Does making divorce legal strenghten or weaken a family?
By betterdays
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
Philippines
April 22, 2012 9:10pm CST
We are one of those countries where divorce is not yet legal. Some government officials and many others wanted to have divorce legalized, but due to having a high percentage of Catholics in our country, more number of people doesn't want it. Do you think making divorce legal is a good idea? Can it strengthen or weaken a family's bonding? What is the main purpose of divorce?
3 responses
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
You're right in saying that family is weakened because of divorce and also because of a family staying together but with unbearable situations.
About divorce, I think instead of making divorce legal in one country, I think it's better for that country's government to put up a lot of institutions for the purpose of maintaining good family life and solving family problems. The focus I think should be on how a family unit should try to do anything to save their relationships, and not to immediately make divorce an option when some kind of difficulty in marriage arrives.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
I can see your point. This is why I think it's very important to be real to your partner before marriage and let them see the real you, and the partner should do likewise. That way you would have known your partner perfectly and would know what to expect the moment you live your lives together. When there is pretension, later on the real feelings and attitude of the partner will come out and you will suddenly realize you have married a different person from the one you thought you knew all along. Be sincere and transparent always in a relationship is a good guideline, I think.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Making divorce legal is not a good idea. It will make people not to be careful with the one they choose to marry. I think people will abuse the law if divorce is made legal. They can just marry anyone they love and then if it doesn't work then get divorce. The right thing to do is to be sure of your wife/ husband. Find the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
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@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Great point! I think this is the most important part of getting married...choosing the right partner. Because no matter how good you are as a husband/wife, if your partner is not good then it would only cause problem in your marriage. Maybe that's the reason I still am not married now in my middle age...I'm too careful in choosing the right partner for me...lol.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Thanks for making me feel better...haha. Well anyway they say I look like I'm in my 20's so I don't worry about it ;D
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
You have to be choosy because that's a lifetime decision. hehehehe Before going into marriage, you must be 100% prepared.
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@waazula (116)
• China
28 Apr 12
Divorce is also legal in our country, but there are many other restrictions for divorce, for example, how the property will be distributed, what are the requirements of both parties, who will take care of the kids and so on. Both party's responsibilities and rights are clearly regulated. And the law for divorce is changing gradually according to the appeal of the people as the country develops. Sometimes the distribution in house and money will stop many potential divorce, because they might get no property after divorcement. But there's still reason for divorce, as many people are marrying early, marry in haste or they can't get on with each other after several years. If there's no love or emotions between them, and they just keep hurting each other, then there's no need to keep such a relationship. Of course that doesn't mean that we can marry in haste and divorce later on. Once a person get divorced, he would get a lot of pressure from the society and have difficulties in seeking the second marriage, also, it is a waste of his/her youth time. I do hope everybody choose his lifelong partner carefully, and get on with each other for long before they come to the big decision of getting married. Once they're a couple, learn to be tolerant and considerate. It's not easy to find someone that holds your hand and accompany you in the journey of life. So cherish the person beside you!
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
19 May 12
I almost forgot about the many regulations attached to the process of divorce. I like your point about people getting married in haste while they are very young and not choosing their partner wisely. In this situation, most relationships really ended up in separation. I also agree that couples should learn to be tolerant and considerate with each other and treat each other as best friends, and it would be best if each couple would be a helping hand to each other instead of a burden because what is the use of being in a relationship if all that relationship would do is to be more of a heavy burden for you? I believe a relationship is suppose to be a happy experience throughout your lifetime.
