How to let go and understand your partner's other love relationships
By guttoo
@guttoo (17)
Canada
April 24, 2012 8:37am CST
The best way to stay in a healthy relationship is to let go. Are you ready to let go of your partner to explore other relationships? It is, obviously, unhealthy to bind your partner and yourself to each other for an entire lifetime. So, letting go of him/her and yourself, to explore other relationships, and listening to him/her talk about it to you, is being your partner's best friend and indispensable support. Can you let go?
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6 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Apr 12
Sounds to me you are talking about yourself, your own wishes, the extra's you want and the commitment you are not willing to take or not able to keep.
Great excuse to say: it's unhealthy to bind your partner and yourself to each other for an entire life.
Explore other relationships? Why didn't you do that before you got a partner or why not staying single so you can explore whatever you want.
My husband is free to do what he wants if he is single. If he wants to explore it's fine too, he can do that after I kicked him out. So the answer is: yes I can let him go. No problem at all. I also don't see any reason to let him stay, explore whatever he likes, and make me pay for him. He had plenty of time and chances to explore before he met me, since he is the one who wanted to get married and wanted it to belong to the sheep in the cattle, so he is a somebody he has to pay a price as long as we are together.
@guttoo (17)
• Canada
30 Apr 12
Hey hey hey! U r getting personal. FYI, I am a woman, and I am in a committed married relationship, and my husband has no need to explore outside... Hahahaha... This is just a discussion board and not about citing anything personal. It seems that u are having personal problems. Don't let us know, if u don't have a substantial logical viewpoint. I'd appreciate that.
@leighz (456)
•
25 Apr 12
That's insane! If your partner wants to take chances in exploring other possibilities outside your relationship. Then I think he or she does not love you genuinely. My friends say, if you decided to be with someone, then you have to make sure that you are on the same page. When I say this, it means you both are committed to make the relationship work. If the other person wants to play fire, then ultimately he is not for you. In this fast changing world, it's important not to lose yourself. Don't be the person who consciously accepts even the harshest thing.
@guttoo (17)
• Canada
25 Apr 12
What happens when you have walked a certain length of time with a partner and you have both grown up apart? You are still committed in a relationship legally, but you find someone you are attracted to and fall in love? Love is not in our hands, it is a chemistry between two individuals and the heart doesn't know you are committed. The second relation doesn't encroach on the first relationship. They both exist in different places. In that case, do you break off your existing relationship, deny it completely and move on? Or can you live with two relationships? Or three?
Hahahaha... I know I am confusing you further, but human relations are the most complicated things in the world and I have seen such relationships flourish. A man or woman with two, three simultaneous relationships and their spouses have accepted the situation without any grievances, since they know where they exist and what is their role.
@godslove25 (402)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
It's easy to say but hard to do. But if that's the best way I can let him go. If after letting him go in exchange I can move on but not entering into another relationship I know I can do it.Because God is with Me and he will help me to overcome those trials. Nothing is impossible!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
25 Apr 12
My ex was already ex before it was over, there is a time for everything and if you decide to end the relationship you have to end it. Life is a journey, relationships are experiences and you have to look forward not backwards otherwise you miss a lot. There is no need to stay best friends with an ex just because of the good times of for old sake.
@akyenez (22)
• Nigeria
25 Apr 12
Cos I can let go. You sometimes need to let go so as to see weather you partner really cares or not. You need to have feeling for your partners needs/wants. I once knew a couple who allowed other couples have fun with their spouse they literarily swap their spouses and make love, some people even take record/video recording of this events.
@guttoo (17)
• Canada
25 Apr 12
Yes, this is one way of testing the real feelings. "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was".
However, even if a man/woman is involved in two/three simultaneous relationships, and is honest to a great extent about them to each relationship, I think it is a very healthy and matured situation. Polygamy exists in humanity. It is more common among men, but I wouldn't say women are not inclined to it.
What do you think?
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
3 Oct 12
Letting go is not easy especially to your love one’s who give colors to your life. When things go wrong then and cannot be fix, I should let go for us to make happy. Because if I stay worst maybe happen. I will give her a freedom to find her self where she really belong and support her decisions. If you really love the person her happiness is also my happiness.
