Responses
By ShadowSky
@ShadowSky (221)
Bulgaria
April 20, 2012 1:32pm CST
Hello MyLotters, I was wondering when you read write a response to discussion do you read all the other responses or do you just read the first post and offer your opinion. I find myself torn between these two options because I believe that appreciating the work other people put in replying feels good and proves pretty educational and I would like for people to treat my posts like that.Also I want to really contribute with original thoughts instead of just repeating the advice and/or opinion of those who replied before me. But,from another point of view it's not really a good idea to read other responses before offering my own opinion because I think that my answer will not be entirely my own and will be influenced by others.Still,work deserves to be appreciated and ignoring other peoples thoughts seems a little bit...rude.
So what do you think MyLotters? Which one is better:reading the other replies before writing your own or after?
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4 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
20 Apr 12
Only 2 days ago this topic was already posted as you can see here:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2650481.aspx
Maybe you would like to take a look and see how everyone responded there as this one, as it is a repeated topic, will most likely be removed.
You can use the myLot search to see if a topic has already been posted.
Welcome back to myLot!
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
20 Apr 12
The topic in the link was on the Digest and is still busy and asks exactly the same thing.
Not sure whether you missed it or whether my memory is working overtime today 
@ShadowSky (221)
• Bulgaria
20 Apr 12
Sorry,I'm still getting used(again) to MyLot. Well,i myself hate reposting an will make sure not to repeat that mistake again.Thank you for the heads up.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
21 Apr 12
Whichever method you feel comfortable and easy. I think it make sense to me to read write a comment back to a member's response to my discussion after one instead of all the responses especially if i have so many responses to read them all at once. I like to reply to my responders and read their responses, that is the purpose of me starting a discussion, if not what 's the point of having a topic at all if you don't like to reply, it just doesn't make sense to me. 
@ShadowSky (221)
• Bulgaria
21 Apr 12
I always read all the responses to my discussions and like to comment back but when a discussion created by another person has,like 4 pages of responses I think that by the time I respond my opinion will be entirely lost...
Thank you for responding!
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Apr 12
Hi ShadowSky, welcome to Mylot..:) First of all, it is in the guidelines that we must read all the replies so we don't make a duplicate reply. I do read the first page, but truthfully when a post has many pages, I end up scanning the rest, especially if the replies are really long. I also do this in case I have something to say to the person who replied. And in the long run, I end up having a nice conversation not only with the one who started it, but with others as well...:D
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
20 Apr 12
Well, if we strictly follow the guidelines of Mylot, they speak for themselves. That we should refrain from answering a question even before reading all the other answers offered by the other user. However, I believe that few people are okay with this principle. First you have to see if the discussion is a direct question to which there is only one valid answer, or it wants to collect the various opinions of those who reply.
In the first case, I think imperative read all the answers, in other cases, it is at the discretion of the responder. However, I must point out that if you read the answers, sometimes what we would like to express once, could be influenced, so that our response is no longer just a product of our thinking.
