Is it really necessary to be this annoying??
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
April 26, 2012 3:57am CST
A friend of mine's wedding is fast approaching. They only had 3 months to prepare because the baby bump is showing. Well, I don't really want to talk about why they decided to marry right now, but it's their decision.
Anyhow, seems the guy is frantic about his budget or something that whenever we are both online at Facebook, he keeps on bugging me about my partner's flight home. I have already told him over a dozen times that we'd be booking for the plane at the end of April and that he is already scheduled on leave a day before the wedding. But I told him that anything could happen because my partner is an asset of the company, that's why I told him not to put him in any parts so that we wouldn't be disappointed.
Now, he's doing it a daily thing. Every single time we meet (whether online or in real) he keeps on bugging me about the flight. I am begging to be annoyed because I do understand with all the budget and such, but we're not talking about a family, it's just a single person.
I'm trying to be understanding and all, but it's really getting on my nerves. I am even thinking of not attending at all but since she is my good friend and she needs our support as friends, then I would have to spend money to buy a formal gown (because he insisted for formal attire) and my partner needs to buy himself that as well, not to mention that since it's the peak of the season, we will be booking expensive plane tickets when we just spent a fortune with our vacation last February. Is there no stopping this guy??
Whew.. Sorry for ranting. But what do you suggest? Thanks in advanced for the responses. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
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4 responses
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
He must be that excited that is why he keeps on bugging you...
But if it is everyday that is too much, just ignore him or something.
There are really people who do that, its as if they forgot care of what others think for once. 
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
It is not necessary, of course, but I don't think he's aware that you're already getting annoyed. 
If I were you, I would frankly tell him that I'm getting annoyed with what he's doing, and if he's not going to stop, I'll not talk to him anymore.
If I were you, I would frankly tell him that I'm getting annoyed with what he's doing, and if he's not going to stop, I'll not talk to him anymore. 2 people like this
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
The problem here is that he's not my direct friend. He's the fiance of my close friend and yet he's the one bugging me over these things. It's really weird. My friend and I do talk about the wedding but it's him who's always bugging me about the attendance of my partner.
Wouldn't it be rude if I suddenly snapped at him like that? I wouldn't want to ruin his excitement.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 12
hi laydee I would tell him to calm down already and remind him
he has been asking the same things over and over already.I really
would try to stop him as he is so excited he is forgetting good
manners and respect for other peoples time.you can be gentle but
firm as he may not realize how far off base he has become unless he knows something you do not like perhaps the bride to be is farther along than she looks.lol lol loll.hope he calms down and lets you be in peace for awhile.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
True. I have been ignoring him now, well it's intentional but after several hours I would message him stating my so-called 'apologies' for not being able to reply so soon and of course with lots of smileys. 
hehehehe..
I think it's better to avoid than confront at this point in time. I don't want the relationship to be strained.
Thanks for the thoughts. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
hehehehe..
I think it's better to avoid than confront at this point in time. I don't want the relationship to be strained.
Thanks for the thoughts. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@jmay1226 (97)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
Maybe he is also excited to see both of you. As for the attire you don't need to buy expensive one's just choose both your attire within your budget. As for the ticket, as for me you should be thankful that they invited you to attend on their special day but if the ticket will cost you a lot and you can't afford to but the tickets instead of buying for your own needs then be practical, you can tell them that you can't go because you are out of budget or maybe just one of you will attend whether it's you or your husband.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
We do want to be in the wedding, and it's also a good time for us to meet again. My partner is working abroad that's why it's costly for him to come over, but I miss him too so we are both excited to come to the event. However, he's (the guy) just stressing me out because he keeps on asking me similar questions.
Yeah, perhaps he's just excited or is really in panic mode as for the final number of guests, perhaps a lot hasn't confirmed yet, that's why he's frantic. I sure hope that it wouldn't be too stressful, else he wouldn't be able to enjoy his own wedding day.
Thanks for the advise. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
