Can you say ‘sorry’ easily?

You are analyzing and trying to find an answer why people are having a hard time saying sorry or admitting once fault? The answer is so simple, it is because of what we call "PRIDE". Most people specially people with degrees, ranks, positions, and higher affiliations in life are people who have very high pride. They do not accept mistakes easily and they tend to argue and stand on what they think is right even if it is wrong. In fact it is not all the time that saying sorry is so hard to do. It only becomes harder if you really mean it like you are really sorry. But in my place, most people keep on saying sorry without any effort and keep on repeating same mistakes. So I guess people are people but in my part, I am always the one who say sorry even if it's not my fault just to end whatever misunderstanding. Can I say sorry easily? my answer is "it depends".

The word 'sorry' is not as simple as it looks. The moment one admits a fault along with it comes the obligation of making good the losses if any, caused by one's mistakes. Not all will simply forgive a person and say 'Let bygones be bygones'.

If I am wrong I say sorry. In arguments and I am wrong I am saying I am sorry. But sometimes just to end up a very heated arguments I also say I am sorry. It will not lessen my personality, just letting that person we are not all perfect as you were saying.

I think that for many people saying you are sorry seems like a weakness. Because of that they are afraid to say it, because others might think they are weak. Well I learned a long time ago that to say I am sorry means just that I am sorry, in fact it means I am strong and respect myself enough that I can ask for forgiveness and admit that I was wrong. Except with Hubby, with him I never admit I'm wrong?

If i think i am right, i wont say sorry, for sure. However if i think that, ah, i am wrong already, better say sorry then i say sorry. However i don't know why my boyfriends sometime told me that i am so stubborn, don't know to say sorry also. But how? after analysis whole things, i still feel that i am right, why i have to say sorry?

I know no man is perfect. We all make mistakes. So for me, to say sorry or to apologize, is not something very hard to do. But I have to admit that it is not really easy to do either. It is not about to actually say it that is hard, it is the manner, or the right time to say it out, that is hard to grasp sometimes.

Hi Kala. Nice to see you after a long time and that that too relating to a subject which is very close to my heart .I always am proud of myself for admitting my mistakes and readily saying sorry. My wife always complains that she is never able to have a quarrel with me as I always douse her fire with a sorry immediately. No, it is not for convenience sake I am made that way. I always like to admit my mistake so that I can create a space to learn the right thing. Coming to the problem you are citing the main cause is the arrogance of the people that prevents them from admitting their mistakes. Some people cannot be right and they try to be right by trying to make their wrongs right. They are pathetic and we have to pity them as they are doomed to stay stagnant unable to explore all the vistas of the joy in this wonderful life.

I find it a bit easier to say "I'm sorry" than to say "I was wrong". Who likes to admit they are wrong? I don't think I've said it too many times... though I say it a lot to my kids. With my husband I have more trouble with it. I think it's because it makes me vulnerable and puts him in a power position. My husband is not possessive, controlling or abusive, I just feel "small" if I admit I'm wrong. When he apologizes for something I don't believe him because, as I say to him, "You're just going to go out and do it again." So perhaps the real reason for it being difficult is that when you say you are sorry you are saying you will not do it again, and you can't guarantee you won't do it again. As Dr. Phil says, when you say "but" that means forget everything I said before that. So if you say "I'm sorry, but..." and give an excuse then you are not really apologizing, you are making excuses. You say you have no trouble saying you're sorry if you have inconvenienced someone. That is an easier situation to say I'm sorry. I will always apologize for being late or whatever. But when my husband takes off early from work to go golfing and doesn't tell me and shows up late for dinner, then apologizes. I don't accept that apology because I know there is a good chance he'll do it again (yes, this just happened recently). The biggest "I'm sorry" I have ever had to say was to the two men who were possible bio-dads. I told the one who wasn't the father that the baby was his and he stuck with me right until the test results came in. It took months but when we decided to start a relationship again we talked about it and I apologized. I took some bad advice. I also apologized to bio-dad because I think I put him through a bad time too. Whether he appreciated the apology I don't know. He has 4 kids with 4 different women so it was something he's used to. I will not apologize to my siblings because I feel they owe me a heck of a lot of apologies. I am the youngest and they continue to treat me like a baby even though I'm almost 50 years old! Having said all that, I think it really depends on the situation and how extreme the "mistake" is and as you said how it affected the other person.

