My 1st impression never lasted, they turned to become my real friends.
By taiwanlife
@taiwanlife (745)
Philippines
April 20, 2012 6:46pm CST
My good friends were the persons I disliked at first. They were usually the ones I found arrogant and rude. I would remember the exact moments when our paths crossed in a very unpleasant way and told them honestly when we started to become close. In the recent months I have the same feeling again towards a colleague at work who has also ended to become a good friend.
These people I realized have this stern facade of being too proud but deep inside them is sincere kindness. If struck in the right part of their heart then this beautiful side of them just becomes very evident. They are also the most honest ones I have ever met and the most open. Because they are very direct, they also tend to look for direct answers. Their honesty is just mistaken for rudeness and insensitivity.
I exude a very calm personality but very frank as well. That's how our friendship always start when they realize that I don't hide or fake my feelings behind that calmness. They like it when they hear you telling them their weakness. I would then be surprised to get to know the reasons why they are like that and would find them to be very interesting persons in the end. They know how to take care of that friendship you have once it has started.
8 responses
@CzarinaM19 (115)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
1st impressions never last. That's why it's always important to give someone a chance. I have 4 bestfriends. Years ago, I found some of them to be very opportunistic and slightly arrogant. But now they're my bestfriends. And we love each other very much despite of our differences. It's awesome to have friends whom you can be yourself with, you can be rude, arrogant, lazy or pathetic. They'll love you anyway. You're very lucky.
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
Very well said CzarinaM19. With this type of persons, you can really just be who you are and they'd accept and respect you no matter what. The respect they give is so immense because they feel understood when they are with you. I feel very real around them that's why I call them friends.
@GemmaR (8517)
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21 Apr 12
Although first impressions when you meet a person are very important, you should always remember that there is more to them than just what they first look like, so you should give everybody a chance to get to know them first before you make your decision about them. One of my best friends is somebody who I didn't like at all, and I spent two years hating her, but then we had a chat and it turned out that we both had misconceptions about each other which have now been put right so everything is alright again and we are good friends with each other now.
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
I was like this with my former relationship. When we first saw each other we did loathe and totally disliked each one's presence. After four years, we landed in the same company and that clear image I was just so annoyed with was still so clear in my mind and she too had the same feeling. We ended up being together for years and would keep laughing about it whenever it was brought up in our conversations.
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
21 Apr 12
New friendships are awesome and feels good. Most times I pay attention to my first reaction to a person. I try and get to know them before I decide I don't like someone. But I keep in the back of my mind if there was something that was bugging me upon meeting them.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
25 Apr 12
That just proves while first impressions can be important, they are not always going to really be something that is going to be rather true one hundred percent of the time. Sometimes people are really going to get off on the wrong foot with others. And when we barely know people, it is rather hard to make any kind of logical impression, as until we really know people, things are not always what they seem.
There have been a couple of friends in the past with me where I got off on the wrong foot. And really, perhaps I got off on the wrong foot with them. But in the end, they were rather true friends, friends that were something that were rather great. It was just something that put a smile right on my face, the friendships that sometimes are born slowly over time. Sometimes it doesn't go as smoothly as you think.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
21 Apr 12
You can ask yourself if this was your first impression for real about your friend or if it was something else (envy?).
My personal experience is that my first impression always was right. Even we did get closer or became friends (mostly one way friendship invested most by me). For you I hope there is something wrong with your sense of "first impression" and you stay friends forever. With me it turned out the opposite, even it was with some after 7 years. I was right, it was stupid of me to give those people a chance and ignore my 6th sense. I would have saved me and my kids from a lot of harm/damage.
@nethraram27 (86)
• India
21 Apr 12
This is very true with me too :) my best friends were actually scared of me when we first crossed paths. I am glad they chose to look past the external attitude barrier and know me for the person that I really am. Hail friendship! :)
@rewardsinlife (1132)
• United States
21 Apr 12
New friendships are hard for everyone, no matter how old or young they person may be. We are all afraid of getting rejected, or hurt by a friendship that goes awry. It is especially hard if you are very frank in the beginning, because many people like the 'goobly goup' as I put it, and feel like you are attacking them, being too prideful, or are just uppidty if you don't act meek when first meeting them. I always say the 'friends' you make the easiest, are not friends that will stay. The friendship that takes months and even years to cultivate...that will always last a lifetime.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
21 Apr 12
For me, it's quite the opposite. Usually my premonitions are not that good, but when I meet people, they are usually true, but I force myself to trust them, or that's not the right word... try to see something nice in them because I feel so shallow for not finding them nice... and later I almost always find out that I was right (there was only once exception in my entire life).
