I can't understand my Aunt! Help!
By Resy King
@resy21curapika (2131)
Pasay, Philippines
April 23, 2012 8:37am CST
She's driving me nuts lately.
She called me awhile ago; asking for financial support. And knowing my standing right now; I need to make the most for myself rather than helping her.
She was so dead rich that her husband is bringing home Php80,000 monthly from Ireland as a chef. But being "waldas" or irresponsible for money matters; she lost everything in a snap.
Features in a variety show lately in a local network here; she did ask for financial help; like asking for alms and making her mom and everyone in her family looked bad by saying that we're not helping her. But whenever we help her; she didn't even bother doing the groceries for her two (2) kids and she prefer staying up gambling. Not to mention the Latte in starbucks she's purchasing and given: she's broke. Good Griefs!
How can you deal about this kind of relative spending their "monetary alms" lavishly and keeps on asking you for more. Oh; by the way; she's forty years old, college graduate and a bum.
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3 responses
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
O my! what kind of person she is. I pity her kids, how old are they? Do they still eat? Well, i would suggest not to help her. She is already old and she should know her lessons. I think she is sick. Maybe her husband has to be blamed also by sending her too much money. You know, you can tell her husband what she is doing here and what she is doing with his money. Or maybe her husband can send you the money to be used for his children's needs without your aunt knowing. That way you can be able to help. Of course if that is okay with you all.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
What kind of mother she is. I think she is already sick, i mean mentally, some kind of a personality deviation type. I think her husband should do something about it. I think it has got to do with her husband being away and she does not want to take care of her own children. I think you have to consult the DSWD in your place. Maybe they can help especially with the children.They should be in a more secure place and they deserve to go to school.
@resy21curapika (2131)
• Pasay, Philippines
24 Apr 12
I'll give you a hint. She was once featured in a reality show; "Wish ko lang" and for once I hate her saying that her husband left her. Although by blood we are related but I can't stand the fact that her husband left her as if there's no way she should be abandoned by the guy.
And come to think of it; will the guy stand for her through eight years of marriage? I don't think so. There's really fishy behind that. Well, I even said to her frankly; with all do respect as her being my aunt but I did emphasized to her that the reason her husband left her is because she can't even handle a simple tasks of preparing family's budget that a woman should be and not raising the kids well.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Oh my! That is one very difficult person to be around with. Since she is already 40 years old, it doesn't matter if you don't give her some money when she asks for it. Don't mind all the bad things she's gonna say about you and pulling a guilt trip on you. I mean, everybody knows she is irresponsible anyway so there are more of you who know the truth and shouldn't be bother by what she says. She doesn't even buy groceries for her kids when she gets the money! Talk about screwed up priorities! Next time she calls you, tell her bluntly that you don't have money to spare. Then tell her immediately that you've got something to do so you can hang up. Haha! Since you're younger, it's kinda not your place to scold her about her irresponsible ways. If I were you, I will always tell her the truth, that you don't have money to spare. Good luck!
@resy21curapika (2131)
• Pasay, Philippines
24 Apr 12
Hahaha.. and come to think of it she's twenty years older than me. Come to think of it; she's giving me that excuse of ages and stuff. That she is older than me and such.
For crying out loud; what I'm thinking so far is to break all of my ties with her and leave her for all that misery she's experiencing due to her actions. I mean we already did our part.
But I don't know; maybe another approach may help. That's why I'm asking for your feedback. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 May 12
Personally understanding people is something you will never be able to really do no matter how hard a person tries. There are too many people out there that are like this and always wanting to take advantage while squandering everything themselves. Makes you really wonder how they can be happy with themselves, and when they have children, makes you feel especially Sorry for them.
