How do I deal with a manipulative mother in law?

Are you staying with her in the same house? I would probably move away even in another town to avoid corriding with her. Only a few married woman will be able to live able to live happily with a mother in law.

Living with in-laws, it creates a conflict. There have been many people, who experienced the same thing. It is better, after marriage, lived apart from parents. to avoid conflict. Little things can be a conflict, which might disturb the harmony of the household. If harmony is interrupted, making life uneasy.

Wow!! This would be hard to deal with. But what I have learned is sometimes family members can often be the cruelest, and especially if she might be feeling you are stealing her son away. Often times it is hard to deal with them, and live up to their standards of expectation. Personally if I were you, I would be talking with your husband and let him know how you are feeling, and if he truly cares about you he will talk with his Mom and try to get this situation changed for you. Hope something can work out.

well you know how she is and i think what you have to do is not to talk much and not to say anything when she is around - that way you won't even have to deal with her. i think you just have to make sure that you don't piss her off more, after all that is your husband's mother. sometimes we have to try to adjust a bit...

They say: if you can't beat them join them... I don't know if you like to be "birds of a feather" if not: tell her what how you think about her, set the rules in your house/life and ask her straight away what her problem is.

Look, there are certain things you can't choose:parents, in-laws, place and time of birth etc. You must make the best use of what you have. If you think she is acting, you also learn acting. If she is twisting the facts as you say, you do the same thing. I am a man, and I can't see your problem through the same prism. But as a school boy, I had handled the bullies this way, just by bullying them back. Check it out.

well, it is really hard to please mother in laws especially for us women. i think you should talk to your husband because whatever the things you will say to your MIL it will just make her mad. sometimes they have closed and narrowed mind that whatever good words we'll say will be of the reverse meaning to them like what you have said telling lies. just show her that you love her son and you are worth it. i am glad my MIL is an understanding woman so i do not have a hard time dealing with her.

i'm living with my in laws. i listen to them but still my decision prevails. cause i know myself and what i can do, especially for my son. cause it's not all the time they are correct. but it's better to live on your own(with your partner and kid/s).

Oh my, that's really not a healthy environment you have there. This type of in-laws are really an eyesore. I would never live in the same house or even close to my in-laws. Although, not all in-laws are obnoxious, but it's always better to have your own place, just for you, your husband and your kids. (oh, i was assuming, you're living in the same house or compound). Well, I would suggest you talk it out with your husband,first. Im sure he knows his mother and he knows you, too. Just be careful with how you talk about his mom, of course it's going to hurt him if you say something bad about her. Be honest with him, but be gentle as you can. Let him take care of that, himself.