Retake the exam or move on?

Philippines
April 25, 2012 12:06pm CST
Last year of May, I started my review for my board exam. I've waited so long for this time that I could finally get my professional license. It was a six month review and after that we would take our licensure board exam. There was a lot of pressure and weight on my shoulder, but luckily I passed the exam. My good friend didn't pass the board exam so I comforted him and encouraged him to just retake the exam. This past April it was their board exam, and unfortunately he failed again. Should he wait for November and retake again? Or move on and maybe find a job? It's really hard decision. A lot of factors are considered especially time. I also know someone who didn't pass the exam for the 6th time. Still he continues to retake the exam. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks
16 responses
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
i think he should take it again, for the third time. my friend failed 3x and made it on her fourth. she never gave up. luckily when i took my board exam i passed with just one take and studying on my own. i just kept studying on my own, gave it my best and i am so proud i made it i hope he passes the exam this time. when i studied for my exam, i did my best but of course i was so nervous, and i couldn't sleep thinking about the results. i was not getting enough sleep just reading and answering exams i research on the internet. good luck on his next exam
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
it wasn't easy. i was struggling too that time but it all paid off. yeah maybe your friend needs a break too. i understand how he feels
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Board exams are very hard. And it's hard to see your friends fail while you yourself passed the exam. The feeling is happiness but mixed with sadness also. If my friend really wants the license then he will eventually get it in God's time. Now, he needs time to recover and start again. Congratulations! Job well done. Consider that an achievement for passing the exam in just one take. That's a hard thing to do. You should be proud of yourself.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
He needs a lot of time to recover.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
25 Apr 12
well i know how that feel to feel like a failure when you do take a test and miss it epsically for a job so i understand why he dont want to take it again, just let him think about it and make up his own mind and support him in what he chooese, here is why i say that, right after high school i got a great job as a dispatcher and i worked with my husband my first husband. he was an emt and after being there a couple of years my boss ask me if i wanted to take the emt class so i could go on runs with them and still dispatch but be able to do both , he said he would pay for the class, and i was so excited and wanted it so bad... so i took the class and i got my cpr first try and then came the final exam to make you the emt.. and i took it and when i got the results i almost cryed.. i missed the test by 7 points my instructer said he thought sure i would have passed it and bad thing i had to tell my work, my husband and we lived with his parents at the time so everyone was counting on me passing.. so i told everyone and my boss said retake it and we will pay for it again.. and everyone tryed to get me to take it again even the instructor and i refused for fear of not passing it again.. it really makes you think when you fail and everyone is counting on you.. and what if i did take it again and my co paying for it and fail again.. i could not go thru that again.. so im not am emt .. and now i really dont think i even would want to be., as i seen them go thur so much its a tough job.. and wiht my bi polar i would have never been able to do it anyhow... so let him make his own mind up and support his decision.. i think things happen for a reason.. :) and have no regrets
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
26 Apr 12
just let him know your there for him and dont push him about it, but tell him if he wants to talk you will be there.. and that you will continue to be his freind and support him on any decision he makes .. its very hard to go back and take that chance again becasue what happens if you fail again... i would feel even worse so i dont know.. i guess it depends on how bad he wants to do it and maybe he can be encourgaed to take it until he passes it i dont know.. on the flip side you can tell him you dont care how long it takes or how many times he fails it to keep taking it as long as he can and you will support that... as well.. let him know if he fails again its ok to keep on trying .. i guess.. i supoose we are truely on a failure if we give up and quit.. so i dont know..
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yeah. I know someone who took the exam for 6th time still he didn't pass. He said he will still be taking it next time. Do you think this is a waste of time?
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
It's really a hard decision. He should think about it for a period of time and have no regrets. What I can do is support him and make him feel better because he is in depressed mode.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Apr 12
If your good friend has already taken the exam twice I would think he would be looking for other work. Atleast until the time for the next exam. Maybe by then he will have found a job and won't need to take another test. Sort of depends on what happens. Job or not. If he hasn't found a job by then he could take the exam again.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 12
That is what I was saying.
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
For the meantime, he should find a way to manage the expenses he had for the review. Instead of waiting for the next exam, maybe he can find a job. Maybe he might like the job and consequently he might decide not to take the exam anymore. Thanks for responding.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
26 Apr 12
Hi, Failures are the pillars of success… and please try and try till you win. That's the winning attitude. Getting or clearing a professional exams like engineering or CA or whatever stream it is, is not a joke and everyone can not pass in one go. But once you clear it enhances your qualifications. So it is better to clear the exam even in his 7th try. I know two of my friends – one failed 6 times in B.Com and another could clear his CA after lot of attempts and this day he is earning handsome. When you start working/ apply for job, the employer will not ask you in how many attempts you cleared your course, he is more concerned about your ‘present qualifications’. And above all, if your friend decides to take a job, then he should state that he is ‘pursuing for professional license’ so that during the exam time he could get availed the leaves etc.. Best of luck and congrats you have cleared it.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
26 Apr 12
Hi, That's right. But we need to work hard to reach at the top. Last year i enrolled myself for an online course. But due to my other priorities - work, home, husband & children and other family/office matters made me so hectic. I couldn't even get my passing % of 80%. I tried again and got 95% in the second chance.... Sometimes we just lose interest/focus so guide your friend to do his studies with a schedule for better results.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Thanks for the reply. Yeah, that would be the best suggestion. First he can find and take a job while he is reviewing for the board exam. It's easier said than done. At least he is paying his expenses by getting a job while preparing for the board exam. I hope he can manage his time. It's not easy balancing the time between work and study time. And of course, you also have to relax once in a while.
