My Friend Is Counfused Because Of 2 Lovers....

Having 2 lovers is the problem. Very difficult to see the best of each when they are both in his thoughts. What do they each have to offer? What does he like about each one? What are the things most important to him in a relationship? Which girl has those characteristics?

He has to be engaged because he is nearly 26??????? Who says so? I feel pity for those girls. Sorry to say but a man who is abusing 2 women at the same time is not very reliable. And if it comes to him: if he can't choose none of them is the right one. He should better be single and look for someone else.

hi dassodils the man has to pick the one he loves the most, simple as that and why on earth is he having two lovers in the first place. if he has to marry surely he can only marry one,If he thinks he has tohave two women somethings really wrong with him, letone go for Goodness sake.we cannot choose for him as he has to do this for himself. He sounds like he is a player and does not want to marry and settle with only one girl. I think the girls should leave him and let him play his games with other women.

No one can solve the problem but himself. He has to choose between the two or else he will end up losing both once those girls find out that he is a cheater. He will never know when his actions backfires him.

hi:) I think you better tell him to choose the one he love most, his feeling for the both is not equal for sure, because that's impossible to happen. goodluck to your friend!

I keep hearing from older people that if we can't choose between two lovers, we should choose a third one. One of them should be closer to him, but if he really can't decide, it might be better to leave those girls alone. Maybe he isn't in love, he just thinks he is. It's not good to play this game with both for a long time.

Your friend needs to choose which one. Nobody else can. He needs to figure out which one will help him move forward in life. Way out the pros and cons on both of them. he needs to figure out which one he thinks he will be happy with in twenty years down the road. Good luck to him!

To say the truth, I do not think this guy actually loves any of this girls, if you think a little he is cheating both of them, I don´t understand why he should be engaged within one year since he is 25, maybe a cultural thing, but I definitely believe that he should grown up before he do the next step. Maybe this is not the reply you were looking for, but, it is the way I see it.

He can't speed up engagement if he is still undecided. It's impossible to marry both persons too so he needs to decide who to be with. In the first place, he shouldn't have 2 lovers. He'd better correct his life and live with the help of God.

Hi.And the two girls know each other? I don't want to give any advice to your friend.I only want to tell the two girls both leave your friend.

It seems like he's been dating 2 girls while one girl is not aware of the other girl, is this correct? Regardless, your friend makes his life difficult on himself. He can take both of them - problem solved. Of course, there is culture involved where people will be talking. Polygamy is allowed in some culture. If he comes to Utah, he would not have problem engaging and marrying 2 ladies. On the other hand, you cannot solve his problem. Breaking up with both girls is another solution - of course it is easier said than done. Still, he won't have headache. Just start a new one with one girl.

Hello Dassodils, Liking someone and loving someone are different things. He can like both his friends, he can love both his friends, but he cannot love both of them as lovers. I read somewhere that, "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one because if you truly loved the first one, you wouldn't have loved another".

choose the sexy pretty one, he cannot say which he loves more, but the two girls must be differnet, so choose a prettier firl to be his wife if he has to marry so young.

Why does he have to be engaged within one year? He's still a baby at 25 and also at 26. Is there a huge inheritance waiting for him with the stipulation he is married by 26 or something? ANYWAY, if he can't choose between two lovers maybe neither one is "the ONE". If he was really in love with either one he wouldn't be confused. So I doubt either one is the one he should spend the "rest of his life with". He's confused because he's still young and should still be exploring his options.

He Has to be engaged by age 26? Wow! Ok it is simple . tell him to sit down and answer this question. Which woman does he love more. The woman who he has more fun with, the one he sees more often? The one he has more in common with. That is the woman to choose.

I don't think anyone can help your friend decide which one to keep. I have a girl friend in the same situation, she has two guys and both of them are good in different ways. I am good friends with one of them, and she cheated on him to get with the second guy. I wanted to not like the second guy, but he actually is a good guy also. If I had to choose for her, I could not do it, even though I am loyal to the first guy as far as friendship. Sometimes all three of them go out together, even though the first guy does not like it and wants his girl back. That's why I feel if you are in a committed relationship, you should not allow yourself to get too close to another person because naturally your feelings will grow and you will find yourself in these type of situations. it complicates things because even if he chooses one, he still will have strong feelings for the other one.

im not sure you can choose for him, he needs to sit down and get that straightened out and find out whoch girl is better to meet what he needs in life, if he loves them both he will have to give one up and move on with the other.. i think deep down he may know which one he likes more, but is just afraid to let go of the other one.. i know i would know , if it were me.. do you know eitehr girl and of so are they both nice or whom do you like better, if you dont know them then how can you give advice.. i say pick the one that treats him the best and truly will be a good partner..

It happened to me years ago, and i have to let go both of them as i realized i was not being fair to either of them. The truth should come out as it would be the only way to know who loves him more, and if still both stick with him, then he needs time for himself alone to full understand himself in terms of who he would choose.

LOL he has two lovers and now he is having a problem LOL. maybe he should evaluate the two or maybe leave the two and realize who he really wants to be with. yeah i guess he should do that, because he has been cheating on both the girls, so might as well just end it and stop it and just go back to the one that really matters to him most.

how did he have 2 lovers lucky man or highly unlucky man if you ask me, who can he see his self living with for the rest of his life? thats the answer