Facebook sort of stresses me out...
@ethansmom0129 (136)
United States
April 19, 2012 1:32pm CST
I login expecting to see friendly and funny statuses and mostly it's DRAMA! Does anyone else have this problem? I don't believe the internet is the place to expose all of your worst attributes, but hey I guess it's their life. But, it kind of stresses ME out. I have deleted friends who have depressing, woe is me status' quite frequently. I am sorry I just don't want to hear about how bad your life is and why your life is so terrible, because only you can make it better. My life is nowhere close to perfect, but I don't post about all the personal issues. I may rant about gas prices, and so on, but isn't that what it's for?
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@GemmaR (8517)
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20 Apr 12
I know what you mean about this, and sometimes I just don't understand why some people feel the need to write quite so much about their lives online when there isn't any need for it at all. There is one girl who I have on my contacts list who has full scale arguments with people online and this gets her into a lot of trouble because she isn't the kind of person who wants to confront people face to face, so when people continue the arguments she feels flustered and often ends up in tears because of it, so it isn't the best thing to do at all.
@ethansmom0129 (136)
• United States
1 May 12
That is terrible, and exactly the kind of stuff I was referring to. I don't want everybody knowing the bad parts of my life, that's what my close friends & family are for. Some people don't understand the difference between social and private life and then they come upon issues like the girl you know. Ridiculous, really. Are some people just lacking a certain brain function, like maybe common sense?
@TheworD (42)
• United States
19 Apr 12
I as well find it sometimes depressing, I use to check my status at minimum; once a day. Now, I can't be bothered. Drama every single day, whenever I checked. The worst is when your family members start posting that sensitive "need to not know" information. You know the stuff I like to call "everything but their social". Is it a cry for help, when I want to tell them to "shut-up"? What really gets me going is the truth games on the site, I'm just waiting for someone to get hurt over that bright idea.
@ethansmom0129 (136)
• United States
1 May 12
Exactly, I feel the same way sometimes. I went on a "Delete Mission" and got rid of alot of those people and unsubscribed to the ones I didn't want to delete. And now, I find fb a much more pleasant environment. It's hard to delete all the ones you want, because some are family members and people I see on a daily basis and don't want tension because of facebook, so that's why I chose to just unsubscribe to their statuses and updates. And yes, those truth games are crazy and some questions are mean. I have blocked all apps related to those silly, hurtful "games".
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 12
Facebook have many members from all around the world with many types of character , one man meat can be another man poison , some people may take it theraupatic to dish out their problems in the facebook , while other do not and value their privacy , while other like other people opinions about their dilemma and opinions, as u do , if u don like them , then block them or delete their friendship, as u can also set private setting to invited readers only.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32695)
• Calgary, Alberta
19 Apr 12
I know many people love ranting and complaining about their life.,... they could have posted all their rants and agony in Mylot or upload a youtube video vlog and they could have make money from all that whining that they do. I only use facebook to brag my achievements and post pictures....Its not the best place for ranting stuff.
@ethansmom0129 (136)
• United States
1 May 12
I totally agree with you. I mainly use fb to keep in touch with people I may not call all the time and post pics and like you said, brag a little.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
19 Apr 12
I don't have drama queen acquaintances. What bothers me about my acquaintances:
-non-stop talking about brainless reality tv shows
-hardcore football fans, mostly boys, who are in principle friends, but cheer for different teams, and then they argue about their preferences in a way stylish enemies wouldn't do (swear words galore and violence)
@ethansmom0129 (136)
• United States
1 May 12
Oh, I know. Sometimes, you feel like you have misjudged alot of people's intelligence. I have a friend who talks perfect English with great dictation and on facebook sounds like a rapper (and she is a caucasian girl with a corporate job). I just don't get it, do some people not think maybe your boss will linger over to your page at sometime or another. Is that the kind of things you want them to read coming from you? But, then again it's not really my problem, it's just annoying and makes you really ponder about some people.
@rekhum (2420)
• India
19 Apr 12
It doesn't stress me since i never had any one in my friends list who has the 'Woe is me status frequently'. Besides, I have never thought of deleting a friend until now. And yes, i'd agree with you that it would make no sense to post our own personal issue.
@misspipsi (237)
• Bulgaria
19 Apr 12
Not this exact same problem but facebook kinda makes me lose faith in humanity(that's overstating it,of course). Ever since I made a facebook profile I discovered that all my friends apparantly really like to complain,argue or share perfectly pointless things.I can't say this enough 'Facebook is a social network,not a diary' I don't want to constantly hear about your problems,I have enough of my own.Why not post something positive or beautiful sometimes?
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
it happens, people really do do that, they announce everything in FB
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
20 Apr 12
There are indeed people who constantly complain about their daily problems on their facebook status,and if they do that all the time it's pretty annoying .I understand someone who posts such messages once in a while;we all feel the need from time to time to express our negative feelings and sorrows to someone,and if we don't have anyone who could listen to us and give us advice,we might complain and seek help from our online friends.However,if whining online about personal issues becomes a habit,that person will probably lose many friends when they grow tired of reading so many complaints.
@tammymarie37 (260)
• United States
20 Apr 12
Facebook is like the place for drama it seems. Everytime log on, I constantly see someone whining about this, or complaning about that. Its like deal with it yourself if your life is so bad, no body else wants to hear it.My daughter is right there with them :) I keep telling her that posting everything about your life on Facebook is not the best thing to do. The sad part it seems alot of people feed into it and before long there is a long discussion and sometimes it isn't nice.
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
I agree that facebook can be stressing at times. What I normally do when I see negative rantings of sort from my friend's status, I would ask if is there anything I can do to help him/her, well that depends on the situation of course. Because for all we know, those status written by our friends is a subtle way of them expressing that they need help but too shy or afraid to ask. In the event that they were already given advice and help but still rant on facebook, I usually just hide them from my dashboard. I do not sort to the un-friend option, I just hide or unsubscribe from them.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
Well if you want to see positive statuses and posts in your facebook account first thing you need to do is start adding positive people instead of people who loves drama and hatred and pain and any negative things that they usually share in a website like facebook they kind of output their anger in their statuses because they think it's cool or it will help them relieve their stress but it just don't work that way. So free yourself from these people it's your choice if you want to unsubscribe from any news or posts from these people and start adding people who loves to post happy and positive statuses.
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
19 Apr 12
Oh no, I don't want to see that king of drama on my wall either.
There is an option saying "unsubscribe from X.Y's status updates" and news feed about different games etc, I use that option bravely Until I only see those people's and pages updates that interest me. Since mostly the real friends updates are left, I'm not afraid that I miss out something important.