When you lost trust with your friend...
By risk_taker20
@risk_taker20 (2096)
Philippines
April 24, 2012 12:40am CST
Why is it so hard to bring back the trust between friends after any betrayal? I trusted a friend so much about my private life but end up squealing all the stories to people who have nothing to do about me.
I felt so betrayed with the gesture that I have difficulty in forgiving her.
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6 responses
@risk_taker20 (2096)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Yes, that's true. She had been asking for forgiveness but it isn't easy.
@kimmysay113087 (171)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
I can relate. It's really not easy especially if you have given so much trust to that person and he/she is very special to you. Trust, once lost, could probably take a lifetime to regain. That does not mean though that I cannot forgive that person. I can forgive him but there will be a gap since I cannot be the same person that he has known before.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Trust is the hardest element to lose in every relationship.
Once we trust a person whom we considered the best and most trustful one, it is because we are confident that this person won't never betray no matter what happened.
So, once trust is broken, it can never be the same even if we will forgive the person.
I understand your feeling, that would be hard to deal with.
Give your time sometime and stay away from her, she might realize what wrong she has done towards you and your friendship.
@risk_taker20 (2096)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Thank you. That's what I am doing now...keep distant from her so she will realize how wrong she was.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
24 Apr 12
trust is a choice. you will never forget, but to forgive is a decision. i am not saying that you should let her get another chance to betray you, but if you do decide to forgive her it's not fair not to let her live it down. it could ruin your friendship. at least be honest with her and tell her you find it hard to forgive. let some time pass by so your heart can forgive her more easy.
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@risk_taker20 (2096)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
At the right time, I can forgive her but the trust will be very hard to give back.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
hi,
that is true,when your friend betray you its really hard to bring back the trust that you have been used for your friend,it will take years to bring the trust but not the trust you gave to your friend before.sometimes i will end our friendship if that will really hurt and leave pain to me.
@Tamosree1993 (1525)
• India
24 Apr 12
Hello friend,
You are right. It is so harting. I also agree with you about the matter.
Have a nice day.
@sijishsuresh (4)
• India
24 Apr 12
Trust is the foundation to having a person as a friend. A friend is someone you can confide all your private thoughts and fears, and hopes to knowing they will kept them safe for you. A friend is someone you can laugh with and at. If you cannot trust a person why would you want them to be your friend? Could you lay down your life for someone you do not trust? God's word declares that there is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend. You can be friendly to someone you do not trust, but you should not be friends with someone you do not trust. Choose your friends wisely by character and trust not looks or popularity.
@risk_taker20 (2096)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Amen to that. I am a good friend to those who are good friends with me, no gray areas.
