You and your siblings

Well, us siblings are all girls and have our own families. One of us is in a 12 minute ride place and the rest are just near each other. But whenever we get together even with our husbands , we really have a wonderful time talking, laughing and eating.

This is an extremely sensitive issue with me allknowing! I have only one sister. My brother passed away when he was seventeen in an accident .He was just three years younger than I but soon after he was born I felt insecure and clung to my elder sister as if she were my life support. We were very close but on hindsight I always feel that I was, in true "younger sisterly" fashion looking up to her. There was no jealousy, resentment, sibling rivalry or anything that any normal sisters would have .Anyone coming to our house would remark at the perfect closeness we shared quoting us as examples of really loving sisters. We would meet every fortnight when we were in the same city and chat endlessly. I still cherish very fond memories of this. With age and maturity I realized that there were temperamental differences and when there was too much of "taking for granted" it became a matter of conflict leading to so many things. I always blame myself for my nature but once you have established precedence and a kind of behavior others find it difficult to accept individuality that would surface with age... People find it difficult to come to terms with it. Now the closeness which I thought we had has reduced though there is love and affection .This is too strong to be erased. I am trying to make something of what is remaining and also making it clear to her to reciprocate.She is making her own efforts. I am sure time will bring back the old magic. Unless there is total reciprocity and transparency in expressions relationships get strained.

I have one sister and she is five years older than me. She is more practical than me and I have lots more academic qualifications than her. She is clever but didn't take her education to as high a level as me. I am interested in reading, writing, Internet, pets, have a vegan diet and my top hobby is traveling to different countries. She is interested in Internet, making extra money, boot sales, jumble sales and china restoration. She is very good at art work and making clothes. My sister lives in a five bedroom detached house which fits her family perfectly. She has a husband and four children. They live just five minutes walk away from me. I live in a three bedroom semi detached bungalow. I have three children. Yesterday we had a birthday party for my disabled son now 5 years old and my second eldest nephew now 12 years old. I get on very well indeed with my lovely sister. I am very grateful to my sister for getting me to join excellent My Lot.

my siblings and i have differences too and often we fight and argue like what siblings do. but even though we fight, we always get along. i think this is the important part of the sibling-relationship. we may be similar in all ways but what's important is we get to understand those differences and accept one another.

My three older brothers and I are very close. I think we became closer as they all started to get married and have their own family. My eldest brother is 11 years older than I am, the 2nd is 8 and my third brother is 6 years older than me. Thus, when I became a teenager, they were already working or in universities. My second brother was the first to tied the knot, but a couple of years later, they divorced, and I believe from there onwards, all of us became very close. Even more so, after our mother passed away 5 years ago. Ever since then, we would meet up every other day for lunch or dinner. We would have a get together during weekends. My sisters-in-law and I get along very well, so that helped a lot. I moved away from home about 2 years ago and it was difficult in the beginning because I didn't really have them to fall back on, but a few times, they helped me out as much as they could, when I needed them too. We keep in touch every day in our family chat group via Whatsapp. If it were not for that app, it would have been hard for me to cope with being away from them! Skype or email is just not the same.

The drift started here due to space. Yet we contact with each other often. Thanks to communication in this to contact with them even miles apart.

i notice that with my two daughters. one looks like me and the other one looks like my hubby. also, the one that looks like is a lot like me in a lot of ways and the otherone is like her dad.

I agree, even if we share same interest or hobby and lifestyle- if we live far from each other and seldom see each other in person- there seems to have walls in between. Me and my siblings are very close to each other. But the distance made some gap, yes we do see each other once or twice a year but it is not enough to fill the gaps. At least I've come to know I am not alone with this feeling and observation.

My sister and I are seven years apart (I am the older one). When we were growing up, we weren't particularly close. To us it was a big age gap and we did our own separate things. But as we got older, that gap got smaller somehow - and not that we're super close, but we are closer than we ever were growing up. It's like now we can relate to each other as we are now adults. We don't see each other often, but we do communicated via email or phone whenever possible and we meet up at my parents house whenever we can. My kids love their aunty, so it's nice when we all get together. My husband's side is the exact opposite and more like how you said it. He has 2 older sisters . . . and growing up they were all very close. But then it when they got in higher school levels, they started drifting apart. The oldest one was getting into trouble - ultimately married and had kids early - and now they can't sustain themselves (begging everyone for money). The second one is completely the opposite - she left home as a teen - and did herself well career wise - but snubs people including her own family at times. My hubby loves his sisters, but can't relate to them, so he sees them drifting apart especially after his parents pass on someday.

I agree- siblings grow close since we live in the same roof.. My sister and i were so close before too- even if we were not blood related.. But then came the time when she left the house and we rarely got to talk.. When we meet we still talk like before but we don't know much about each otehr anymore.

Hi allknowing, I admist that I am one of those drifter..I left my siblings/home over 40 years ago,,however I have not drifted so far as to not see/talk with my siblings...Almost every year since I've left home and moved over 500 miles away, not a year pass with me seeing my siblings..Even when my chidren were small I would still take the trip back home either by driving(by myself with 2 toddlers) or by bus or by train.... Now for the last 10 years by children and my grandsons drive down every year...with no parents, we will always be close regardless of the miles between us...

I and my sibling has fights and we had behaved very rough but still we know the value of it. We still keep our relations on hold without breaking them. Breaking relations are quite easy but keeping them hold on you hand is little tough.

I am so happy with my sibling.Me and my sibling grew to my family.My parents really discipline us how we are going to share together. My mom said that the more we share the more thing she will give us, so we are enjoying the things that our mom is giving us.

Me and my sis are pretty close. She is 9 years younger than me so every now and again the age difference got between us and we fight. But we usually make up afterward. I'm currently tutoring her in English and seeing her getting better and better everyday is more than enough for me.

It's totally inevitable even if you live closer to each other. It is because one has or might have different dream for life.

Me and my siblings don't look like siblings at all! Aside from the fact that we all look different (but we all have the same parents of course) we don't share the same hobby and we all have different characters and views in life. Sometimes i think we're not siblings at all.