My BF and His Nasty Attitude Problem
By MoonGypsy
@MoonGypsy (4606)
United States
April 24, 2012 5:50am CST
this morning i asked him if he could get reach over on his side of the bed (right by him, he didn't even have to stretch), he threw the biggest tantrum a 3 year old could throw complete with body language and everything. i couldn't believe it. i was too stunned to be angry. just a couple a seconds ago, i asked him can he tell me where the keys are so i could take out the trash (heaven forbid he does it if i ask), he got an attitude. he acted like i was asking him to do something for me. maybe i was taxing him to use his brain power for four sections to tell me where the keys are. lol. well, needless to say his attitude is the same for everybody. not just me.
he thinks his attitude is a force to be reckoned with. he knows it's off putting and he does it on purpose. he is the kind who think his attitude is not for you to like. if you don't like it, don't deal with him. this makes it hard to do just that cause he has no use for the world outside of video games and electronics. so, it just makes people repulsed which he wants. like for example, i think he gets an attitude when i ask him to do something because he thinks it will train me not to ask his lazy tail for anything. you know what, i think i am not going to fall for it. i am just going to keep asking. not even to get him to do it. just for it to get on his nerves that i am not going away and still am asking. lol. lol. lol. what do you think. i can be just as much of a jack.
do you know anyone who has an nasty snoty little attitude problem?
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8 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Apr 12
You just described my daughter's boyfriend. I would not play that game back. Why? I like my peaceful and happy life. I can't be bothered with people like that. My daughter does not drive and they have a little boy together. For the longest time, I was running her around...spending my gas and my precious time. I did it because I thought I was helping them out. Then I realized a bunch of this running is for HIS things..HIS scratch tickets, HIS coffee etc. WTF! He is sitting home playing video games while I am running his wife around and watching their child. I have very little time as it is between work and babysitting every nite that I have off so that my daughter can work. He works...I'll give the guy credit for that. Still, he can't manage his money and he treats my daughter like crap. I refuse to run so much anymore. She is more aware of his lameness and mean attitude and actually talking of leaving his sorry butt. Why exactly would you put up with someone like that? If more women did not take crap from men then more men would try to be more respectful. these guys always seem to know that someone out there will put up with them so why change? He isn't going to care at all that you keep asking him. In fact, he probably loves it. It gives him a reason to keep on being a jerk to you. I guess I don't understand the dynamic behind these kinds of relationships. I'd be so gone.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Apr 12
lol@sid. i have my bad qualities that he could have left me for a million times. yes, i am sorry to say it, but he is still not the worst person in the world. i just have to know how to better avoid catching his attitude, or confront it head on without caring. like i said before, i am still going to ask him to do stuff sometimes, just for the principal that he can't train me. i do understand where you are coming from, though sid. thanks for the post. it's just that my original post about him is only part of who he is.
i must add for the record, he never curses at me, talks down to me (in private or in public). he just has a snotty attitude. that's all. it get me on my nerves, but not even to leave him. i was just venting out cause i can't to him about it.
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Hello MoonGypsy, first of all I would have to commend you for putting up with an attitude like that. You must love your boyfriend so much. If I were in your situation, the relationship would be over in a blink of an eye. But then of course, I am not trying to tell you what to do, I am not in the position. I just find it amazing that there are still people as kind as you.
I have experienced having a boyfriend once with an attitude I could not comprehend at all and I took the courage to end the relationship after giving him several chances to at least adjust his nasty attitude.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Apr 12
so, i see i am not the only one that has experienced this with a man. i have never dated anyone so snotty before. especially a man. he is just a snotty as a woman sometimes. i think they were coddled to much by there moms. i could also be the lack of dad growing up sometimes. once again, he is the youngest in the family. was any of this the case with your man?
@mommynigabby (41)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
just what to ask MoonGypsy if you and your BF have a child together? Coz for me It makes all the difference. Most of time my being a mother kicks in no matter how mas I was at my partner, most of the time, I was on the edge of breaking up with him but when I think of my child, I held on.
@smacksman (6053)
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24 Apr 12
Well he must have something really big to make you stay with him! haha
Could it be that he is getting everything he wants without any effort on his part?
I would kick him out of bed and buy another blanket. Better for you all round! 
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Apr 12
no, it's not that. we have built what we have 2 gether, as well as individually. i don't feel like i am being used by him. there have been times where he has took care of me and our family when i get sick (financially, as well as otherwise). he would go out to work at 5am, come home at 7pm, then take care of house, kids, and me. that's the kind of stuff that makes me stay with him. he just has such a bad attitude.
@smacksman (6053)
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25 Apr 12
OK I take your point. But that is what normal husbands do when the chips are down and good for him to do it. But there is still no excuse for a bad attitude all the time.
We all have bad attitudes on occasions but not that regular. I think you have to fight back and explain that you really don't need his bad attitude and he must learn to control himself. It's not good for a happy life if you are frightened all the time of setting him off like a bomb.
Take care.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Apr 12
it's not as simple as that. he is a beautiful person inside and out in other ways. he is just doesn't always have the greatest disposition. he is quite the prima donna and he is quite impatient and a "perfectionist", or at least that's what he tries to be. he also has the youngest kid syndrome. i think that's it as well. he is the youngest in the family and very spoiled.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Apr 12
I would let that sucker go and live his own little miserable and lonely life. I have a brother who gets into these moods every so often as well and low and behold he is also into just one thing and that is his television time, just like your bf who likes the electonics/video games.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Apr 12
perhaps they have some kind of depression or mood issues. it could even be a personality dissorder. in that case, they need patience and understanding. especially from there loved ones. i don't know. if this is the case, i could say he does the same for me.
@forary2021 (50)
• United States
24 Apr 12
Haha yes i do. It's me however i know how to control it before it gets out of hand and annoying. lol
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
25 Apr 12
lol. thanks so much for you understanding. i know i wasn't going crazy. well, i already am crazy, but......lol.
@mommynigabby (41)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
@forary2021 I gotta salute you on that. it would be totally different it you will allow your self to get carried away with the anger and stuff..
@Kojigirl (188)
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25 Apr 12
I'm just wondering why on earth you are with this loser? All he wants you to do is look after him so he can play games all of his life. You're a doormat, he treats you like his mom and he throws tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
What on earth makes you think he's the best you can do? I don't care about his snotty attitude, I think you should wise up and find a real man who knows how to act like one. As long as you have a full-grown baby, don't expect to ever have the real thing.
@mommynigabby (41)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
and I think my husband behaves the way you BF did. When he was just my BF, he would give me everything and do all thing I ask, including scratching/massaging my upper back. Now that we are living in together, the moment I ask him, he would snap at me and tell me that he is tired and his back hurts too. im mad.
