Being talkative

vi, I wonder what will happen when we finally meet each other in person...haha who will talk first?

I know you'll get over it. Get into sports or participate more in what you love doing. take dancing classes or singing lessons, whatever you like. Having more people around you and always being with them can help you more of being sociable. Shying away cannot help you unless you let it...

The more I read the replies to this discussion the more I convince myself that I'm not alone in this matter.I really want to be more sociable when I have to,like you,but I find it pretty hard to get over my shyness.

I'm also trying to be more social but since I'm actually pretty shy I end up either feeling a little awkward or sounding a bit TOO cheerful.But I think I am getting more social after all so I guess it's working.

hey vi, I think we are the same on this matter. yes it's true that there are times that I don't feel like talking to anyone, even to my husband, even to my parents when I am still with them. Such mood creates a lot of misunderstanding between me and people around me, sometimes they think that I am angry or what, but as time pass by and as they know me more, they come to understand me. Like my mom, before, she always complains why I don't talk or why I talk very little, and she gets mad when I am like that and when she ask me why I act like that I will just say nothing, I just don't feel like talking...haha Thanks that my mom come to understand me and learned that when I am quiet, they just don't talk to me, they just wait for me to start a conversation and wait when I am back in being talkative in the family again... So people who knows me well already know how to handle me, people who don't know me much...misunderstood me and think bad about me...haha

ckyera, is it true that there are times you don't want to talk to anyone even your husband? Hmmmm...sounds like me huh? Well, there are times I also don't like to talk. Not to my family or even single person. I just don't want to. There are times I have a mood like this. Seems like I also don't want to have phone calls. But there are people who are close to me who doesn't know that side of me so they keep on complaining why don't you answer my calls? I don't know. I just don't want to talk to anyone. even my family members who are with me in the house. But of course, I have to talk to others always, right? there's just this mood I can't avoid at times...

lol. I understand what you are saying. It's nice to have someone that we can talk to for awhile. After all we all enjoy good conversations. And if you talk a lot I'm sure you have a lot to say.

Hey..I just posted my 200 post.And i did it in your discussion itself.

Yea..Just imagine if we go and behave as if you are friends with strangers. And You are welcome.

When talking to strangers I always behave very seriously and try to think before I speak but once I think someone is my friend I also relax and start to show a my fun side little by little. By the way,thank you for posting your 200th post in my discussion,it makes me feel sooo flattered and kinda warm inside :)

Yes and also as we get older, we get more confident of ourselves that's why we get less and less shy.

I've always been a motormouth around friends but as I get older I also seem to be like you-I get less and less shy as the years pass.Besides that it's only natural that people get more loud and open since the older you get the longer you've known your friends,that's what I think anyway.

i am not shy personality , i am just reserved....what i mean in my message was, people wont behave the same way online,, , as they behave when face to face...

It not all that different. Shy people open up more online but in the end their opinion remains the same as well as the things they say although there are people who adopt an entirely different personality online.

I understood your response perfectly and I mostly agreed with it and also gave shy people as an example and not a suggestion that you are shy.My point was that the people won't behave ENTIRELY different,they still have the same character and opinion after all. Thank you for responding!

I guess everyone is like that more or less but there are people who instead of getting more talkative just show their more vulnerable side...

Being talkative is just playing of being friendly and hospitable.Others are just shy that is why they can not show how talkative they were or they are just not really talkative.

You're definitely right about that. I guess the discussion itself is a pretty big factor and if something is interesting for somebody s/he would open up even to people more as his/her opinion on the topic is stronger and clearer and definitely requires more words and involves talking more.

I'm pretty much the same way.

I was also incredibly shy as a little kid but when I grew up some of the shyness went away but I still keep a wall between me and strangers.

It seems to me like you have found the golden mean,as people in my country say,between saying to little and saying too much. I don't talk so much as to never stop I just like to exaggerate that trait of mine so I can see how you can get annoyed with someone who doesn't know when to stop talking.

You're right. The topic of the discussion and how interested you are in it is definitely important and has influence on behavior.

This is an interesting inversion of the usual case.I've always thought that people open up much more when they will not be held responsible for their actions and everyone online is basically anonymous so people express their opinions and flirt and chat more and generally get more talkative and friendly.

I guess you are just like me.Strangers don;t believe it when my friends tell them I'm impossible to shut up once I start talking about something that interests me.But then when people get to know me they discover that i talk even when I sleep. :D