Fake friends.
@LaurenPogisky (131)
April 27, 2012 10:03am CST
How many of you have fake friends? I have so many friends in school. But there are just few ones who I think will stand by my side in times or hardship. I think most of them are fake friends. They say bad words when I am not around, stabbing me at the back. Some are only kind to me when they are about to ask favors like copying my assignments. How do you deal with these kinds people? Should I just stay away from them or should tell them that they are already getting into my nerves. I am a good friend but when I discovered that you they are not even reciprocating my kindness, I think that you are not worth my friendship.
7 responses
@cloud31 (5809)
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27 Apr 12
I just can't forget a friend that was all I thought a real friend. I was with her for almost 6 years sharing things in common,good times and bad times we were together.She attended college later than I due to some family problems.I was working whilst she studying. We were most like a sisters.
I cared a lot of our friendship but all of a sudden it was changed. I have met a few friends of her during her birthday party and unintentionally I have a chat with her friends. I have known that she told a lot of lies and she turned things and even situations upside down. It made me disappointed and that I can't even say a word knowing that she treated me like an enemy when I'm not around.
To make the story short I ended up our friendship after confronted her and admitted to myself she don't deserved my friendship.
But most likely there are friends who are real and its worth caring.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
2 May 12
The feeling that you invested to your friends can be hard to remove when you know that you have shared a lot to them. You know that you have some things that you both have shared but then it was just a thought. It's hard to find out that the friend you got was a fake. And didn't really cared about you. There are also times they are just using you and taking advantage of your kindness.
It's not a good feeling to let go of a friend who you trusted and accepted as your sister. But then if you really think of the things she has done and the way other people said things that she had made things up and made lots of lies. It's not fair to have such friend like that. It's good that you have confronted her. Cause I never had a chance back then. What did you tell her by the way? How did you confronted her?
@cloud31 (5809)
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4 May 12
I did confronted her. Anyway I know its hard to let go of someone but better let it end than to worsen the situation and for most I don't want to say I'm ok when I'm not.I don't want to know more about her and most of all when I think of how much I cared about her,I maybe forget what she have done but I won't trust her again after all.
So we'd rather part our ways than being unreal with each other. Pretend that nothing happens and forgive!
I tell you the whole thing when we get the time. Thanks.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
5 May 12
Of course. Pretending to be okay when the fact that is obvious is not,is not good specially when it comes to emotional factors...
Letting go of someone you have loved and accepted and valued as a part of your life is really hard. You may cry all you want but then the real factor is that are you gonna be okay if you still continue being friends with her. It's like letting her treat you like a rug that can be thrown whenever she wants to. Too bad...
I also had a friend like that. I have given her second chance but then she never changed. So it's better to end the friendship instead of not being true to each other. Yes, it's much easier to forget what she did but then you don't know how much change would she have when you meet again. Trust is the foundation of friendship. Without it, it would be worthless... Don't you think?
@krizzy (237)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Fake friends are everywhere..I have those too..Those users that are just nice to you if they want something from you..well I just don't mind them even if they do that to me..someday they will get what they deserve..If I don't have those fake friends, I will not able to see the true ones who stick with me through thick and thin..
@naija4real (1291)
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28 Apr 12
The world is filled with all kind of people - good, bad, urgly, wicked and so on and therefore you should not expect that the world is going to be a bed of roses for you. You are bound to meet all kind of characters as you journey your way through the road of life. Just learn to accommodate the unpleasant character that you see in your friend. That will make you a winner and you will end up finding your ways into peoples life.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
27 Apr 12
hello friend,
well there are so many around us, they just wear the mask of friendship and be with us, until all their needs are fulfilled and all their work is done. once their needs are fulfilled , we cant find them nearby, they just disappear. I personally saw so many of them who used me , just to get their work done, or just because they dont have anyone with them at that point of time, as need some company. But once i noticed all this, i just kept them away, because , they are not worth of my friendship...
@easygameruk (15)
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27 Apr 12
The ones that stand with you in hardship or if you need help you can call them proper friends but the that you call fake friends they are more like acquaintances. People who you would talk to but just not pally with them as you are with your true friends.
@AsianBelle (75)
• South Africa
27 Apr 12
When I was younger, I had a few. They were only around when I was up to something fun. If I were in trouble, they were nowhere to be seen. I didn't know how to deal with that, so I continued helping and doing anything to keep the friendship. Basically, I was a doormat back then. As I grew much older and life started to make more sense to me, I decided enough is enough. Without giving a long explanation, I told those very few so-called friends of mine that I could not longer be the type of friend they wanted/needed me to be.
I can't tell you how relieved I was after I made that decision. It felt as if a heavy weight was lifted off my shoulder. From there onwards, I learned that quality is way better than quantity. I met great people that until this day, have been my true friends, some of them, I have yet to meet in person!
When caught in a situation such as this, Lauren, the best thing to do is to sit back, re-evaluate what is important to you (which I know you have, if not, you wouldn't have started a thread), and put yourself above everyone else. You have to love yourself, in order to love others. Thus, if you keep letting friends take advantage of you, then you wouldn't have quality friends.
I hope this helps.
