Your reaction isn't normal.
By Shasta
@cupkitties (7421)
United States
April 24, 2012 1:12pm CST
I guess that most humans would cry or become upset when someone close to them dies. It's the natural thing to do right.? ..
I'm just kind of numb about it . I think my step cousin was the only death I ever cried over. When someone you care for dies you ought to feel something, but for me there is nothing. So far my step cousin is the only person whose death I've cried for.
People who notice my lack of emotion like this, always become accusingly tell me "Your reaction isn't normal". This is something that greatly frustrates me.
However, I believe the reason is because for me that person isn't truly gone because I always sense them lingering among us. Like at my grandfathers funeral and his memorial service I could feel his presence very strongly especially near our grandmother. With my cousin it was not like that. I'm wondering if I'm alone in this thing.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
24 Apr 12
Hiya CK,
It´s a perfectly normal reaction you have there CK you are not alone I for one can vouch for that.
More than once it got me like that not being able to cry.
Perhaps its because it has not really sunk in to us yet that they have gone and we keep thinking they are still round us and any minute they might come through the door.
Takes time for the situation to be assimilated and I guess everyone reacts differently but the gried is the same language all over the World.
xxx
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
24 Apr 12
So true, Lovingangel. Thank you for your input :)
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@amyaeric (80)
• United States
24 Apr 12
I'm sorry for your loss cupkitties. I would say that there is no right or wrong way to react to the loss of a loved one. Some people cry, some like you are just kind of numb, and others get angry. When my grandfather passed away over 20 years ago I felt sad, but never cried over it really. I felt, like you, that something was wrong with that but there isn't. Everyone deals with things differently. I think that it's great that you sense this person still. Your reaction in my opinion is as "normal" as anyone else's reaction.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
24 Apr 12
Thank you, amyaeric. I'm glad someone says that.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Dec 12
It is but natural. But it is not common too. If someone doesn't cry, it doesn't mean that he don't have any feelings.Don't get frustrated by the others remarks.Have faith in your inner voice and stick to it and never bother or get disturbed by other comments.Because people are like Dholki ,which can sound from both the side after beating. Our actions xshould be normal and not abnormal then there is a doubt.
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@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
5 Oct 12
I personally think it’s exactly normal, because we feel that once they’re removed from our lives, there’s a part of us disappears as well. And we have regrets that we never told them how much they meant to us or we argued the last time we saw them.
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