Sorry if, I do not respect older people ..are you respectable?

Age doesn't matter to me in terms of respect, even my own children I do have some respect with them in their private life. Specially the elders too. But sometimes it is hard to accept that the old since they knew that they are old it seem they already knew what life is, and the young ones has no right to be against with them. Which is not right every body has it's own opinion and we must respect it. In that situation even the older woman is angry with the young lady still she has no right to curse her in public even it is her own child. She can be angry and talk to her in private with only the two of them and not with in front of the others she is humiliated.

I do agree, age is no difference here.. i mean you can demand respect at any age. I remember my encounter with the SSS lady again, i do not like to respect her even as she does not even know how to respect us. Do unto others, what other do unto you.

hi sis! just like what your grandpa has said, respect needs to be mutual. respect is given to those who know how to use it in the first place. regardless of age. public tongue lashing is so disrespectful especially using curses, unless the recipient is involved in a crime. i myself would be enraged if any of the kids in my family would talk back to the elders (their grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles). we don't do that. and we don't use curse words at home. not a good example for the kids. for me, any adult acting childish and unreasonable deserves less respect than those kids acting maturely and responsibly beyond their years. i can't help but compare my nephews and nieces sometimes. i have a 17yr-old nephew who whines about being treated like a kid. i told him, when he starts acting responsibly, he'll be treated like an adult. then there was a niece of mine who is 14 yo now but has earned my respect since she was 4 yo. at 4 yo, she has become a responsible kid who does homework first before playing, who arranges her own school bag as soon as she gets home from school, who doesn't make unnecessary demands beyond her parents capabilities, who never talks back to elders but can be assertive on occasion, who has never initiated a fight between her two younger siblings and has never given her parents any form of headache at all. cheers sis!

Treating people whether they are older or not, with respect is a whole different concept than actually respecting them. I was raised to treat everyone with respect and that included my peers, older people, younger people and animals as well. If someone was rude to me or disrespectful then I would never be right in being rude or disrespectful back. That just brought me to their level. I would "act" in a respectful manner but did I respect that rude person? NO! I did not. Two wrongs never make a right. Remember that little phrase? In the example given, they both are wrong. The older lady should NEVER have spoken to that child that way and most especially in front of others where it is humiliating for the child who probably doesn't know how to yet handle those emotions and it should have been humiliating for her. As a bystander, my sympathy would have probably gone out to the child who was still learning these lessons and I would have been disgusted with the older person who should have already learned them and be setting an example. Even if that child had been respectful, I can almost guarantee that the older person would never ever really be respected by that child and the child will not feel close to nor look up to her. Age does not give anyone the right to be disrespectful to anyone for any reason.

Hi di How do I respect elders - maybe offer them my seat in the bus... or even be polite to them when talking... there can be many things that would reflect the respect. Well, there are two sects of old people - one whom I know, and mostly they would always be respected (my parents, inlaws, relatives, parents of friends etc). And the second are the outsiders - unless I am quite sure that they dont deserve the respect, I will continue respecting and showing in some way or the other.

I feel the same as you Jaiho. Although, it is said that we have to respect our elders, but in that situation, i think anybody would react that way too. Good if it was done with you and the old woman present only. But, with other people around hearing what has been said to you in a humiliating way by the elderly, i think you will surely be pushed to your limit and forget respect to old people.

Though I generally believe in respecting elder people and teach my kids the same, I've been in the kind of situation that you mentioned and it's really hard to be respectful to the person's age. Even though it is judgemental, I think I would justify the young girl's actions. It isn't the ancient ages to nag and curse in public (I don't even condone it in private ...but it's easier to handle in private).

I was taught to respect my elders. That's all...there were no conditions...if you answered back, questioned their instructions or authority, ignored them or any of that sort of behaviour, you got a clip over the ear. Respect seems to be a forgotten word. A lot of younger people are so selfish they care only about themselves and have no respect for anyone. They don't show respect to anyone and they also don't teach their young ones, their children to respect anyone. If that young person was being yelled at she probably deserved it and got what she deserved...a tongue lashing. Why was the woman speaking to her that way...we will never know. It's not our place to guess or even judge people. So many things are being forgotten these days...respect is one, morals, standards, values, many traditions. It's the direction we are travelling now and we can try and hold on to these things but they will soon be gone.

I respect elderly people...Luckily, for me I have not came across of any elderly swearing/cursing at me. If it happens, I'd really talk to the elderly in person. lol.

I want to be respected and I surely think that I should respect everyone (no matter what age, cree, race, culture, genre, you name it). I don´t think people should be respected because of their age or because the car they have or their money ar their skin color. Unfortunatly, not many people respect others. Just read a newspaper or talk to the neighbor next door. We are all full of prejudices.

Respect begets respect. Respect is earned no matter what or how, no matter when or where and most of all, it is age doesn't matter. The older ones must be the model of this virtue. Just what your grandpa said before, that when we respect the young ones they will also pay us back what we give them.

