When did you decided to move out from your parents

It seemed like you dont really have a hard time to live with your parents and you just decided to move out because of college and you got hitched.

I really didn't want to go to college any so I lived there and worked part time as the same place my mom and brother were working at part time as well. My husband got kicked out of his mom's house and he hates living with his dad and his dad wouldn't let us stay with him. So my parents kind of let him move in with out with out us even asking. Us getting married had nothing to do with us leaving and moving out. My brother has been married for nearly 5 years and still live with my parents in there basement. We tried and looked hard to live up there around both of parents and friends but it was unliveable and we would have been stuck with family for ever like my brother and his wife and son are still. So we packed up our things one day with out telling others and left and moved 9 hours away and stayed for 7 months I believe with his grandparents. We really when we moved out of there place couldn't afford the apartment we moved into but it was the lowest thing we could get with help from my parents. So they helped with most of our rent if we couldn't pay for it and slowly over a year my husband has gotten a better job. The main reason why we moved out of his grandparents house is one they drive me nuts to the point I would either kill them or myself. Two I was pregnant and I didn't want them helping us raise or baby they really didn't seem interested in her. There where times my husband went hungry and didn't eat for a few days or not that much when we lived with and with out his grandparents. So for our daughters sake at the time before she was born we choice to get our own place with the help of my mom. At 5 months pregnant we got our own place had nothing to put into it didn't have every much food to bring in and my husband and I where still dirty poor. With a lot of hard work and the fact he lost his job when our daughter was 6 months old he got this new job that he has almost been with for a year now. We are now some what more stable to pay for our own rent, and stuff for our family ever few weeks I have to ask for help with either bills or mostly food. We get help from the government in small ways. Where we live now life is more affordable then it was where our parents are. Everyone is proud of the move we made even though we are so far for them and wish we where closer and beg us to move back to where they are at and we tell them no not unless they want to buy us a house or one hell of a job for my husband where he can afford things like we can here.

In my case, my relationship with my parents is kinda dysfunctional and rather than me hurting their feelings and them hurting my feelings I decided to have a life of my own. I think in a way it improved my relationship with them now. Ever since I moved out, I felt more loved by them since my conversations with them at phone or skype is much more compassionate, Instead of the angry talk we use to have everyday. Also when I visit them,its like a special occasional, I felt more appreciated as a son and I appreciate more as my mother and father. No more arguments and complaints, the family relationship is more harmonious.

In my country, college students still lives with their parents, I decided to move out when i cant stand their strictness anymore. I felt chocked with their bible thumping. In my country people will live with their parents until they get married.

I would have liked to still live with them then have them get a share of my earnings, but the way they treated me makes me decide I want to be away. I just get tired of feelings getting her over arguments that doesnt make sense, Its just generational gap. Its just that I will never be a good son in their eyes.

what makes you not want to stay with them? My sisters seemed to be closer with my parents,I remember both of them said,if they won the lottery, they will quit their jobs and live with my parents. My parents I think see their sons as failures. My brother for getting married before finishing college and me for my choice of appearance.

we live in the same country so I kinda know about that, Its just that I am not the favorite child among siblings.I am an unwanted child, mom mom tried aborting me but my dad stopped her, basically mom mom only wanted 3 kids.

Don't say things like that. Your mother and your father loves you. Why did you say that you were the unwanted child?

Well, just be positive and don't dwell on your mother's feelings. She may not love you but I think your father does love you very much. And also your relatives and friends loves you very much.

I have friends who still lives with their parents, well if they were only not super religious and strict , I might still live with them. but they still treat me like a kid,They keep on giving me advice that I dont need. also my mom hates animals, I cant have pets if I still live with them.

anyway I had been away from them for 8 years, but I visit almost every month. Its just that I am their opposite in many ways and I dont want arguments and fights.

Indeed my parents becamenicer to me when they miss me. I remember when my brother is unemployed and still lives with my parents, I saw my mom nagging at him in front of his sons and she nags at me in front of his sons too. I dont want my parents nag at me if I became a parent. No way....

How many times do you visit your parents in a year? I kinda visit them once a month and they always give me phonecalls.

indeed, My parents are nicer to me now and I was more respectful to them ever since the relationship with them is long distance.we dont have fights anymore. they make more effort connecting with me as their son. also no more nagging, no one gets emotionally hurt anymore, no more fights.

My dad is controlling too and he is also perfectionist, he is a chef and chefs are hot headed perfectionist people who will complain and criticize a minimal flaw.

so you still live with them. It seemed like you get along with your parents better since you dont seemed to have a plan to move out at this moment.

The nagging and being treated like a kid is also a factor why I decided to get out of the hell hole. also they were borderline too conservative, I cant breathe cos they make me felt choked with all those rules.

I know, sometimes instead of helping me with my self esteem,my parents makes it worst, they kept on nagging about my mannerisms, I have adhd and those mannerisms are part of my condition. geez i cant stand it at all. They always try to make drama out of small things too.

My sister in law, nephews and nieces still live with my parents, My brother works abroad to send her money, I notice my parents are nicer to their grand children./

Our case seemed to be similar, I never had arguments with my parents ever since I moved out. They are also more excited to see me when I visit them. Unlike before its all about nagging at me on how I was not good enough.