I thought I wouldn't feel any pain anymore but..

Hi, I have been where u are at right now. I know how it feels. It sucks. It took me about 4 yrs to get over my old love. Then a great thing happened! Just when I thought I would be alone and miserable, I met a new guy...........and now we are married. Hang in there, it will get better. Focus on yourself and u will find the man of your dreams when u least expect it. =)

Hi tess_quinain, I am sorry to hear about this. I know how it feels. I've experienced the same thing before. Been there, done that. Breaking up is never easy. It never was and never will. Sometimes, no matter how healed you think you are, there will always be bouts of sadness that you are meant to encounter. That's how life works, and those situations like that are inevitable, because it is necessary in the process of our learning. My first boyfriend broke up with me six years ago and up to now, there are still moment that I misses him so much I would cry. It doesn't mean that I haven't gotten over him because believe me, I have been to serious relationships after that. It only means I loved him immensely that time isn't the basis for me to forget him. In your case, I guess your love for him is so great it occupies a big part of your heart. And it is not a bad thing. Loving someone whether it last for a lifetime or not is never a bad thing. It only means you have a good soul and a big heart. You will be okay. Believe me, in no time, you will be able to smile again. I am not saying that you will no longer think of him or miss him, because you will still. The thing that matter now is how you deal with it. Crying is sometimes the only thing that we can do, and it is not bad to cry. But learn to conquer it. I always believe that when losing someone important to us, we should not let the sorrow of losing them outweigh the joy of having them. You will be fine. It is not easy dealing with situation like this, but it is not impossible to get through it. You will get through it for sure. You are a strong person, even if I am a complete stranger, I know you are a strong person. You should believe that yourself as well. I pray that time will come when you are able to see that ex of yours with a smile on your face and with a conviction that you are capable of loving and forgiving someone. Instead of crying over the things that has finished, celebrate instead, because there are too many great things and there are great people who will still cross path with you which will make you all the more stronger and wonderful person. Cheer up friend. Have a great day.

It's really difficult to get over a relationship especially if you truly love the man.It's okay to be hurt and feels the pain.You are still on the grieving process,so just take your time.The fact that that he had already exchange you for someone else is a sign that you should move on.He didn't deserve your love and maybe God has prepared someone better for you.Just take your time to heal,and love yourself because love will start from within.

Hey Tess, it won't be easy, I'm sure. Let time pass and try not to sneak on your ex' profile, or anything that would remind you of him and how you guys used to be. Im sure you have friends, so spend more time with them to help ease the pain. What else can you do-- oh, stick around myLot and don't go to his FB page... I hope you'll get over soon.

Hello tess, Don't beat yourself for looking at his page. It hurts that much now, but it gets easier everyday. If I were you're I'd keep looking at his page every single day, 'til you don't feel the pain anymore. Pretty soon you're gonna bump into each other. You'd have to be ready. I'm sorry that your relationship didn't work out. Things happen. I hope you'll meet the right person who'll help you heal. Wish you the best.

It'll be rough for awhile, but eventually you will look back and laugh at it. Your a gorgeous girl, I'm sure you will upgrade to a better guy in no time, just wait for the right one :-)

hello Tess, I know how it feels. it does take a while to get over the person even though we are not thinking about that person. Then we bump into that person either by facebook, twitter or in Wawa or grocery store and they have there signifcant other with them. You think to yourself why that cannot be me.. what did I do wrong... you did nothing wrong and it that he thought otherwise. You are stronger than you feel right now and it will get better and quicker than the last time believe me. It also shows you have feelings and you care about people. That is not a thing to have in your personality. You are young and will fine someone else. You will get better. Hang in there. Sincerely unique16

hello there. the journey will not be easy and that depends on how you broke up and how much you loved him. but i believe you still young and life is beautiful afterall. you need not to dwell with the past because it was over and what you should focus with is the present and the future. learn from your heartaches to not repeat the same mistake in the future. you cannot even call loving a mistake but it should add up to your experience for you to become a better person. move forward and don't look back at the past for it will just cause you pain. you can always turn back when all the wounds are healed and the scars disappeared.

Yes, it's hard to be over with someone that you have loved for a short period of time. It will take time before you can be over him. Try to socialize more and be with your friends always. Busy yourself with things that can occupy your mind so you won't be thinking of him anymore. Try to remember his bad sides, and let that picture be a confirmation that he really has someone with him now, thus it's also time for you to really move on.

I know it’s hard to forget someone whom you really love. What can I suggest to you is unfriend him in your facebook or whatever social media that you have. So that you cannot see what’s happening on him. He’s not worth it of your cry. Find someone that really cares and truly loves you.

if months have passed and you're still so hurt that it's affecting your routine, you might be suffering from more than just a broken heart. Open up to your parents or your school counselor about what you've been feeling. you might be depressed and require treatment from a professional. Or you can also hangout with your friends and do stffs together. Or block him on your facebook account. Moving on is difficult, but we must also help ourseleves.