do I allow him to use it or not
By SissyRose
@SissyRose (235)
United States
April 25, 2012 7:29am CST
Okay so yesterday we sold a car on craigslist that was not running for $300 it worked out well. But here's the deal I stashed this money away to use as part of the money I plan on buying a new used car with because we down to a one vehicle family after that one died. But....we have had an old farm truck sittin in our driveway for about a year now that I wouldn't ever let my husband work on or use because it is a gas guzzler, but now he is so excited to drive it that it's sad. His eyes light up when we talks about it, he just beams. Yesterday he was talking to he dad about the truck and you could just hear the joy in both of their voices because his dad was excited to help him get it running really good. UGH..so here's the question do I give him the money we made off the old car and just let him use it on this truck, because it makes him so happy, or do I keep it stored? Descions like this make life crazy because I don't care for this truck very much but I love making my husband happy..
8 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Yeah you should let him use the money for the truck. Just don't pay for any of the gas for the truck. Let that be his responsibility. But making him happy to start with is a good thing. Afterwards he has to be the one to maintain everything. That way you can save for a new used vehicle.
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
25 Apr 12
This kind of thing always makes me laugh. When people say like I should give him the money, and make HIM pay for gas. We are a team so it's not like his money is his money it's our money and visa versa. But thank you for you input
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
26 Apr 12
That's good that you both view your money that way as - "OURS". Many marriages don't. Often times each person has there own money and view it as such. The reason that people have reached that conclusion is because you asked if you should you give him the money or let him use it for the truck. I hope that he enjoys his truck. And you are welcome. Have a good day.
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Omg you just gave me a great idea. This truck is an old 1 ton ford, and my husband loves to get his hands greasy and open the hood and dig around in his wife beater. I can so picture my husband in front of this truck arms crosses in his grey wife beater with in a black and white picture. Thank you so much
@Kojigirl (188)
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25 Apr 12
Would the money actually get the truck running, though? If it's been sitting there, it could cost a grand to get the thing shifting. What good is throwing the little you have at the truck if it isn't going to get it working?
You should talk to your husband and find out how much he thinks it's going to cost to get the truck actually fixed. Not how far down the road the $300 will get it. If he thinks it's going to cost five hundred, it's not worth the trouble, is it? It's a nice gesture, but if it isn't enough it's pointless.
And will you be happy driving the other vehicle? And what about the insurance aspect? How much will it cost to insure the gas guzzler? The problem with life is that every question ends up leading to a dozen more, and each of those....
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Take the risk and make your husband happy. In the long run it's best to take good care of your relationship with him. By allowing him to do what he feels inspired to do...
he might be able to accomplish great things.
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
25 Apr 12
I think you are right. I like to make him happy. And even though I would like a different kind of vehicle I would rather him be happy, and I can always save up for what I want
@gazinglady30 (75)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Why not give it a shot after all its gonna make your husband very happy? Its not you have to spend a lot for its rehab because he can do it himself with a little help. But imagine this, why buy another car when you have something sitting in your garage that could take you places? It might be expensive in gas aspect but hey.which one is more expensive? buying another car? and wait until that truck will rust and you wont be able to sell it even for $300? In this economy, I'd take the lesser evil. Your husband's smile is more precious.
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
15 Oct 12
You should allow your husband to use the truck because it made him happy. If you really love and care for him you must support his happiness. Then it can save you more money because they utilize the truck.Just give him the money so that he can buy materials for the trucks in order to look it better and more condition.
