Does it matter whether men or women are breadwinners?

Yes it matters. My mom has been working for more than 25 years. My dad stopped working when I was small. My mom has been the one working for all our needs and necessities. She's the one paying the bills, the tuition fees, and groceries, everything. My dad sometimes has sidelines but it doesn't pay much. He can only contribute to food. I always see my mom come home from work at evening very tired and stressed. I pity her always because she don't deserve to work that hard just for all of us, while my dad doesn't get any hard work. I swear someday when I get married, I will choose someone very responsible and who can sustain all my needs and my family too.

In my home, I am the father, the bread winner and steered the ship faultlessly so it won't hit an iceberg or sink. I raise an authoritative flag for respect. Sorry for a husband with no income. He's nothing but a leech- a parasite. My wife was housekeeper, did child bearing and raring. When the kids were old enough, she asked permission and I consented that she practice her profession. She joined the teaching profession and all the while housekeeping was done by trusted nannys. The setup didn't stain my ego because her income was a drop compared to mine. Besides, it was her voluntary will to help and earn something. To answer the question, yes it matters, because husbands with zero income are looked up to as "houseband". Truly, it's a pity seeing them virtually dressed in skirt.

it's fairly common where I live for either person to make more money but to be honest, very few families can afford to live around here without both people working. If you don't make very much money and don't have a partner, you either live with your parents or you have roommates. So it's not considered important who the main breadwinner is because it really comes down to who works in the field that can make more money.

For me it doesn't matter who is the breadwinner in the family, what important is that they can provide and help their families.We should put aside our pride for our family which is more important.

It's true. Things have changed over the years. There is more pressure to make ends meet financially. Some men are disabled where career is concerned so they do the best they can. They might be relationship oriented where they have a lot to offer at home and in their personal life. On the other side of the coin... Women have become more empowered over the years. Sometimes men lose when they compete with women for jobs because, for many years, women have wanted equal opportunities. That being said, it's okay to live outside the box. As long as 2 people can create a healthy family situation it doesn't really matter where the money comes from.

It all depends on how the man and women have been raised and what values were instilled upon them. Sometimes a man can lose a lot of his self-respect and self-esteem if he fails to be the breadwinner for his family. In other cases, women prefer to be independent, feeling that they don't want to depend on a man to bring home the bacon. I can see both sides of the coin but what do I personally prefer? Both partners sharing the workload both at home and outside of the home.

For the most part my husband and I have the traditional way of things. When we were really struggling I went to work when we needed me to. At the time I made more than my husband. It didnt bother him he was grareful we could pay the bills. Now that my husband got hurt at work it bothers him so much that he cannot work and provide for us the way he wants to. Were surviving but barely. If my husband gets better eventually he will want to go back to work for us. He likes me staying home with our babies. I think either way is okay but I personally prefer the traditional way for me. I don't think my husband would do things at home the way I do things. Not a put down, I love him more than anything but I have a certain way of doings and I like things that way...

It doesn't matter, whether it is the man or the woman, as long as it helps the family. Nowadays, its better to be practical because expenses are getting high. What matters most is that partners should give understanding to each other, helping each other, and forget the issue of who must be the breadwinner.

It doesnt matter.For me the important is we have job no matter who is the bread winner its ok as long as we have job to support our family.

For me it doesn't matter who will be the breadwinner. i just want to be practical this time.That if we want success then we need to keep our minds that we can do things for our families,Help each other and be patient, and give thanks for blessing we receive.

I still is a shame for men to be stay-at-home fathers, but the only way they could redeem themselves is to be a good father and a good husband. I've witnessed situations like this around the neighborhood, and some men are just giving up on themselves. I really hate the sight of husbands having drinking sessions with other men, while the wife (who's the breadwinner) is washing the clothes, cleaning the house, taking care of the kids. If they can't help with the finances, at least make life easier for their wives at home. I would have nothing against those husbands who also do their best to help their wives in household chores, or even do some temp jobs from home or what have you.

I guess it depends on how both of you compromise with the idea of bringing home the bacon. I do see both sides of the coin. Men prefer to be the breadwinners since they'd lose that masculine pride if they'd stay at home. Well, I do know some men who'd stay at home too. But most of them would like to be the breadwinners. Women, on the other hand, would prefer not to depend on their men. They'd prefer freedom and independence while taking care of their men and their families at the same time. I don't really go with the idea that one should be forced to stay at home to take care of the kids and do all the chores. If both can bring home the bread independently then why not? Most likely, it depends on the couple and with the given situation. If both were blessed with the ability to work and earn for the household then that would be a great idea, I guess. Men nowadays could already accept the fact that women can do it on their own. So, I guess it depends on both of you. Hope this helps. ^^

No I don't think it matters much whether men or women are breadwinners. In a home every penny coming in counts, so gone are the days when providing for the family was left to the man. The woman should be able to earn and contribute towards the development and welfare of the family.

hi man, be a man. hi mom, be a mom. truley man, truely mom. th'at a good way...

That can largely be a cultural issue. But here it is really okay for the woman to work and the man to keep the home. Personally, I like it the other way around. But then in today's economic climate I figure whoever can make the most money should be doing it!

Though our family tends to have the more traditional set-up where my husband is the breadwinner in our family and I am the one that stays at home with our two children, I don't really think that it matters overall who is the stay-at-home parent and who is the bread-winner for the family (or even if both parents choose to work and have a babysitter for the child). I think that the set-up of each family is unique and that is the reason that the traditional set-up won't always work.

at this age, i guess it does not matter anymore though you can just erase the fact that it will hurt the ego and pride of a men who stay at home and take care of their children and do the chores. but i am saluting them for doing that because for a man to swallow all his pride and change status with his wife is sign of bravery. meaning he can face all the humiliations from the people around him especially those who are narrow minded. i don't think that will make him a less man, a less father or a less husband. let us just face the truth that sometimes God has a better plan for us and instead of rebelling from it accept it. acceptance is not being weak, it just shows that a man who accepts that his wife can do better in providing for their family is a man who values his family and his wife more that his ego and pride.