault lies beyond their parents. We, as a society, have created these monsters and are now suffering the consequences of our decisions. Children have protections under the law that encourage their sense of entitlement. I feel these laws need to be reevaluated and changed to protect children from themselves (as if that will ever happen). I also feel that the medical profession has contributed to the problem by over medicating and over labeling behaviorial problems in kids. Let me give an example: A child behaves very badly, that child cannot be spanked, restrained, yelled at, given "the eye", etc., etc. The child learns that there are no negative consequences for their actions, so the bad behavior intensifies. The child is taken in to be medically evaluated and may be medicated and/or labeled with extreme oppositional defiant disorder (ODD); meanwhile the bad behavior increases. The parents suffer through until the child turns 18; after turning 18, the law holds the child immediately responsible for their bad behavior. Who wins here? The kid has been reinforced with a false sense of entitlement by our society and then the same society expects the child to suddenly behave as a productive, law abiding citizen upon reaching the age of maturity. What the...? What have we done, what have we done in the name of protecting our children; we've set that child up for a very high probability of failure. What have we done; how can we put the genie back into the bottle? I fear we must find alternative ways to turn this thing around; but until then, we will have to suffer the consequences of our decisions: a bunch of lazy people custom made by our society.

I could easily take offense to this because I am 30 right now (31 in 10 days!) but I know what you mean. However, I see it more & more with people who have yet to reach 30... They're still in their 20's... Problem is, I think, is that they are just poorly raised. Too many babies having babies. And, I guess that makes me a hypocrite because I was 18 when I had my first baby. She is 12 now and she is lazy, but my 8 year old isn't. And, when I say lazy, I mean that she has to be told over & over again to do something, she needs that fire lit under her fanny. It takes her FOREVER to get ready because she just doesn't want to focus on doing what she needs to do. BUT, she's one smart cookie! (with the exception of science - that's a C)... I agree that too many people are allowed to scam the system but the ones who really need the help get snided. It's sad. I became a mother at 18. I will be a mother first & me last until my babies are grown. Luckily for me, I'll turn 40 about 6-7 weeks before my youngest turns 18 & graduates high school! Until then, my #1 priority is to raise my children into loving, caring, responsible adults! And, I'm afraid that that's the ONLY way that we can change this... the lazy adults of today are a cause of the lazy parenting of the recent past & it's only going to continue to get worse until enough of us are able to make it better!

Something I don't see addressed often is the loss to the nation when these people refuse to work for a living. Not only do they live off our taxes, they don't create goods or services. They're like a black hole that sucks everything into itself and gives nothing. Children are not taught responsibility and they're spoiled by material goods, so they don't understand cause and effect. They don't know that if you want a toy, you're supposed to work for the money to buy it. No... they only know that if they ask mom and dad for it, they'll get it. They might have to beg or cry, but they'll get it. When they "grow up" they know that those tactics work, so they beg or cry (ask for help and whine about their situations) and then, guess what? They get what they want. A place to live, food, medical care - they don't know that they have the ability to get those things on their own. It's not a head knowledge, it's a self knowledge. When we give kids chores and expect them to be responsible for things and about things, we're teaching them to become productive members of an adult society. When we don't do those things, we've failed as parents. There are things that we intuitively know are good: Fresh air, sunshine, good food, quality sleep, satisfying work. When we don't provide our children with those things, we are abusing them. What else can we expect from them?

I am afraid some people were born with a lazy bone. No matter how hard they were taught/trained, they would find the east way out as this runs in their gene. I don't mean I am on their side, but the fact is we cannot change a person. :-(

Those people who are entering their 30's may be experiencing depression or something that they call "midlife crisis". I also think that one of the factors of laziness is that today we already live in a fast-paced and easy life full of technology that's why people nowadays expect results fast and easy. They don't want to work much anymore, they rely on machines now.