I feel that it is important to acknowledge if I have made a mistake and will apologize. When our emotions are involved in a situation, we can so easily jump to the wrong conclusion, as our experiences will tend to get affected by our emotions. It is very difficult to see that one is wrong in such a situation. There is an old saying that the "truth will set you free" and this is so very true. To not admit to a mistake is almost like telling a lie. The ego can get in the way so easily like this and the other old saying that "pride comes before a fall" is true.. As a Zen practitioner, I always live with the intent of never letting pride get in the way of what is true, even if I do end up looking foolish.. It is only temporary after all. _Derek

Dear Kala, It is difficult to handle egoistic people. Those people never ready to accept their mistakes even though they realized the mistake. . Personally I don’t hesitate to ask a sorry if I know that mistake is with me. When I use the word ‘sorry’ I really mean it, I won’t ask an apology passively to satisfy anybody. At the same time, if I am sure that I have not done any mistake then it is difficult to get an apology from me.

i have said sorry many times when i realised that i was wrong in an issue.nobody is perfect,we all make mistakes and we should learn how to say sorry when we are wrong

I think persons who can tell at least " sorry" to another person to whom he/she did an improper or wrong act are having attitude blessed by God. It is pleasant to have such persons in our home, office and all fields of life we work.

its not easy for me to say sorry especially when i know that i have done nothing wrong. but when it is my fault, i immediately give my apology tot the person because i dont want to have this guilty feeling. but when i know that its not my mistake, why should i say sorry. i find it really hard.

I can apologize easily. If I am wrong I am wrong and I can live with that. Some people think that they are perfect and that they are always right. This is what causes that behavior. Their ego can grow enough that the can lose many friends. Arrogant people tend to have few friends. They self centered nature tends to put off a lot of people. I know people that are so arrogant they have trouble making friendships last. If they argue at some point with a friend they prefer to put an end to a friendship than saying their sorry.

I personally do not mind saying 'sorry' if I have made a mistake. I even apologize to my kids when I am wrong. I see nothing wrong in that. Having said that, I have to admit that there are people to whom I do not apologize even when I am wrong. These are the people who have used my apology back at me when I have apologized for mistakes earlier. My apology was used as an excuse to prove me wrong in everything else I did. So, I refuse to apologize to these people. I also know a few people who are insensitive and do not apologize for their mistakes. Even when they know they have done wrong, they assume the other person has forgiven them and it is their birthright to be forgiven for everything they say or do.

Dear Kalav Unfortunately, Sorry today has lost much of its value specially in countries where people find the word sorry a great way to save things. Unlike this person who doesnt say sorry easily, I have known people who would say Sorry at the drop of a hat and hey, they dont mean anything... it is just some word they need to say. I fail to understand why the need to say sorry when you arent anyway! But then, sometimes it is good to find people who are too egoistic and too shrewd not to say Sorry... at least the word doesnt go waste with them. Personally, I neither say Sorry nor Thanks or even Thank You unless I genuinely have the need and the feeling of guilt or even happiness. I have been mistaken for this attitude of mine many times even here at mylot but I have grown to learn that and respect the words that I say. And many do believe that saying Sorry is politeness but then how many care for this politeness in today's world? Here in the real world, you know how things are in present days and many a times you would get wrongly interpreted as trying to lobby or persuade for personal gains. Sad happenings in today's world I guess.

Ah, sounds like me. I am aware of my mistakes but it's hard for me to apologize. Rather than apologizing, I would just change what need to be changed at the time and do something extra for the person. I guess, I am the 'arrogant' type... If I am sound boastful to my faults, blame it to the old age which makes me accepting all about me comfortably...

well it would be easy for a person to say sorry when you he or she is not being serious about it but it is very hard to say sorry when you are sincere.

I felt very difficult to tell sorry to everyone. We people used to tell sorry if we something wrong to them by mistake, which can make create for the other persons. Really we people just get rid from the mistakes which we did by telling a single word sorry. I wounder what we people do if such a word is not find.

Yes people behave differently and their response to situation is also different that is why making apologies and asking for excuses might be hard for them.Yes it is an obvious reason that is related to one's arrogance and pride right but then they might be proud of doing such because it can compensate them.Precisely these people are naive with their own behaviors unaware that is socially unacceptable and that they are hurting lots of people already.Family upbringing and lots of factors contribute to ones behavior maybe socially i could say.But who can guess they might change one day and eventually realized their own mistakes.