How concerned are you for your friends?

HiViju! If I find that any of my friend is depressed, I would tell him/her - "The ups and downs in life are very important to keep us going, because a straight line even in an ECG means that we are not alive" You see whenever any of our friend is feeling down and dejected, we need to pep him/her up by giving him some positive examples/experiences. Life is full of miseries and tension and we need to tell him that - Life is not without hurdles, but we need to cross hurdles one at a time and this will take us to our goals. And like-wise when I am feeling sad or tensed I approach my friends for their advice and guidance and this help me come out of trouble. Have a great day!

I will ask them going out for eating and drinking...and then we may go to dance...Sure my friends will be happy again. I did and it works...:)

Dear Viju, Your discussion made me to think, do I have great friends in my real life (I must admit I am in touch with my online friends than offline). After thinking sometime I got the answer, Yes, I have, even though I can count them in my fingers. Now the life is really hectic dear, not getting enough time to get in touch with friends and all relatives. But I feel proud, when I am in touch any friend, she says, I was just thinking about you and you called me in the same time (often this happens with my two friends). May be I am calling after a long gap but I get this reply from them. Once in a while, talking long time, really give us a nice feeling.

The fact which caused depression to my friend must be found and according to that,i would appreciate him or her and help him or her to overcome that.when you are depressed it important to go out and spend time with beloved once.it will certainly help big time.one can do whatever he or she likes to overcome such situation.

I've never had any quarrells with my best friend-maybe because we're so alike, I don't know. I always tell her when I don't agree with her (rarely :D) :). When she's upset, I usually joke around, write funny poems (I was told that I was good at it :D), take her out (to a theatre or a café), reminiscne about funny moments... and of course, listen to her and give a shoulder to cry on.

Well, i am not the kind of friend that would text others when they are bored or just for fun. We usually just chat through facebook. But i am a friend where really care about others. Most of my friends are like that too. We look for others back without questioning about it later or tomorrow. We help them without a question or asking for reward if, all we did was ask what the problem it and solve it together until everything come back to normal. That's what me and my friends are like.

I am always around when a friend needs me. I always did my best to be with their company when they needed me. My friends do the same thing- so it's a give and take situation. If they never let me down during my bad days, I am always obliged to do the same. Not because I want to get even- but because I love my friends as they love me too.

Hi viju Well, I am confined to a home prison. And the only way to reach out is Internet. I can take calls too on my cell phone but might not be in the right position to make a long distant call. That is a fact and my limitation. In my better days, I did travel to Delhi to meet one friend who was in a mess after some theft in his room. Then there was another classmate when I went away to Jaipur (it was in 1991 - only 15 days before my annual examinations) but I had to reach her as she was down with high viral fever and her parents car had crashed. I never considered any kind of limitations when it came to friends - and some special ones. Today, scenarios have changed but I still do have the same feelings. I know I am not great but still, I am a good listener and in case any of my friends needs me to listen or even provide some help (within my capacities) I never fail. Something that I have always felt happy about is the fact that I can stand by someone when in need. ps: If I can, I would definitely help and try my best to get that friend out of the depression and there are different ways... depending on what the depression is about.

I have a lot of friends. And I care for them a lot!

Hello Viju0410...How are you? Wish you are in a good condition of health. Reminding nowadays there are so many people get sick, such as DB fever and thypoid. Well... When someone is depressed and sad...Here what I will do for her/him: First of all, I will be a good listener for her/him. Listen carefully what she/he wants to say...give some comments if necessary. If she/he already calm down and be a little quiet, I will give her/him some question related to her/his problem which I still do not understand or if something in her/his story bothers my mind. Then, secondly, I will try to suggest something which I think it will make her/him comfort and relax. Third, I will ask her/him what she/he wanna do next. And the last, I will try to help her/him to find a way out for her/his problem. Whether the problem will be solved soon or not, I will try to suggest something for her/his own good at the next daily life. Maybe I only can make her/him feel better. It is ok. At least, she/he knows that I will always be their good friend and always ready to give my shoulder for them to cry on.

Depressed? just listen. Offer yourself as her shoulder to cry on. Do not give advises. Just Listen.=)and make him/her feel like you are always there for him/her.

I try to give my friends words of encouragement. I always try to be there, if not physically, they can always call me or send me a message.

I think the fact that we are still alive and breathing is one thing that we should remind people who are depressed to be thankful for. We are all human, we have ups and down, but it's normal. Whenever one of my friend is sad, the very first thing that I try to inculcate in their mind is that there are reason why we are still alive and we should be in constant search to find that reason. Through that, they will somehow feel a bit excited what life still has to offer despite of their sadness.