There have always been some of these lazy types around. I think they believe that the world owes them aliving and they shouldn't have to work. Where they have gotten this weird idea I don't know. Alot of the reason that people who are in need of health care either can't get or can't afford it is because of these people who feel this way. THey have scammed the system and so now things cost so much honest people can't afford good health care.

you are so right and ive so often wondered the same thing myself. i tried to teach my kids and most learned except here lately im wondering about my youngest, which is 32yrs now and seeming to get lazy. he still works but calls off way to much. maybe daughters bf is having a bad influence on him C, daughters bf is only 28yrs. and i dont think ive seen a lazier person in all my life.

yes there are ones now who are really lazy.. even with their schooling / education most graduates now do not even know the proper grammar... and i do not know what kind of work they would get when they do not see importance of school.. and yes i have seen so many lazy especially those ones who would abuse the system and claim and claim... i have seen those too but sad to say this is the reality. That is why we, as parents are teaching our kids to appreciate what they have yet at the same time knows that everything we gave them are from hard work..the money we shed for them are from hard work, days of endless work in order to provide for them, as young as they are now, we teach them the value of working and at the same time appreciating what is around them. In that way, they would grow as hard working adults who knows how to appreciate, respect and knows their responsibilities.

TINA I have read some responses...but I don't think we can change any thing right now! this is the new generation...the generation that grew up with every thing at their finger tip[ not the third world countries][ they are still poor as ever]but the young in our countries who think the world owes something to them! in the generations to come these people will face a big problem....thank goodness it won't be ours to solve!

I think a lot of the problem is with the parents. They were given everything as a child and still expect someone to give them things. Most children nowdays don't realize what their parents had to go through to get them all the things they wanted. Of course there are some exceptions, but it seems less and less all the time. I am disabled and have applied for all kinds of help. I have been denied for some of it, but see others in better shape than I am gettng it. It makes me mad, but I don't know how to stop it. I am honest and if I lied I know I would get caught, and some people don't seem to feel that way.

I am on disability, and so is my husband. We have come to accept our low income (accepted it from the beginning, and learned to live within it). We save up for te things that we want to do, and we plan ahead. As for "work," we both have books published, and we work hard to promote and sell them. We do what we can on line, and pikc up money here and there where we can, doing what we can. No scams, just us doing our best to do what we need to do, and to live within or means. We get a litte behind on the bills now and then, but we always have our plans made on how we will catch up. We do what we can. I know what you are saying, though. I have noticed this too.

Nowadays there are many cases of early pregnancy and teens getting married early. Sad to say, many of those teenagers don't understand what is it being parents. I also observed that it happens to teenagers who doesn't have good family background. Their parents neglect them too and that is what they are doing to their kids. When I walk in the street, in the church and also in market areas, I also see people asking for money. They are of different ages. Some are just kids, some in the middle age and some are old. Those kids must be with their parents but they have no parents around. It seems they are like mushrooms who just sprouted in the land. When it comes to those people in their middle ages and some old people who are still capable of working, it seems that they consider asking money to other people as their job. They just depend to other people mercies for their every day living. That is the reason, I don't like giving money to them because it just seems like I am allowing them to be lazy. I just hope that one day, they will realize that it is not good depending on other people. They still have energy and they can find work which is better and will improve their life.

I have seen a huge difference in people and work ethics too. It seems that people are more about what they want than what they need and to be honest, I think there are far too many people that think they are owed. I know that in my position at work I have heard new employees there that have talked about what they want the company to give them and nothing about what they will give the company. Our culture has certainly taken a shift.

I think you're on to something there KH! I think that the generation more than 30's (even 40's) are the hardworking ones. I think they've reared children who have been the object of all the parent's hardwork. Maybe that's why they've become so lazy. And maybe that's why they're all about the same age.

Hello Tina! I'm in my early 30s, well i will be in my mid 30s next year. And you are right, i'm lazy. I lost my job more than two years ago and that didn't worry me. My boss ran away and didn't even give me my salary. There's no way i could reach him as he was from another country and he ran to his motherland when the company went bankrupt. I went to look for another job but i stayed there only for two months as i wasn't feeling comfortable there. Yes i was choosy! So i worked at home, earned more than what i earned before and was satisfied with that.

I think,that because most of them were given a lot of things ,while growing up,they got used to it,and now they feel entitled! They think that they are owed,and they deserve it just by being alive! I was watching these students in Quebec,protesting for two months against the measly 345$/year hike in their tuition.Never mind that is the cheapest in Canada! I hope that they will be kicked out of school.Nobody is forcing them to get a higher education.May be if they give up their smart phones,or their cars(yes,some do have cars),their Starbuck coffees,or heavens forbid!work part time,they would not have any problems! I agree that it is partly the parents fault, easier to give them things than to teach them how to get them by honest means.Then the parents are surprised when the kids want more,and tell them let the school and the government give it to you!!These young people do not want to wait,for things.they want everything NOW!!!Never mind working and building up for something!