How to handle difficult child behavior?
By tuhkatriinu
@tuhkatriinu (283)
Finland
April 20, 2012 3:53pm CST
I am visiting one family. In right nows circumstances i am living here few months. Them 2 years old boy is hurting my children who are 3 and 1,5 old. I see clearly that he's in a need of attention, but i have all together 3 child under 4 years and i'm pretty occupied with my baby's. How should i control the situation that i can protect my children and give attention to this boy. Right now my day goes just for separating my baby's from this boy. Im reaching out to other mom's in same situation or familiar with this thing..
3 responses
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
20 Apr 12
have you tried talking to this little boys parents? have they seen this going on?
may be if you take 1 or 2 days out of the week and plan a group activity even if it is nothing but coloring together. may be this will make them more close and learn to share.
this little boy could feel like you are invading his home. i know he is still young but some young kids feel things more than others and are smarter than some may think. may be with you staying there for a while he feels like he is missing out on attention even tho he may not be it may just seem like it. atleast if you get them all doing something together may be you wont have to spend all of your time stopping fights but more play time :)
@cmanizh (2)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 12
I think its really difficult situation for you. On one side you tried to protect your children, but on the other side you feel bad if you tell the little boy's parent know how naughty he is.
I think this boy's is at the phase level where he is becoming selfish and over protect to what he own. Maybe you can lead this boy on the easy way by talking to him nicely as you are his parents, and try to negotiate with him to play together with your kids. Because if you go on the hard way with him, he'll be more and more disturbing.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
21 Apr 12
i agree with CMANIZH.
even tho this is not your child may be if you treat him as tho he his and talk to him as tho he is and include him with the things that you do with your children maybe then he will be a little nicer to them and not hurt them as much.
this is a very hard situation and if you are to tell the parents i know i would feel bad to because to me that is like tattle telling and i try to teach my kids not to do that unless it is something that is harming another. that is just me tho and everyone has their own opinion.
@daniel5252 (8)
•
21 Apr 12
yes its really difficult to handle the children specially when they are not yours.but if there is any other way then i would say be friendly with the children and after some time when you hav good bonding with them they will do what you say .so dont be strict to the childrens .win them by loving them...........
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
21 Apr 12
If I were you i would talk to the boy , telling him which is good and which is bad. I think if you say it with a serious tone he would listen . And if he goes on like before you can tell your children to keep away from them for a little time, by doing this, the boy will know he is wrong and he will go right. Have a nice day.
