Do you offer an apology to your children when you err?
By samson1
@samson1 (738)
Jamaica
April 23, 2012 9:33pm CST
Hi mylotters. I have been in situations whereby I overheard children (both as adults and as children) complaining to parents and their friends about the follies that their parents dealt to them; which requires an apology. Parents, how easy are you able to apologize to your children -regardless of their ages- for offending them?
Do you think despite your human failings, you do not owe your children an apology; even though everyone knows that you err, (and especially because you brought them into the world)? Suppose your actions embarrass your children in public. What do you do then?
If the situation was reversed, would you expect your children to apologize to you when they err?
4 responses
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Hi samson, yes, I always apologize to my little one, if I did something to upset her. It could be as small as having tapped her head accidentally. But, the problem is she didn't seem to get the habit of saying sorry if its her who made the mistake or hurt anyone. I always demand her to say sorry to me or whoever she hurt, but she would just keep quiet and stare back at me. I don't know where she's getting that attitude.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 12
Jureathome, never mind how your little one is behaving at this time. Your daughter is learning how to handle issues that she has to deal with. Keep on instilling the good values into her, as she is expected to know (and live) the lessons you are teaching her; about the appropriate way to deal with errors, mistakes and indiscretions.
Well done.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
That's right. Perhaps, she'll just surprise me one day. She is generally a nice girl, though, and I'm very hopeful that she'd grow up to be a decent individual.
@forary2021 (50)
• United States
24 Apr 12
it's definitely important to apologize to your children whenever necessary.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Apr 12
Yes I do if I make a mistake, no matter what age my kids have. Kids have to learn that adults/parents can be mistaken too. I don't think I ever embarrassed my kids in public or I ever will.
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
24 Apr 12
Absolutely. I expect myself to apologize to anyone and everyone when I make a mistake.
If it is one of my children that I apologize to I want them to know that none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.
Maybe then...
my children will learn to be humble enough to apologize to other, including my grandchildren, when they make mistakes.
It's also important to do our best NOT to make the same mistakes again if we truly want forgiveness.
