They called the cops on my kids

How do I deal with my neighbours who are not my kind? I just throw them out of my life. I have a number of neighbours and just one is getting on our nerves. I have placed them good and proper. Their coconuts have been falling in our compound as also the fronds damaging my property. We brought this to their notice in a civil way but they did nothing about it. We had to alert the police as they were expecting us to pick up their stuff each time and give it to them. Now they lower their produce by using a rope. The rest of the neighbours are wonderful who more than make up for this one nuisance - good riddance of bad rubbish.

I live in senior housing and most of my neighbors are miserable. That is not true of all but of many of my neighbors. I mostly avoid my neighbors so that I do not have conflicts. When I first moved into this complex, I was eager to be involved in the community. I was real friendly. I ended up getting dragged into situations. I was pushed around and taken advantage of. Now I just avoid my neighbors if at all possible but sometimes we cross paths. I am always friendly and smiling but always "oh so busy" and "need to go". I do not stop to talk but I am always pleasant.

Although I would not pick on the daughter, you should get together with the parents of other kids that have had problems with this neughbor and go to talk to them. Fortunatly I have never had such problems in my neighborhood. And the police in my country would never come to see such minor problem. In a world where there´s real violence, it is stupid to call the cops because the children rode their bikes.

Oh my gosh!! First, why can't the kids ride on the side walk in front of the house? I thought sidewalks and streets were city property anyway (???). I mean, if they were riding all over the lawn or garden to damage their yard that's one thing, but how can anything be damaged from riding their bikes on the sidewalk or the street?? It would have been more diplomatic for her to talk to the parents first - afterall, they are neighbors . . . and neighbors should work things out together, civilly like you said, because everyone lives so close together. I don't think I would have been too happy about cops coming over either - just seems so unnecessary - and it puts a thorn in the neighborhood, ya know? That being said, sometimes I HAD to call the cops on some neighbors - but we live in an apartment so that's a bit different. Super loud music and partying well past 10 on a weeknight. First I write notes to leave on their door, and that usually takes care of things . . . but some people could care less. I have a manager living on the premises who is always supportive of us . . . she takes care of our complaints for the most part, but if it's really bad, there's nothing she can do and she even recommends to call the cops directly ourselves. Hope it works out with your neighbors!

Hello :). I don't quite understand why he would get angry at kids riding their bicycles in the sidewalk in front of his house. Does he park his car there and it was scratched? Other than that I mostly agree about the not calling the cops, but if someone was really damaging his property, as in painting graffiti on his walls or damaging his car on purpose he was right to call the cops. A direct confrontations with the kids could get ugly, and in most cases talking with their parents would be useless since they will probably deny everything. Besides, if something was really damaged, he would need the cops report for the insurance. And what do I do? I have only have problems with one, since before I moved here my house was empty for some time and he used to jump to the yard and take the fruits and vegetables that grow in here (there are some trees and plants planted all around). When I moved at first he asked me for stuff, which I gave him, but after a while it seems he grew tired of asking and just kept taking stuff. I told him to stop since this was private property, he stopped but some time later he threw herbicide on the side of my yard that was next the fence I share with him. I told him to never do that again and I stopped giving him stuff because his herbicide damaged all that side and killed some of the plants I planted after I moved in. He got angry at me because I told him to stop again, it seems he kept believing this was his, and now we don't talk to each other, but if he does another thing I would call the police on him, since is either that or attacking him, since it would mean just talking doesn't work.

I haven't had any issues with my neighbors since we moved to our new apartment. Most of our neighbors do not have kids most are college students themselves and a few do have kids that are in school. But pretty much everyone in our complex keeps to themselves. I've seen all of my neighbors they always say hello when they see me and my husband with our daughter because she is so cute to them so they say something nice to us. Which is nice. At our old place one of our neighbors that lived next to us thought that there end of the hallways stairs belongs to just them and the people across them. The women got all made at me for taking my dog down that side of the stairs to take him to the dog park either I go down that side or go down my side and all around the building to do that and I didn't feel like doing that. My mom heard her call me a b!tch and I was about to turn back around and smack the old blond women and be like excuse me when your up all night with a newborn you get every right to use what ever stair way you want and nobody in this building owns the stairs its everyone's and if you have a problem with that take it up with the leasing office. They got kicked out not to long after that so I think other people complained about them. Now if I did have and issue with any of my neighbors I think I would try to talk it out with them first since we are all adults but if they wouldn't and I've tried more then once to talk to them and they wouldn't listen I would take it up with the cops or the leasing office first in my case.

I would not take it out on the daughter. I am sorry that you have neighbors that won't come and talk to you. Did they do something to damage the property? If so, they should have came over and talked to you. Hope things get better.

Oh my! I have conflicts with neighbors in my trailer court. People I use to be best friends but can't stand to look at them now. I do think people should talk to each other whether they like each other or not if there is problems. cause if not and the problem is let go..it will explode. Til the cops get called in. I know next time something happens in my trailer park with certain people the cops will be called by me. I am tried of letting things go and being the nice one only to have my name and my daughters slandered.

Fortunately none of my neighbours are like yours and i have never had any issues with any of them.We have been together for the last 73 years and such things have never taken place.We have grown up together and we understand each other very well. Yes, a few new tenants have also come but nobody has had any trouble with them as yet as they all seem to be decent people and nobody will go to the extent of calling the cops for trivial issues.

