When were you going to tell someone?
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63643)
United States
April 26, 2012 2:37pm CST
So, if you have a medical problems, wouldn't you tell your new doctor?
Why do you wait until the middle of the night to decide you have to go to the ER when you were at a doctor this afternoon?
The new roommate has lived here 3 months and last night is her 3rd late night ER run (at least it wasn't ME this time.)
And only a couple of weeks ago she went to her new GP, and said NOTHING about this problem, but claimed she'd known she'd had it...
Why didn't she mention it to her?
Its like the last ER visit, she had complained about the problem BEFORE she moved down here, but NEVER mentioned it until I'm having to run her to the ER.
So, today she's having surgery for the problem that she KNEW about but never BOTHERED to tell anyone else.
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10 responses
@rewardsinlife (1132)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Maybe she didn't feel comfortable telling her new doctor...like she knows this one is going to work, so why mention it if I am not going back to them? Also, people have an incredibly hard time repeating 'everything' back the dr especially if they are at the dr for another reason they don't want to bring up past stuff if it is not bothering them at the moment. If I started with the back log of all my past medical stuff everytime I saw a new dr., I would set them behind at least an hr. At least she is having surgery to fix it so you won't have to keep doing those nightly ER runs. You can always call 911 too so she gets a red taxi express there and you can stay in bed if you really don't want to help out.
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@GardenGerty (160998)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Yeah, some of us have history here. I hope to build more history with more friends. We (hubby and I) even met Elic at a vacation spot in our state last year.
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@rewardsinlife (1132)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Ah I see. Hard to know when you are new here..just have to go kind of by the first posts you have seen written. Thanks for the clarification!
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@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
26 Apr 12
I would tell my doctor. I'd probably make an appointment with the doctor and ask about it long before I was rolling around on the floor in pain. I've been to the ER twice, and neither time was a very pleasant experience and I'd rather have it not happen again. Ever. Though I don't think that's likely...
Maybe your roommate is stubborn and doesn't want to talk about the problem until it's hard to ignore? Probably isn't very good for her or your sleep cycle...
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@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
27 Apr 12
Especially if she's living with you for a longer term period. You wouldn't want to be making regular long drives.
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@GardenGerty (160998)
• United States
26 Apr 12
I would be a bit tired of this, as you obviously are. Common sense is totally uncommon. This may be a reflection of the dynamics of her relationship with her mom. She did not have to be an adult about her health because mom was there to speak up for her. Mom would probably push and prod her. I am glad that it is a problem that can be fixed. Maybe she is in denial about having to change her life so much and move in with you guys and get a new doctor. Doctors are supposed to be omniscient, didn't you know?
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
27 Apr 12
You wouldn't believe how many people do that! And most call 911! Being a first responder I hear all the calls being paged out, and there are a lot every week. They call 911 and the call is paged out as 'male/female, been sick since last night, weak or needs assistance' etc. When they could have called a friend or someone to take them to the doctor during the day, or they have been sick for days and call for ems! I haven't figured out why they don't call the doctor during the day, other than for some it's a free ride to the emergency room! (And I did say....SOME)
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
28 Apr 12
I read her the riot act today. I flat told her that we aren't taking her for any more middle of the night ER visits. That if she thinks she needs to go to the ER she needs to call EMS, and I know that Medicare won't pay for it if you aren't admitted.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 12
hi elicbxn I think I am pretty good at telling new doctors about problems b ut hate going to new doctors. prefer the one I h ave in tustin.But maybe she was just afraid and did not know what to do
about it.fear of the unknown sometime screws us u p when we should be forthright and tell new doctors and old our new problems so they can be taken care of.I have been guilty at times myself and learned that putting off seeing a doctor when you are first sick can lead to walking pneumonia which is not fun to have. lol lol We humans are a funny breed. we will rush kids to the doctor but put off going cause we are afraid o
f what he will find and yet if we went the first time we felt ill we would save ourselves a lot of pain and trouble too.
f what he will find and yet if we went the first time we felt ill we would save ourselves a lot of pain and trouble too.1 person likes this
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
27 Apr 12
I hear ya, and in 2008 I was suffering from headaches, and it turned out it was my gall bladder going out - how come the head hurt meant the gall bladder was going I was supposed to know this... it was only the last 2 weeks that the stomach started hurting, and except for the day I threw up, that didn't hurt as bad as my head!
my joke for 2008/2009 was "Don't go to the hospital with a headache, they'll yank your gall bladder."
@aauecon06 (204)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I think she was 'ashamed' for telling it that's why she didn't say something about it. Maybe she's not comfortable and she needs someone to open up to before that had happened. I guess at times we just need to listen to someone seriously so that they would ease up and would be able to say all those things. In that case, they might be open about it and freely say what they are feeling without bein uncomfortable about it.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
28 Apr 12
I told her today that she didn't tell anyone about this problem. And that her new GP could tell her that she doesn't want her for a patient if she isn't open and honest with her. That I didn't think the GP would do that, but she would have the right to do so.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
28 Apr 12
Yes, she should have told the doctor. However, it sounds like she wasn't comfortable talking to a new doctor. I don't know, though, how going to the ER is more comfortable than dealing with one's own physician.
Hopefully, as someone else said, she has now learned her lesson and will make a better effort to actually communicate with her doctor.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
oh that is carelessness on her part. She should be honest in the first place.
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@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
27 Apr 12
She should have told the new doctor about this problem... It's one thing that many of us feel that it's inappropriate to bring up things when we just go because of one problem. It could have been okay if she hadn't mentioned things which are not dangerous. But she knew that this one would cause her troubles.
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