Submissive Wife

I am submissive, my mate is dominant. Try just being calm around your house, not walking around smiling, being FAKE. Being submissive does NOT mean walking around with a smile on your face all day while you are doing chores. Smiling all day is called being phoney NOT being submissive. Also, you ARE entitled to "me-time" no matter how submissive you are. Being submissive, YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO LET YOUR HUSBAND DO THINGS FOR YOU WHEN HE WANTS TO. Being submissive, if your husband wants to do work around the house, if he wants to clean, you are supposed to LET HIM. You are NOT supposed to do all the work. Being submissive in large part means ALLOWING your husband and kids to work for you sometimes, do you get that?? Your submissive nature a lot of times is triggered BY THE TYPE OF MAN THAT YOU HAVE. If you are involved with a man that is dominant by nature, it makes it easier for you to be submissive. When I say dominant, I do NOT mean abusive and mean, I mean a man that has a certain "I run this household, I'm the head of this family" type of nature to him. Some men have it, some men DO NOT. You will cater TO EACH OTHER. He is strong, but kind. The dominant man WILL help you clean sometimes, he WILL cook sometimes, he WILL answer to YOUR every whim, he will help out whenever it is needed but he will still be very manly and dominant. It takes a certain type of man to be that way. THAT TYPE OF MAN IS RARE. Just go about doing your housework on a daily basis like you would go about any job OUTSIDE of the home. Do it professionally, do it like you are getting paid. If your husband wants something, he will let you know. You do NOT have to walk around smiling. You can walk around CALMLY, that's fine, but do not walk around smiling all day because that is fake. Smiling DOES NOT make a woman a submissive wife.

If you can afford to be submissive then I think it is very fine. For me, I expect my husband to help me in doing some house chores sometimes though it all depends on his work schedule.

It's not real popular to be a submissive wife in our "me, me" society. I applaud you for being honest about what you want and for wanting to be a content wife. That's what it's all about, really. Not having to prove yourself to anyone, being able to be "just a wife," and to support and care for your husband as much as you want. That allows him to support and care for you, too. A marriage is a two way street, not two streets, like our society tries so often to make it.

When I was married, being the so called "traditional" wife was just natural to me because of my personality and because all the husband and wife couples I knew when growing up were like this. However being a submissive doesn't mean to be a door mat and not speaking out when something is bothering you. You don't have to be nagging, but there isn't anything wrong with wanting to be happy. People often have the wrong idea about this whole thing.

Some people are by nature submissive, like i am to an extent. But make sure that the submissiveness does not lead to you resenting your husband or others because that will lead to a problem. If you are fine with it, there's nothing wrong with it. Maybe your husband wants a less submissive wife and a more independent one. Have you ever thought about that?

the things you have mentioned i am pretty sure all wives do, however, this does not mean that they are submissive. i do all the house work, becasue i know it is my house and i have to do it. my hubby is helpful, however he has a different style of working. he have politely refused his help a number of times because i like it this way. i do cooking, cleaning, everything to ensure the house runs smoothly. i am incahrge of that. i have a say on all matters pertaining to house and finances. my hubby is taking care of his job. i would not say i am submissive. i think it has been made this way by god. i do not feel tired ever and i love doing all this. besides this i am currently looking for opportunities to earn a little money as well.

Well I just hope you are not mixing up "submission" with "caring". "Submission" arises out of "coercion" while "caring" out of affection. Relationships work when there is respect and love between the partners and not the threat or fear to do something. So you wouldn't need to submit to your partner if you really care about him, rather you'd do things out of love. Nor do I think he'd want you to surrender like a slave, rather he'd want you to be sensitive, responsive and reciprocating. Like Charlie Chaplin has famously said " You need power only when you want to do something harmful, otherwise Love is enough to get everything done "

i am not married yet but i take care of my boyfriend the best way i can. i want to be the one to cook for him, wash his clothes, iron his clothes and all that. i think it is just normal for a woman to be doing that when they love a person so much.

i think being submissive must not only be a responsibility of the wife or the husband at that matter. it should be a responsibility of the two people. maybe becoming too submissive is not so healthy in marriage, but all you have to do is to compromise about what things or those particulars that you can do in the house and what your husband can do as his part. i also think that the true motivation why married persons put everyone elses needs before theirs is that they know how to priority and what to prioritize, so it is clear for them which matters the most and which does not.

I think you need to change your thought process. I don't think it's really a matter of dominant and submissive-it's simply a division of labor. He brings home the bacon, while you attend to things around the house. Both roles are equally important.