Do you mind if your partner takes you to his ex's favorite place?

hi! normally, it wouldn't bother me a bit if he brings me to a place frequented by his ex. and it won't be a pretense on my part. i'd rather enjoy good food regardless of whose favorite place it is, no issue there. however i will draw the line on topic of conversation. i'm not fond of having his ex as a topic like being part of the menu or something. it would be unappetizing to say the least. and he knows. one of the most awkward dinners to date that we had was when we had to meet his ex in their former favorite place. we are both actually still friends with his ex, just not as close as before.

Honestly, I don't like when he takes me to the place where he took his ex before.. But, in my situation, me and hubby broke up for two months and he went out with another girl, and when we became OK again, he told me that he will bring me to that restaurant where he brought his date when we broke up because the foods was very good. But I freak out when he did that. It ruined the whole night. Until now, I don't like to go to that place and even pass buy on that restaurant.. lol

Hi, It all depends on the kind of understanding you have with your partner. In an ideal world, there should not be any problem. What I feel is if you are a guy and take your girl to your ex, then there are chances of things going bad. I might be wrong but for some reason I've found that the girls are always more possessive than the guys. Not to hurt anyone here, just presenting my opinion.

It depends greatly on how they did it. Males tend to imprint on their first love, especially if they were sexually active with them. As a result, many males will try and recreate the situation they were in with their first love. This means two things. One, you will always be in competition with the other women you don't even know. Two, it means you'll have a hard time over coming these impressions he has, that he doesn't even understand himself. There is nothing wrong with going to a place he found because of a prior date with another women. If he's trying to recreate some prior experience with another women, that's a problem. However, freaking out won't help either way. Most men don't even know they are doing that, when they are. Most just remember, hey I had a great time at place X. If you freak out, they'll just think you are jerk. I would just try and have a good time as much as possible. If the re-enacting of past experiences becomes a problem, still don't freak out. Instead seek some good marriage counseling.

Hello jureathome, situations like this used to bother me. But then again, people change and I guess I have already outgrow my sensitivity towards things like this. Before I used to quarrel to my boyfriend whenever I found out that the place he brought me to used to be his ex-girlfriend's favorite, but then I realized that instead of getting mad, why not reverse the situation instead. What I did was, whenever my boyfriend brings me to places like that, I took it as a challenge for me to create a much beautiful memories with him on that place. Beautiful memories with me that could make him forget that the place was used to be his ex-girlfriend's favorite place. Now, every time he think of those places, it will no longer remind him of his ex, but instead, it will remind him of me and our beautiful memories together.

I would feel like hes trying to re-visit his happiness with his ex. I mean obviously his ex and him had good times there since it was the ex's favorite place. But, then again it might have been one of his favorite places to so he might just want to keep going there and not let him ex ruin him having fun and one of the places he likes. Either that or he thought maybe if the place impressed his ex that it would impress you also. So he might just be trying to get you to have a good time and love that place too. But if it makes you uncomfortable I would suggest other places, maybe ones neither one of you have been too. Look up some cool places to go online, so you guys can have a first experience with each other and it might just become one of your favorite places.

Personally,I'd consider the fact that He's taking You to that restaurant to be trying to impress You or Share with You the good food and service He'd had there before.. Unless of course He'd be into games like that where He's deliberately parading you in places where He was known to go with Her where word would get back to Her about him moving on.. But I'd sure Hope it wasn't HIM that brought up the subject about having been there before with Her and sharing the details..

While it may be true that whatever site one is taken to by one partner have a good time was visited before by ones partner's ex; it should'nt be of much concern to one. Why? Both your partner and your partner's ex are not currently involved in a relationship now; it (the relationship) is shared between both of you now! Jureathome, I think that while your mind might wonder, try to enjoy the event downunder, instead of being pre-occupied with those 'uncanny' thoughts. Why? Sometimes, those 'uncanny' thoughts- if left unchecked- might cause friction in your relationship; and that's a 'luxury' you do not want to experience!.

the past is the past, now is a new life with your husband