@rashme317 (250)
• Philippines
16 May 12
i think he shouldn't stop from trying ., but it depends upon him ., if he really wanted to have that liscence then he wouldn't stop from trying
• Philippines
17 May 12
Yes. He wouldn't. But when will he give up? He took the exam and failed six times. Is there a right moment to give it up?
• India
15 Oct 12
Tell your friend to take again. They don’t lost hope, maybe it’s not really the time for them to pass. Follow what you really want in your life. Take a better review; change your strategy in studying. And don’t forget to ask guidance to the Lord. I have also a friend like that, but she did not surrender until she pass the exam.
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
But you can say that this is a situation that is different. He failed six times. Maybe it's not meant for him to pass. I don't know. What is your take?
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Well you cannot fault someone for what may be either complete dedication or perhaps complete stubbornness. I really do think however that there will come a time where you work hard, you give it your all, and your all might not be enough. But there are times where we fall the first time out. To me, three is the magic number. If after the first couple of times, you don't nail it on the third time, I think the likelihood of you succeeding is going to be something that may be considered upon the rather slim. Dedication is one thing but there are times where we just got to throw in the towel and realize that this might not be happening.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yeah. Thanks for your insights. He knows when he will quit. He hasn't decided yet if he will take his third board exam this November. As a friend, I'll continue to support him to whatever is his decision. That's a good point you've stated. Sometimes we just have to realize no matter how hard we try, if it's not meant to be then you just have to move on. There will be other better things for you.
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Its never too late to try again. Anyway, there are no rules on to how many you should retake the exams as long as you pay for it. If he is really determined to pass it, then he will take the exam until he pass it. Good luck to you friend!
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Yeah. He should try and try until he succeeds.
25 Apr 12
I think it is his decision to make to take or not because in the end he will be the one who pass or fail. My point is, is he able to handle another failure if ever or are there things that he need to do to pass the exam. Anyway life will lead us to where we should be but it doesn't mean quitting at all just be open minded.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yeah. He must know if he can take another failure if in case it happens. It's emotionally draining when you did everything but in the end you still fail. I agree, he should be open minded.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
if i were with the same shoe as yours, i will also encourage hi to retake the exam. no matter how many times he failed as long as he is willing to wait for his time to pass and get a license he'll pass. it may not just be his time to have a license. he should wait for his time.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yeah. But for now, if he chooses to get a job then that would help him in his daily expenses reviewing for the board exam.
@jangga93 (39)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Well, hard studying would be a great help for that. but if it took many times that he had failed the exam maybe he should quit for that and try new other one. :)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yeah. It now depends how bad he wants the license. Maybe he will find joy in trying some other things. You never know until you try.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
It is good to know that you have such positive outlook towards things despite waiting for such a long time and for the undertakings that have passed your way you have not lost faith till you have reached your goal and eventually passed it what an attitude I admire you on that.Maybe you must persuade your friend more, tell him to try it the second time around or for a couple of times more and tell him to try it again till he passed it ,inculcate to him the perseverance that you are having and your ability to concentrate on things.Well it won't matter if he looks for a job as long as he allots time for reviewing making him familiar with the subject still perhaps if his decision is to continue his goal of taking the exam support him and if not respect it likewise.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
I have a friend that took the board exam six times but still didn't pass it. What should I tell him? Should he continue taking the exam until he passes?
@Iynna12 (67)
26 Apr 12
I think you should take it anew. First you have given money , second you have had depressions in your head and third there is to much hope in the family for you to have the liscense.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Thanks for responding! It's my friend actually that failed the exam.
26 Apr 12
Nice Discussion Friend. Exams Exams Exams all kids are afraid of this word. Exams are really a challenge for every one. If we work hard for our examinations than we get success in our life. And board exams are beginning of your life. If you fail you have to work hard for next time.
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
The harder you fail, the stronger you become.
• Bulgaria
25 Apr 12
It's hard when you fail an examination of some important.ometimes everyone around you expect to deal with all the tests.It is bad when people accuse.When you start some work,at least people will not blame.
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yeah. But will he retake or move on? It's not an assurance that he will pass the exam on the third time. One of the factors in the decision is time. Maybe he has consumed a lot of time in reviewing for the board exam. Maybe he should find work now? What's the best decision for him?
• United States
25 Apr 12
Exams are hard, for some people and there is nothing to do about it but study, continue to familarize themselves with the exam, and have a little bit of luck on their side. People fail at many things in life, espeically big board exams. Your friends just might need to shell out a couple bucks for a study book, or study program to give them an upperhand the next time they take it. I know if I put so much studying and time into it, I would make sure that I eventually passed it!
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Yeah. I know my friend and he studies very hard everyday. When we were still reviewing last May, I've seen all his efforts studying about 3 hours a day. If anyone deserves to pass the exam it should be him. I pity my friend because he has done everything in order to pass the exam. But still it was not enough. Now, he is deciding if he will retake the exam or not. If he decides to retake, it will be his third time.