I Guess this is the beauty of life
By chuyins123
@chuyins123 (2112)
Philippines
April 22, 2012 9:07pm CST
Life in its vastness and complexity we will never be able to figure it out. And it will never run out of problem to gave us. Or maybe let's use some euphemistic term "issues". Yeah, life can throw you a dose of issues every day.
My sister came home early in the morning 4AM! She came from a night out, with friends partying!!! And how old is she? She's just 16!!! I'm tempted to hit her with a rod, and give her some fist blows and break her legs. I wasn't like that when I was in highschool!!! She's just incredibly stubborn. I worked the hell off last night till 2 AM over time with my work, and she's doing over time with her parties!
How do I deal with this brat!?! Can someone help me with this? She's just amazingly crazy! She seem to hear nothing when I speak. She keeps nodding, but she doesn't follow what I am telling her.
She just woke up now. I didn't say a word, she'll be left with me at home now, mom's in the office. So we'd both be here today, but I don't want to say a single word to her. I would have to talk to her when I am already a bit calm.
3 responses
@toniganzon (72277)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
My dearest friend it seems like you are treating your sister like a kid. Yeah i do understand she's young but she doesn't think like that. She doesn't think like the way we used to when we were at that age. The more you say no to her, the more she would try to do those things.
I'm not sure if this would help but give her a little more trust than you do now. Tell her she is allowed to go out and party with friends. Just tell her that you trust her but to do that she must ask permission from you, tell you where the party is and tell you what time she will come home. That would mean a lot to her. There's more i want to say actually but i don't want you to read this anymore. I'll be online if you want to talk to me about this.
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@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
I did trust her before. I was even her lawyer to mom when Mom's whining about her parties and gimmicks but she, for the nth time, destroyed and shattered that trust, just recently, she went home sooo drank, that she vomit soon as she reached the gate. And mom was shocked, mom didn't know she's drinking liquor... I don't exactly know what mom felt about that, but she's crying.
In the past, I was her "collateral" to mom, I would vouch for her, and tell mom, "hey, you need to loosen up" but I was just disgusted with what she's been up to recently. And it's not every day that she goes to party, but it's as often as going to a weekly church activity. It seems that this Island is filled with parties every where. And what's alarming is that she doesn't get home earlier than 3AM.
I felt so violated, unrespected my friend. I sometimes think things to punish her, but I didn't because I just want to understand her. I really don't know now, what to do with her.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
I felt that too. But I just don't know how to make her speak. She's just silent and it irritates me. When she doesn't speak out. How can I ever understand her.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Actually, considering the fact that the two of you do live with your parents, I really don't think that it is really your place to say anything to her.
I know that when I was a teenager there were a lot of kids that I went to school with that did their share of partying, but I was not one of those people. However, it just goes to show that each individual is different and the ways that we choose to live our lives are different as well.
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@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Actually, I am just here at home now because I came to visit them. And also to put her in place, I'd be looking for a place in the city where she'd live and study there. I will be spending for her studies in college. And I'm a bit worried to bring her to the city if she's acting like that. Mom, actually asked me to reprimand, rebuke or at least admonish her. But I don't know, it seems so hard to deal with her. If I'd be always gentle, she seems not to have heard anything from me. If I beat her I might be charged for child abuse? or what?lol. *sigh* this bratty little lady is driving me nuts... I hope I'd soon figure out what she wants or what she's up to...
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
23 Apr 12
May she thought that she has been grown up and just flow as her and i think she knows how to deal with.Sometimes you are angry and say some unproper words would actually hurt her.Just communicate peacefully with her.i think life is adorable.Because sometimes you feel sad and depressed and sometimes you even feel it is such a motivation to live on.That really depends on how you treat life.Actually world is colorful and full of unexpectency.
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@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Yeah, maybe I am stressed out with her right now. So I refrained. It's really hard to be a parent, or at least, in my case, act like a parent. Whatta challenge!