Don't be evil, because someone else is evil.

well, sorry to hear about that, you are right they should have told you first in a nice way and then you guys could have worked it out.. i am very lucky to live where i do.. the crime rate is almost non existant.. as we live close to town waling distance and it's a little subdivison and almost all the neighbors are some how related.. to each other, eveyone knows and watches out for each other.. like my mom use to live next door to me, and her neighbor her daughter lived across from her and so on.. but im happy we dont have issues like that.. on a occasion someone will move out and we all aorry about who moves in... but we know too that this neighberhood is owned by a big company ballhomes and there pretty strict on who they let move in.. so im pretty happy in my home so far been her almost 3 years.. and hope to be many more..

Yikes! If they truly do have damaged property, it seems like they're blaming all the kids in the neighborhood for it just to point fingers. It's a bad thing if some kids did damage something of theirs, but they'll have to prove which kids it was, etc., if it comes to court. Some people just have nothing better to do than to start trouble, and some of those people just happen to be your neighbors. I actually don't have conflicts with my neighbors. My husband and I live in a relatively small house and have homes of similar size on both sides of us, with just driveways between, so we live close to two families. I go out of my way NOT to make an issue. For example, the neighbor to our left has three large dogs that are louder than anything, and on top of that, our neighbor himself doesn't seem to be all "in there" and yells, berates, and even argues with his dogs. (Once we heard him scream to his dog, "You TOLD me you had to go to the bathroom, so GO!") I personally think it's hilarious, and he doesn't abuse his dogs, and they don't damage property, so despite him being loud almost constantly, I let it go. To be honest, I actually kind of like how loud he is, since he's crazy and some of the things he says make for good conversation with friends later on! So, on a lasting note...there are a lot of things I could report, complain about, call the cops on, etc., on my neighbors, but these are people I have to live next to for an indefinite amount of time. It seems counter-productive to me to report anything they do unless it could harm me or my property, and I've been lucky enough to have a crazy neighbor rather than a destructive one. Good luck with your neighbors...hopefully they get to the bottom of the destroyed property issue and can leave you guys alone after that!

In here, neighbors won't call the cops if there is not serious problems. Normally they will do compromise first or just remind parents about the kids. I am lucky, i don't have many neighbors living around and we live in happiness. My neighbor often sweep my small yard because his customers often park their motorbikes in there. I don't mind about it even though sometime i have no place to drive my motorbike out.

i hate it when your neighbors do stuff like this, especially if they do worse things then you and then they try to do something involving others

Wow, really? Calling the cops instead of coming over and confronting you about the situation first? That is unreal, and quite not right. You would think if they really want to be neighborly if something was bothering them they would try to confront you first instead of calling the cops. I mean really now are people really that afraid and think the Best thing is calling a cop?

I am lucky that I don't have an issue with this....I think it was uncalled for...maybe in the past they have had problems with other neighbors and are now just reading things into the new neighborhood.....like blaming the kids for things...I don't think they were justified and they should have talked to you first....it's been ages since I have had problems with any neighbors....hopefully it will stay that way!

Ok so I read through a good part of the responses here and from what I understand, the cops were called because there was a pinhole in their boat and they are blaming your kids for it? If that is the case then I would have to question it. For starters, how in the world did these kids put a pinhole in the boat?? They would have had to have some sort of tool and it would take time & effort. It isn't the kind of damage that would happen accidentally. Why are they blaming your kids when there are others in the neighborhood? Did they see your kids actually doing something? Are they expecting you to pay for the damages? What exactly did the cops say? Someone mentioned that they need a police report in order to make an insurance claim and that is true. Could it be that there is damage to the boat by some other cause and they are just looking to make an insurance claim thus blaming your kids? I mean if your kids really did do some damage to their property, I'd be getting after the kids and how they went about informing me would be secondary. I do agree with you that talking to the parents is usually the more neighborly way to handle things. I live in an area with a lot of kids and don't have a problem with them. If I did, in most cases I would probably talk to the parents. If one of the did damage to my car though, I would be calling the police. I'd have to for insurance purposes. I would still also talk to the parents and tell them what happened and why I called the cops. Oh and I'd have to be 100% sure that I KNEW who did it before giving names to the cops.

oh my, i do remember those days well. when the kids were little we had problems a few times with neighbors. usually with ones that had no kids and didnt like kids here lately though we have also had problems with a neighbor with a retarded man thats like a child. i think they should watch them better if they are keeping them home. this one comes into our garage and once came over and argued with me to buy a DVD he had. luckily my son was home and led him back home. cause hes a big man and was freaking me out.

I've had run-ins with neighbors before. A couple of times it was because my kids, and whoever they were playing with were very noisy. The neighbor to left complained but didn't call the cops. She was very rude in complaining though. It stressed me out trying to always remind the kids not to make too much noise, but she eventually moved, so that was resolved. The neighbor to the right, who's a cop I think, also complained. But she was very nice about it. Just asked us if we could 'try' and make the kids not make too much noise. So, it was OK. I still make tell the kids, but it isn't too much of a stress.

That's a bit of a leap to go from complaining about the kids riding on the sidewalk to property damage - I'd think at some point in between your neighbors would've had the guts to confront you and the other parents in the area about the damage to their property before calling the police about the problem. I mean, it's kind of hard to know about the issue if you're not told about it, right? If after that point it kept on happening, I can see calling the police about it (although, it also depends on the extent of the damage).