Jane beti you are 40+ certainly a matured woman, life has taught you many things.. in my culture we are taught to respect elder persons, whether friend or family members, none demands respect though.. I also respect views and opinions of younger, many times i might be wrong and they might be right.. hugs from dada

Hi Respect is something very hard to earn but easy to lose. If I have to respect someone especially according to their age/look then I would definitely expect him/her to be polite with me. I always treat the seniors with respect and until unless I don’t give respect to juniors, how will they respect me. if someone is ill treating me for no reasons, then definitely whatever good he/she do to others, respect will not come from my heart for that person...

I am not so old according to you-i am just 20.Exactly 20 when it was January 2012.But i do have concerns wit these issues.Let me tell you what happened when i was exactly in my sixth standard.(grade) It was the day of Annual-the final examinations.We had our Language exam a day-and the next day my teacher asked my question paper(i wonder why she always preferred asking mine-but she would ask and i always would give it to her)So since it was the annual exam-no one would love to retain the question paper.So i lost my question paper somehow.Or maybe my friends tore it for that sake-the exam was over after all.The next day walking to school-my teacher asked me the question paper.So what i told her was i would bring it the next day. In the evening,i asked my best friends but they were all like me,who lost the question papers-some even tore it to pieces.So what i had to do was,i was going to ask that to one cunning girl in my flats-and she said she wants the question paper-so i told i would xerox it and give back.She said okay.Since my mom was working in the bank, and at that small age-i never knew where money was-i kept it safely at my house till my mom came.Then lo! Before mom had come, she came once and asked for the question paper.I said i would give it in a few minutes-immediately after mom comes-i would xerox it and give-i said. So then my mom came-i went for xeroxing with the money-i had to see her house before i went.She called me when i was going and her grandmother came out of the house--She said-'you are not giving the question paper of my grand daughter-and trying to hide it,eh?I will kill you with the sword-she said with a sword by her hand-to me(a 110 or 11 year old girl) So you could imagine how i reacted-i cried (being so afraid and friendly) and cried and gave the paper back,walked back to my home.Since that day,i would never respect her.Later on,as time passed, she came talking to me, but i always ended up with a non-smiling face. People are like this-so you could not just respect them easily!That old lady should not have cursed like that-okay i have done a mistake too, but what was she going to do with that Q.Paper after she was going to be promoted to the next standard?It's not math and science too!Why then would she need it?And what right has her grandmother got on me? So i will not and could not respect all elders.I will rather respect decent and good hearted people.May it be a year younger than me, i don't care because i have respect in my heart for them-not for these bad ladies!Whatever the case maybe-i am my grandma's best grand daughter-so is she to her grandma.That's it.She's nothing related to me. In my opinion-the younger lady has scolded back only when the elder one nagged at her.So fault is with the elder one.The younger one didn't respond or behave so,first. My mind says "Give respect;take respect" So you respect me, i respect you, you kick me, i kick you too! But when it comes to some ladies (old) who are really on the right side but are being cheaply treated by the younger ones-then i wholly support the old.And when they are disabled as well-i would support them.Only when they are going to be 'right' you could see me supporting them. But i respect all my elders-like my mother,grandmother,and family members.They have all proved to be a signature of the times.Gem of persons and i would support them and 'ONLY them' whatever be the situation!

Older people especially those senior citizens(people over 60 years of age) deserve all the attention, care and respect from the entire society. In fact respect for elders is a virtue much adored in most societies.

I go out of my way to respect people of all ages. However, it's not always automatic. There's a Bible verse that talks about gray headedness being a crown of beauty when it is found in the way of rightousness. So anybody, young or old, who demands respect better be thinking about treating others with respect as well. I avoid people who don't know how to treat others kindly.

Always respect the elders, teach this to your kids from the very childhood, if you ever visit our home, you will see Subhee and Bishu will touch your feet. Hugs from maa to Jane beti HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY Sorry for late response.

Hello Jaiho, I always respect older people hardly matters what they say even if they curse me i don't care i just listen from one ear and let it go from the other one.I understand when one gets old his/her body and mind gets dull and he/she does not know what they are talking/doing so let them do it its not their fault. Hope that young lady had realized it once she would have reach home but of course that old lady should not have done it in the market place.

I am the one in my family who is known to be respecting elders.I never hurt or disrespect them.Still I know many old people who are just cheats and unbearably cunning.They are my neighbors.I don't know you would believe me or not if I tell you that they would not think twice before harming you even if you respect them by heart.I have seen them abusing their own parents when they were alive.They are old,but not respectable at all and I don't and can't respect them.

Why only old people? Why not respect for everybody even if they are older? I am 65; look at my picture. Do I look it? First define old or older. You can be 25 and be old depending on your outlook on life and your views. And you can be 65 with a healthy mind and attitude and be gorgeous. Would you call Meryl Streep or Helen Mirren old? Okay, maybe Judy Dench - but why so wrapped up in old? You mention the age 40 and feel you are old. Balderdash! If you think you are old, you are. I am hip and forward thinking and work as hard at my writing as when I first started, if not more. Look at my writing. Does it seem jaded and old-fashioned? - although old-fashioned is not bad.