How do you remove the hatred to someone?

It all depends on why you hate him. If it is because of something he said, can you sit him down and discuss it? If is something he did,then it may never be resolved without an apology.And if he hates you back? Well it may never get resolved. It all depends. Ask yourself, can you forgive what he has done Without an apology? If so, then do it and see if the hatred fades. If not? See if you can talk it out.

It is nearly impossible. But you can do it. He is your brother. Whatever did he do to make you hate him? I don't think your area of the world would let you do what my part of the world would want you to do. I think you should think over why you hate him. Enough to leave and never see him again? Could you live without ever seeing him again? Think about it!

I am alittle confused. Do you hate your brother or does your brother hate you?

Better talk to him in person or any means of communication. This will let your brother know why you hate him. Furthermore, you can seek advice from your parents. Tell them the reason why you hate him. I am pretty sure that they will understand you and will make way to make your hatred release.

i believe we all have some reasons to hate somebody. but it is not easy to be removed from our feeling. i just can say you must find reasons why you hate your own brother. after that you just remember all his kindness to you or to the people. just only his kindness. because if you hate somebody, you just see his badness. you won't see his kindness. that's all maybe.

It is hard for me too to deal with it when this feeling get over me. I am sure how much we love our siblings or people surround us sometimes we will feel this bad feeling towards them. I don't have a solution but thinking that they are my sibling I hate it or not I should feel bless and thankful that they are my family. Every time I feel unease for their actions I will pray and hope I will not be the same as them and sometimes I talk to them what I feel. Not just to let them know my feelings but I also need to put an effort to know what they feel and why they acted that way..

I would say that many brothers and sisters hate each other at one time or another. I remember it well with my sister when we both lived at home. But although it was intense, I can't really say it was hatred as that is such a strong word. Irritation, strong dislike, rivalry.. All those seems to describe what we both experienced as we grew up together. Being willing to forgive it an antidote for all animosity between people and it starts within one's own mind. Forgiveness cannot be forced, but one needs to ask oneself is one is willing to forgive, and then just sit in contemplation with one's own thoughts awaiting an answer. It will come as "yes" because that is the nature of evolution of mind, body and spirit. Those are my thoughts.. _Derek

Pray for God to take it away. I have done this before and it works.

Hi my friend, though sometimes it is really for us to do it we must really fight that "hard" in order for us to have peace especially to one of our relatives or our brethren. The worst is if happens we are the complainant, we are being stump or being under-estimated. Well, the best thing for you to do in order to have peace with your brother, sincerely talk to him. Have a heart to heart talk with your brother and consider what his points in order you both achieve a peace of mind. Good luck my friend... Mobhomeir here 042512 1939

Often we hear of people who suffered heavily due to hatred. In fact it turns out who exemplified the Prophet, the Prophet, the scholars, who are sincere people with big hearts, not a vengeful example, hate, or a rotten heart. Exemplified them, even individuals who stood firm like a wall strong, was not provoked by verbal abuse, ridicule, hatred, revenge, and other low behaviors.

I am also searching for an answer. I have succeeded in moving on but thoughts of resentment still haunt me sometimes.

Never hate your own family members no matter how bad they are. They are your family after all. Family members should not have grudges against each other. Talk everything out and it would be fine. Things are not that serious to the extend of you thinking of severing family ties with him? If family members are not patient to him, what do you think he's going to do? Will friends be there to help him out? Given yourself in his shoes, would you want to be hate by your own sister? There are must ways to help him and relief your hatred for him.

Why people come to hate? Because they love equally, and all the world is dual. And if we say only sweet talk all day, besides that life is short, and it would be boring. I think we did not feel the sweet heaven, if he would be the threat of hell ... Leave aside hatred and try to love.

Hi Indahfth, are you sure the feeling you have toward your brother is a hatred and not just an anger that burn your soul? I know sometime I feel angry at someone but to hate someone is way deeper and consume more energy than an anger. I see some people said "it is hurt the hater more instead the person that hated" and I agree with their statement, dont let the hatred consuming your soul. Think about the good time you had with your brother. I believe everyone has their plus and minus attitude and that we cant please everyone 100%. I dont know your problem with your brother, but I can tell you that we are all ever have problem with our siblings. My siblings and I sometime have different view, but after all they are still my siblings and blood is ticker than water. I think you feel this anger or hatred because you actually care for your brother...if im not mistaken I read in the comment you posted in page 1 or 2 that your brother is a money minded person and that is why you dislike him? you actually care for him indah, it is not hate but you just dont know what to do or you feel confuse how to make him be a nice person and stop being a money oriented person. Its hard to change someone's habbit unless the person has the willing to change by him/herself, the best we can do is to pray to God to open his heart so he will be a change person. Im not a religious person indah, but I believe the power of pray.

I know what you mean by having bad feelings for a close relative. This one of the most troubling problems especially if the person or persons have no redeeming values. It's a tough nut to swallow. I guess you have to leave it in whatever religious belief you have. Life is to short not to live and treat yourself good, I look to myself for assurance and no one else.

I'm sorry about your intense feelings regarding your brother. The bible teaches us that we should love the sinner but hate the sin. Is the hatred you feel for something he has done or something he is continuing to do? Can you separate your feelings for your brother from your feelings about his actions that brought about your hate?

Start to forgive him for the cause of your hatred. Unless you forgive him, you'll never have that peace. I know its difficult but since you wanna be at peace, start to accept him for what he is. By accepting him for his shortcomings, faults and wrongdoings, then you'll find ways to understand him. Of course, ask God for guidance for He will give you the courage to forgive.

Hi indah i have that feeling to with my brother then i remember all the kindness tht he had done for me my heart just melts when i reminisce it people can do wrong..and he is jst human who do mistake s too

Hatred came from inside of you (heart). So, .... make a peace with yourself to removed your hatred

We're the same. I also hate my brother. But just like you, I also want to relieve it. And due to nice situation coz we don't have to live in one roof anymore, the hatred for him is slowly disappering coz, you know if you don't always see the "hate of your eyes", the hatred just slowly gone. And they say, if you don't like the person, just make your way different from that person. Rather than, that person is always around you so you two will always bickering to each other. Coz you can see each other faces always. So, for me, my solution is to kept my distance and then times heal.