Tantrums, You hope you don't have them anymore, then suddenly... You snap!!
By CzarinaM19
@CzarinaM19 (115)
Philippines
April 25, 2012 9:35am CST
My dad is 64, he's not working anymore so he pretty much does stuff you can't understand. For example, fixing stuff that don't need fixing. Like disconnecting some pipes in the house to connect different pipes that goes to I don't k now where. I pretty much just let him do whatever he wants, coz he's old. I was gonna do my laundry, this morning when I found out there's no running water on that part of the house where I wash my clothes. I suddenly snapped and screamed at him. After he walked out of the house for a bit, I threw some chairs away and screamed for like 2 minutes. I was so ashamed of what I did. I texted him after a few hours and said I was sorry. See I thought I got rid of that kind of really bad temper, but there are just times that you can't help yourself. Do you guys still have this kind of temper at your 20's?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Believe me, that sort of thing doesn't really leave.
I think your dad is just bored. I mean, if they've gone through life working hard, you can't make them stop. Perhaps if you could provide him with some sort of project, so that he would feel alive again. If he loves the pipes (or was a plumber before) perhaps you could ask him to do something about that. If they feel that their talents and skills are still needed, they wouldn't be in your way.
As for your tantrums, try to breathe first. Remember that our parents were very patient with us as we were growing up. Did they ever scream at your for doing something wrong unintentionally? Think about it. I know it isn't easy, but we have to be more patient this time, old people are highly sensitive.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Ohhh.. Perhaps you could suggest to let him try some part time teaching. He's a professional with a lot of experience and I'm pretty sure that there are not a lot of accountant-teachers. It's a good way to give him some feeling of accomplishment at the same time an earning for him to be able to keep himself busy - minus the stress.
Just a suggestion :)
@CzarinaM19 (115)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Hello Laydee, Thanks for the advice. He wasn't a plumber before, he was an accountant, although he's pretty much into fixing the pipes, and other things in the house. Kinda like his hobby. You're right, I should give him a project. There are just times that I'm tight with money that I can't buy the things he need to play with LOL. LIke paint and wood etc. Coz' he asks for those things sometimes. As for my patience, I'm only in my 20's. I'll be better at understanding him soon. Practice makes perfect. Thanks.
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@gazinglady30 (75)
• United States
26 Apr 12
I still have tantrums at my age 30. Especially with difficult people. I don't know, but i guess I have anger issues. You only regret your outburst after the incident.
@CzarinaM19 (115)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Me too, I'm just like that. I do have anger issues. I guess we'll both have to understand each other. That's what family is all about. =D thanks.
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Your dad is bored. Encourage him to have a hobby, something that will keep him interested and busy. He wants to be useful at his age since it cannot still be considered as too old. Some men still go to work at that age. As for the bad temper, I still have tantrums now and them but to snap and scream at my mom who is almost 84 years years old? I may still receive a spanking or a belt even at her age, Nobody shouts at mom, she owns that right exclusively in the family. That's mom and woe to anyone who messes with her.
@CzarinaM19 (115)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Yes he definitely bored. And I'm glad he tries to do stuff in the house, and gets excited if some things need fixing. I don't shout at my mom either, she's very dominating. My dad is very different, the submissive type. Lol. As the youngest, I'm pretty much spoiled. I'm just lucky to have him. I should probably try to spend time with him fixing things, that'd be a good bonding moment. lol.
