what if you're in love with your friend but you have to keep it to yourself.

If he already has someone in his life now, then you don't have the right to tell him how you feel. If he really felt the same way towards you, she wouldn't be in his life. Everything is about communication and body language can be very deceiving. He does special things for you? I have male friends that do special things for me too BUT I don't go automatically thinking that they want me secretly because of it. You should have taken your chance and told him how you felt while he was still single. It would have saved you the heartbreak that you are going through now.

Why keep it a secret? Do you just want to keep getting your heart broken in siclents? Tell him how you feel maybe he feels the same way.

I have been through this before and I was in love with my best friend for four years of my life. I have to admit that they were the worst years of my life because he knew the way that I felt and he just wasn't interested in me before but he chose to make be believe that he liked me so that I would take him to places and pay for meals out and things like that. You should always tell people how you feel, and also make it clear about how the other person feels as well as it is easier for everyone involved if we are all truthful about everything.

hi krizzy. you need to step back and stay away from him for awhile. you need space to think. if he has a new girlfriend then maybe he is just treating you as a friend and no more than that. but sometimes, it takes someone to realize you are falling for the wrong person so there might be a possibility that your friend has something for you too. i will share you this. i have fallen for my bestfriend and that isn't easy for you have to risk the friendship. we have separated for more than a year after college and God find a way for us to brought us together through work. and that when we realize we can be just friend and to cut the story short, we are happily married right now with one adorable son. see, if we had not take the risk then maybe we don't have this happiness but then again i believe that if we are meant to be then whatever happens God will bring us together at the right place and in the right time. goodluck to you and i wish you too can find your own happiness (but it sounds like you are still young so don't rush love).

.... damn. It should be you who is beside him now. But I guess you shouldn't interfere since he has a girlfriend now. If you think he likes you romantically, it would have been good if you told him how you really felt, that is if you have very passionate feelings for him. Don't be too passive. If you want to be happy, be willing to take the risk. Besides, if your friendship is broken because of your feelings, then he isn't entirely a good friend if he can't continue being your friend for that reason alone. Would have been easier if he did not have a girl friend though. Now... you have to tell him how you feel at least and see how he reacts. But that would be really really risky. All this is up to you. If you are happy where you are now, then, okay. Be honest to yourself. That is all.

sometimes appreciation can be misinterpreted as love. maybe you just like him because he gives you attention that he doesn't give to other girls. maybe he just kind to you because he treats you as his bestfriend. if he really likes you more than a friend, then how come he didn't pursue you instead? now that he has new girlfriend, give yourself time away from him. spend more time with other friends. in that way, you will really know if its friendly love or its more than that.

Have you ever shared these thoughts and feelings with him? Let him know you are falling in Love with him, or does he think that this is just a phase? Maybe he does have feelings for you other than a friend, but afraid to show it? But sometimes you need to let your feelings be known, and see just what he thinks. If he does not feel the same way it better to know, instead of letting him fall for someone else, and have you always wonder.

This kind of situation to all of us. In my opinion it is better to tell the person that you like or in love with him/her. In that way you might find out with in yourself after you reveal if the feeling is still there. The moment you feel that way your friendship is no longer in the same wave lenght, at least by confessing you can measure how far you truly treasure your friendship.

Friendship for 4 years is a good foundation for any relationship, as there inhibitions have subsided and probably knowing the good traits and the bad traits, etc. Surely i would say you love your friend as you seem to acknowledge his happiness, but the sad thing is denying yourself of how you feel towards him, but i hope that time will come that he would realize what he really means to you and you to him. Good luck and GOD bless.

Maybe for now, you should just suppress your feelings since he has a new girlfriend. If you tried everything to make the feelings go away but you still feel like this, just keep it to yourself for the time being. You are a girl so you know how it feels when someone threatens our relationship. Respect the girlfriend. If they ever happen to breakup, then that's where you step in.

That is so sweet. We have the same experience. I also fell in love with my best friend. I did not tell him because he has a girlfriend too. But the guy would know if you're interested or not. That's what my friend told me. Your actions and your eyes will say it all. I also felt that he has a thing for me. He even told me that why does it have to be now when he already has a girlfriend. We acted like a couple. But if he has a girlfriend now and you're not sure if he feels the same, just hold back the feelings that you have for him. You might end up getting hurt, just like me. Haha! You must really love him because you want him to be happy. Just continue to be a friend to him. If the feelings would go deeper, then stop and give your heart and mind a rest. God bless you.

hi, if you really are atttracted him in such a way dont u think you would be alot jealous if he has a new girlfriend,if u think he cares alot about u why are u letting this slip away,ive been told when u love someone u should say it.,because u may lose out on something great. nothing is wrong with letting him know how u feel.saying once he is happy u will be ok is denying yourself and him as well.

Well the first thing to do about this situation is to let your friend know how you feel about them Keeping quiet and burning within only makes matters worse and can also cause a strain on the relationship. Having feelings for a friend after sometime is very normal, remember this is the person you spend most of your time with which also means you both enjoy each other's company so falling in love is pretty easy. Tell your friend how you feel and get it off your chest.

So brave you are in doing it. It's early also to say that you don't have a chance at the end. He is maybe your soul-mate, we don't know. :) Just stay good.

Not until a guy tells you he's into you, never assume anything. That's my golden rule. Been through what you've been through. I've cried my heart out as well but remained friends with that person when we were in high school. But i got over it and life went on. If he's truly meant for you then love will find it's way without you doing much of an effort. But if it's just not for you, there will always be someone else. It's good that you are still being friends with him.

I would pull back ask myself if this is true or I am just flattered or feel I am needed and this is something I need or like. I will also ask myself what is more important to me on long term: a relationship or friendship.

Oh,that is sad ,maybe he just treat you as a friend even you are both close. But i am sure that you hurt by it,and affected ,well he loves other and you secret about you love him.You will hurt more,ou have another hope to love other.

For me I will just say my feelings no matter what will happen, I mean you only live once why resist it, even when my friend has a boyfriend or girlfriend or something I will just have to say my feelings. Just say and no intentions of taking her away from his boyfriend, as long as you are doing the right thing you should not face any consequences.